b*******r
发帖数: 1073 | 1 before, when arguing with my wife (which happened a few times), I said to
my wife and also to myself:
"don't use big words. don't use selfish, don't use always, don't use...
just focus on the small things first, I don't understand selfish unless you
let me know what it does exactly mean "
it seems working~ |
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f********e
发帖数: 144 | 2 英文翻译来了：
Title：The most selfish Messi leads him to behave like a star whimsical
Barcelona need to Leo Messi. 's the imagination and the soul of the Catalan
team. Without the Argentine game, Barca team suffers, is a different one, is
mutated in a team to vulgar, but everything has a limit and some are
beginning to tire of enduring vagaries and situations that lead to one and
measure of differently. Leo Messi is showing his selfish side in recent
weeks, which has led to berate fellow technicians an... 阅读全帖 |
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Y*****2
发帖数: 38613 | 3 there is a line between self providing happiness and selfishness...
if your happiness is causing other people to be unhappy especially your
loved one then you are just being selfish...
human's live in a society where people interact with each other, so people's
actions and behaviors cause consequences and may effect other people's mood
.
it is very unrealistic to say that you can just be happy on your own without
interference from other people, unless you don't have any expectations,
goals, and ... 阅读全帖 |
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D*******l
发帖数: 5462 | 4 没必要，搞成这样我就成了selfish了，selfish喜欢怎么打我不反对，别进来我坐的台
就好了。 |
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发帖数: 141625 | 5 我也听过一些。还有救护完全没有关系的陌生人的。以前徐良啊老山英雄啊等战地英雄
来学校做讲座，我印象很深的是说战场上最看出一个人的本性。说人都有selfless和
selfish这两种本性，战场上有的人为救战友而牺牲，之前根本没时间考虑，完全是出
自本能。也有人畏缩怕死把战友扔下，也是出自本能。就是有的人selfless本能更强，
有的人selfish本能更强。 |
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b*********k
发帖数: 35031 | 6 来自主题: LeisureTime版 - 梁公启超 这个问题我以前也和别人争论过，我个人觉得，不管这些富人捐赠的目的里避税占多大
比重，捐款的大头还是用于了慈善，需要帮助的人们还是因此受益很多。如果是这样的
话，他为了避税也罢，政治野心也罢，对于慈善业能够切实帮助到的人们来说，都不重
要。
如果他能一直坚持一辈子这么做，那么谁也不能称他为伪善。或者说，这种所谓的伪善
，比自命高洁但是没有条件或者没有动力做慈善的人，能够实际帮助到的人更多。
unselfish love是不是存在，近期我和一个朋友看完HP7还讨论过.他说snape对harry的
感情是selfish的，我说如果snape对harry好，能够让lily爱上snape，那么我承认
snape对harry的感情是selfish的，可是lily已经死了。harry身上有一半snape情敌的
血液，只是有一双lily的眼睛，所以snape对harry的感情经常是在挣扎之中，也更因为
这种挣扎，让他的付出显得格外让人敬佩。况且snape本人的信仰就和lily不同，他更
偏向dark，背叛自己生来的信仰，在极度危险之中，长时间地保护自己的爱人和情敌所
生的孩子，这个孩子还一直恨自己入骨... 阅读全帖 |
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s**a
发帖数: 8648 | 7 觉得还是应该给你写个回答，你这个帖子主要受的影响是the selfish gene一类的书吗
？这个问题其实很多人在思考，比如有本书 the robot's rebellion: finding
meaning in the age of Darwin。你可以搜搜amazon的评价。主要的论点是人有能力不
受基因控制，人还有能力不受meme控制。
即使在the selfish gene当中，dawkins也指出了人也许是唯一可以控制自己基因倾向
的动物。
关于民族主义作为一个meme是不是应该唾弃，这个必须历史的来看。对于基因决定论，
有很多学科都做出了思考。所以绝望不是唯一的答案。你有兴趣可以在版面上讨论。 |
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b***e
发帖数: 15201 | 8 【 以下文字转载自 Dreamer 讨论区 】
发信人: Dreamer (不要问我从哪里来), 信区: Dreamer
标 题: 忍到极限了，爆发了！
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Mon Sep 24 10:29:22 2012, 美东)
今天早上问老公要不要下下周和我和孩子一起去动物园（另外一个城市的，开车2小时
，我们是有活动必须要去）。他就又说不去，why? 就因为他不想。
于是我平时攒了很久的怒火终于爆发了！说他selfish, lazy.（注，2人都讲中文的，
手机短信用的英文）
我说, you just want to get drunk with your friends, never wants to show up
in our family events.他说我总是围着孩子转，我说那他当初就不该有孩子，不该有
family。
然后他还说他很生气，表示不再回我的短信了，我就说:
Ok, you do whatever you "like". At certain point, nobody wants to live with
you selfish guy!... 阅读全帖 |
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w****e
发帖数: 2210 | 9 Wrong.
