n****i
发帖数: 214 | 1 出来乍到，看到不少谈论孩子天才的帖子，好像大家都很在意自己孩子是不是天才，而
且从他们很小就是。
说说我的看法。
Success usually depends a lot on one's talent, but education shouldn't be.
1. Talent is usually born. Education is about what to do after birth.
Finding a talent is important, but the hard part and essence of post-birth
education is about effort. If you have talent, great, how do you develop it
with efforts / hardwork? If you don't have a a talent, then all the more
reason hard work is needed.
2. If we as parents focus too much on praising their talents, we send a
signal to them: If you are not talented like some other kid, you are
inferior. But most kids are not talented, this message will actual deter
their confidence because they are not talented?
3. If a kid does have talent, emphasis on talent tells them they are great
because of their talents. What about areas that they are not talented? What
if they need to compete with someone even more talented? Should they give up?
Therefore, I think focusing on efforts is much more important. We try to
find their talents if any. If none, no problem. But no matter what, they
need to learn to work hard. Success may or may not come from talents (
talents make success easier), but no success can come without hardwork. We
cannot give them talents after they are born already, but we can give them a
habit of hardwork.
BTW, I learned these from the book "Mindset", and also my personal
experiences. Really good book.
没有要教育和说服的目的。大家都是成熟的家长，有成熟的人生观和教育观。我只是一
家之言，从多年的经验和一些阅读中总结而来，目的是抛砖引玉，给自己的教育观一些
debate to get different perspectives，同时也希望能给其他家长们一些参考。
中文太慢，我就中英混搭了。 | u*****a
发帖数: 6276 | | n****i
发帖数: 214 | 3 加一点：
从这个角度讲，如果有些家长想望子成龙，功利，那有有什么错呢？所谓望子成龙，其
实是希望孩子成功，难道人不应该希望自己成功吗？不过是事业还是做人，不管是孩子
还是我们自己。
我认为，问题不是应不应该功利的望子成龙和爬藤，而是怎样爬:如果你有天才，那就
努力工作发挥它；如果你没有天才，那就更加努力做你能做到的。能爬上当然好，没有
爬上，你更要学会为了一个目标而努力，即使达不到目标，你还是会有其他收获。而没
有目标，你大概也不会有什么收获。 | t*c
发帖数: 8291 | 4 同意。 重要性方面，effort >> talents
当然effort要放对地方，要注意效率。
it
【在 n****i 的大作中提到】
: 出来乍到，看到不少谈论孩子天才的帖子，好像大家都很在意自己孩子是不是天才，而
: 且从他们很小就是。
: 说说我的看法。
: Success usually depends a lot on one's talent, but education shouldn't be.
: 1. Talent is usually born. Education is about what to do after birth.
: Finding a talent is important, but the hard part and essence of post-birth
: education is about effort. If you have talent, great, how do you develop it
: with efforts / hardwork? If you don't have a a talent, then all the more
: reason hard work is needed.
: 2. If we as parents focus too much on praising their talents, we send a
| i**e
发帖数: 19242 | 5 talents are given
they will show or shine through, no need to wear a pair of special glasses
to "find" them
talented or not
effort is a must | d****g
发帖数: 7460 | 6 恩。基本是英文版的我的路数。
进一步讲的话，非天才要注重EFFORT，更要注重＂方法论＂。或者叫学习的能力。善于
总结，接纳，改善＂学习方法＂的人，具有＂智商测试＂之外的聪明。（其实和潮水贴
的那个好几个圈的理论一致）。这个聪明往往是可以夸领域的。。。
好比游泳。人高马大是天才。但天才不都游的快。游的快的还得是姿势好的。能调整＂
姿势＂是个能力，知道去调整到什么＂姿势＂是见识。都很重要的。
然后还有＂心性＂。彻底百花齐放，没的比高下了。。。
我觉得我一向还比较注意培养心性和方法。呵呵
【在 u*****a 的大作中提到】
: dcbang 有人聊天了。
| u*****a
发帖数: 6276 | 7 高。
【在 d****g 的大作中提到】
: 恩。基本是英文版的我的路数。
: 进一步讲的话，非天才要注重EFFORT，更要注重＂方法论＂。或者叫学习的能力。善于
: 总结，接纳，改善＂学习方法＂的人，具有＂智商测试＂之外的聪明。（其实和潮水贴
: 的那个好几个圈的理论一致）。这个聪明往往是可以夸领域的。。。
: 好比游泳。人高马大是天才。但天才不都游的快。游的快的还得是姿势好的。能调整＂
: 姿势＂是个能力，知道去调整到什么＂姿势＂是见识。都很重要的。
: 然后还有＂心性＂。彻底百花齐放，没的比高下了。。。
: 我觉得我一向还比较注意培养心性和方法。呵呵
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