Everybody is selfish. Every singer is unexceptional.
Lin just hide his selfish very carefully, but huang is that kind of person
who doesn't know how to hide everything. |
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z*i
发帖数: 58873 | 10 没必要极端化，
There are always two kind of writers, those who write for people they care
and those who write for themselves.
In a sense, they are both selfish. Writing itself is a very selfish thing. |
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T*****e
发帖数: 47 | 11 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M1ieWRclcfs
My diplomacy, my security, my hope and my ice-cream,
My tomorrow and my temperature, my lips and my selfishness,
My cigarette, my uncertainty, my penetration,
My notebook and my limit, my importance and my glycerine,
My customer, my function, my lawlessness, my charm,
My hunger, my refusal, my tissue and my vodka,
My omission, my ability, my telephone and my parlour,
My relaxing, my distress, my bedroom, my cassette,
My diction and my pulse, my fortune ... 阅读全帖 |
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G***G
发帖数: 16778 | 12 he forgot to mention his living in the u.s. was supported by chinese
government which he never loved. If everyone uses this money to stay in the
u.s.
and not back to build his own country, who can have enough money to support
more young people going abroad for studying and practicing.
In his autobibilography, he forgot to mention and describe his selfishness.
biology tells us that every gene is selfish. How many genes does he have
in his body? |
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d*********u
发帖数: 8521 | 13 I'm a little bit selfish. I always dedicate myself selfishly until the tasks
are completed. I'm also a little bit picky. I always emphasize work
schedule and submits work on time. I know both are my weaknesses but the
good thing is my boss can always trust my work and depend on my consistency. |
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l*****a
发帖数: 408 | 14 The title of your story makes me remember another story. The guy found his
wife was working as a prostitute.
He wants to beat his wife. Then his wife said as husband did not financially
support wife, how can he prevent
her to be prostitute. Actually it is normal, if husband or boyfriend does
not want to support the girl, why
prevent her to find another man to support her? How selfish he is? There is
nothing about love, this is want to
kill this girl and extremely selfish. |
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r***u
发帖数: 1272 | 15 这个酒店，事先的设计、打地基、预制件生产肯定不止6天。贴视频也是个标题党，“
第一天”明显是两天，从开始工作到天黑，一共是20个小时。估计是第一天夜里没加班
，和第二天早上连一起了。而且可以注意里面基本上一个昼夜交替是20小时，说明一天
还休息了4个小时。视频里也没说是连续工作或者六天建成。所以全部时间应该是7天到
8天。工作时间是136.5小时。但是能这样建起来还是很令人惊讶的。远大公司还在世博
会上面花了24小时建造了一栋展示楼，那个有24小时连续视频。
下面是Youtube上外国人的部分评价。里面当然有一些是嘲笑中国产品质量低下的。但
是更多的是惊讶。搞笑评论也很多。欧美发达国家因为建筑项目少，所以市场养不起太
多的建筑工人，所以建筑的时候花费时间总是特别长。很多欧美居民对此非常不满。所
以建筑速度虽然值得自豪，却也并不是说我们比欧美强很多。这一点要客观看待。但终
归来说，中国人现在吃苦耐劳的本色仍然非常强大。
外国人的自嘲看看就好，每个国家的人都看自己国家不顺眼。哈哈。
事先声明，翻译是别人做的。以下节选比较有意思的，重复的就不要了。蓝色是我的评
论。红色是我觉得比较搞笑的。不... 阅读全帖 |
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c******o
发帖数: 1184 | 16 Will China stay on course?
By Fareed Zakaria, CNN
Events in the Middle East and North Africa are of historic importance, but
the even bigger, long-term story is the rise of China. What path will it
choose at home and abroad in the years ahead?
For decades there has been debate at the highest levels of the Chinese
government about how much to modernize politically to ensure growth and
stave off revolution.
It’s notoriously difficult to analyze the inner workings off the Chinese
Communist Party. ... 阅读全帖 |
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T***U
发帖数: 2265 | 17 看看白人和东亚女人的混血儿子,在美国生存的悲惨心理自白
你们就知道, LZ讲的种族歧视,绝对是美国这个社会的黑暗现实,立国以来,就没什么根本改变.
也给那些外F的看看, 以后的小孩,两面不是人,会面对怎样的自我
http://stuffeurasianslike.wordpress.com/
Why did my Asian Tiger mom have to marry my white dad?
June 19, 2011 by Stuff Eurasian Males Like
Was my mom clinically insane to marry a white man or was she just incredibly
callous and selfish? Perhaps she planned on having cute Eurasian daughters
who could easily mate with white dudes. Well she badly miscalculated.
Instead shes stuck with Asian-loo... 阅读全帖 |
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A***6
发帖数: 243 | 18 Private letters were often opened in China. Some people do not have same
understanding of privacy. Some can be taught to respect others if they know
it is no longer acceptable, while others will never change. At lease he is
open. He may also think the relationship is in different level than you
think.
If the person is not selfish, willing to learn to respect others, then he
can be improved. If the person is selfish, he will always be willing to harm
you for his own interest. |
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A***6
发帖数: 243 | 19 来自主题: WaterWorld版 - 选哪一个好 1 Chemistry, especially long term.
2 Compatibility. Are you both selfish or both respecting others, for example
. Can you trust each other, or prepared to both go outside the marriage to
look for comfort? Method of communication can change but you cannot make a
selfish person trust worthy.
3 Are you prepared to make sacrifice for any of them? If not, you probably
have not found the right person. |
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c********t
发帖数: 4527 | 20 Totally agree
And that's a format of extreme selfish (requires other people to be selfish-
less)
And the scary part is that he will never realize anything wrong with himself
(or admit his weakness) and he is always right about it.
See, he pushed his wife to be a doctor, how could it ever be wrong? to be a
doctor?
his |
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i*****a
发帖数: 7272 | 21 其实他二位拉拉杂杂一大堆，我只对其中的一个点最有兴趣--现在的学生是不是选择上
更保守，更趋稳。我觉得HELLER这几段写得不错。大意就是，他赞同DERESIEWICZ说的
现在的学生更趋稳，可是那是因为今时不同往日，常青疼也不是天之骄子了，工作市场
竞争激烈，尤其是贫民子弟，一家人指着他，没有这个余地考虑太多。中产，尤其是
UPPER MIDDLE CLASS (这个怎么翻？），可以琢磨琢磨这个事：
Deresiewicz is right that today’s college students are more risk-averse.
That’s partly because there’s much more risk to be averse to. A Yalie of
the Nick Carraway generation could afford to “stand outside the world for a
few years,” as Deresiewicz puts it. It cost nothing: a Wall Street job
awai... 阅读全帖 |
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z*i
发帖数: 58873 | 22 故事开始在上世纪中期Maine一个安静的小镇子里。Jaime是个小孩子，家里是个幸福的
新教小康家庭，父亲母亲辛勤慈祥，兄弟姐妹相亲相爱，每周末雷打不动的去Church，
孩子们周四还额外参加Young Christian的活动。Charlie是这个Church的年轻牧师，生
活虽然清贫，但是勤俭热情有爱乐观，而且喜欢关于电的科学。Jaime 和 Charlie 成
了关系很好的忘年交，可不幸的是有一天Charlie的妻子和孩子惨遭车祸身亡。沉重的
打击之下他开始怀疑上帝，最终在一次公开的渎神演讲后被fire掉离开了。而Jaime则
慢慢长大，成了一名摇滚乐手。 跟那个年代的所有摇滚乐手一样，Jaime东奔西跑，而
且染上了毒瘾，生活越来越糟，越陷越深，直到有一天在中部的某个country fair上重
新遇见Charlie，两个人的轨迹又重新卷在了一起……
东西方都有温水煮青蛙的说法。“You put it in cold water, then start turning
up the heat. If you do it gradually, the frog is too st... 阅读全帖 |
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b*s
发帖数: 82482 | 23 确保自己的DNA序列的不朽，当然是极度selfish……
养孩子跟being selfish有什么关系？ |
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f*****g
发帖数: 9098 | 24 【 以下文字转载自 Dreamer 讨论区 】
发信人: falling (旋转坠落), 信区: Dreamer
标 题: 推荐一篇文章
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Mon Jan 16 00:48:35 2012, 美东)
http://geniustypes.com/signs_of_insecurity/
Signs of Insecurity by Brian Lee
One of the greatest challenges we face in our lifetimes is becoming
comfortable in our own skin. A person who is secure with himself is much
more likely to achieve success, have meaningful relationships, and be
respected by others.
A person who is insecure finds difficulty in many aspects of life. Since
mo... 阅读全帖 |
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w***s
发帖数: 7132 | 25 标题：看看米国人民的回帖水平。 长沙六天建起十五层旅馆，youtube视频回帖。评论
：
评论：
wazham2 17 小时之前
everything is possible in Japan
在日本真是一切皆有可能 ~
allin1readerwriter 17 小时之前 @wazham2
It’’s Chinese... learn to differentiate your Asians fool.
这个是中国……学学怎么分辨亚洲人吧白痴。
dinmagic 17 小时之前 @wazham2
This is China.
这个是中国。
LuizLHAM 16 小时之前 @wazham2?
china, dude! china! ！
这是中国，老兄！中国！！
taroliw 4 天之前 4 推荐
A 15-story building /done/ in SIX days?? Wow... just WOW.
15 层高的建筑 6 天完工？？哇靠！。。。除了哇靠真不知该说啥好。
ocelotrevs 4 天之前 3 推荐
That’’s kinda of scary, you c... 阅读全帖 |
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p*e
发帖数: 6785 | 26 【 以下文字转载自 Military 讨论区 】
发信人: BlackMage (黑魔导师比比), 信区: Military
标 题: 外国男友评：中国女友最爱吐槽的十句话
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Thu Aug 28 18:22:05 2014, 美东)
那些和非华裔的男生交往的华人女孩常常会对各种事情吐槽，让她们的男友感到郁闷—
—她们吐槽的原因往往是出于文化差异。一位读者向我们的网络论坛寄了一份清单，列
举了他认为中国女友最爱吐槽的十句话。
1. You don't carry my handbag!
你不帮我拎包!
Most foreign boyfriends believe that carrying a handbag of a girlfriend is
basically the opposite of manliness. But this is a very common demand of
Chinese girlfriends. Chinese girls usually carry useless and unnecessary
stuff in ... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 1 | 27 嘿嘿嘿嘿~
Freakonomics
Monkey Business
By STEPHEN J. DUBNER and STEVEN D. LEVITT
Published: June 5, 2005
Keith Chen's Monkey Research
Adam Smith, the founder of classical economics, was certain that humankind's
knack for monetary exchange belonged to humankind alone. ''Nobody ever saw
a dog make a fair and deliberate exchange of one bone for another with
another dog,'' he wrote. ''Nobody ever saw one animal by its gestures and
natural cries signify to another, this is mine, that yours; I am willing ... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 1938 | 28 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
woshixiaogou (woshixiaogou) 于 (Wed Nov 10 09:30:54 2010, 美东) 提到:
有家庭后，就不再是为自己一个人活了，不可能再沉溺于自己喜欢做的事情中了。——
自私的、喜欢享受生活的人要先为自己活，腻了，准备settle down了，才应该结婚，
不然会觉得很亏，心理一旦不平衡，对自己对他人都不好。
主要难关有三点：
1. 父母的压力：我是这样处理的，多和他们沟通，告诉他们，婚姻并非会给每个人都
带来幸福。举一些身边真实的亲戚朋友的反面例子：最后如果离婚，还不如单身会经历
那么多伤害。多向他们展示自己现在快乐的生活！
2. 孤单：想通过婚姻来逃避孤单本身就是错误的！研究显示男人在结婚后更孤单（具
体数据我懒得找了），如果你是个loner，结婚后一样还是个loner。真正解决孤单的方
法是多交朋友，培养健康的心态。我忘了哪本心理学教材有专门一章讲孤单的。
3. 性：这个可以通过找男女朋友解决——但是一开始就要告诉对方，自己不想settle
down，这... 阅读全帖 |
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S*********f
发帖数: 1938 | 29 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
abc111 (不要问我是谁) 于 (Mon Aug 23 19:24:58 2010, 美东) 提到:
比如老是约你吃饭看电影出去玩什么的,年少的时候以为这就算是追求你了,来这里以后
才发现不少男生只是想骗你上床或占点便宜之类的。
在没有表白的情况下，有什么招可以分辨人家是要向serious relationship发展，还是
只想玩玩而已？要是后者就不奉陪了
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commoner (common) 于 (Mon Aug 23 19:56:34 2010, 美东) 提到:
Some guys would say anything sweet to get into your pants.
What you need is to be firm, don't let him get physical too quickly. If a
guy is truly falling for you, he will r... 阅读全帖 |
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G******U
发帖数: 4211 | 30 Bill Zeller
I have the urge to declare my sanity and justify my actions, but I assume I'
ll never be able to convince anyone that this was the right decision. Maybe
it's true that anyone who does this is insane by definition, but I can at
least explain my reasoning. I considered not writing any of this because of
how personal it is, but I like tying up loose ends and don't want people to
wonder why I did this. Since I've never spoken to anyone about what happened
to me, people would likely draw ... 阅读全帖 |
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L********r
发帖数: 758 | 31 It's simple.
Love the other as best as you can. Love and the will to love will keep
helping you grow to a better person, and will be the most positive
influencing factor you can exert on your partner.
Don't fear getting hurt and start acting selfishly. You will have plenty
time to feel the pain and decide what to do when it actually happens. Do not
worry about things that haven't happened yet, and live fearlessly and
optimistically.
If you were wise and picked a decent partner, the above will be... 阅读全帖 |
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