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w****u
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春节就要到了,可是一点心情都没有。最近运气很差,可以说坏透了。
去年感恩节的那天,工作丢了。家里两个孩子,一个今年上大学。
更糟糕的是:去年一月我们从Mississippi 搬到Houston,我们有个小房子在
Mississippi,在Market
卖了四个月,没有卖掉。于去年五月一号,正式租出去。因为考虑到远程管理很不方便
,我们特地hire a property manager.
去年十二月中,房东说,there is leaking in the master bathroom shower,cause
mold to grow near the shower door.我们房子每年都有 Termite inspection。所以
我们就让他们派人去看看怎么回事.Termite company 的人看完后,建议做个mold test
。当时the property manager 和房东都要求做这个测试。我们也没有想太多,就出钱
做了这个mold test. 接下来,噩梦就来了。
一月13号mold test 结果出来:
1. Hyphae: common, everywhe... 阅读全帖
v*****r
发帖数: 2325
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来自主题: Food版 - choice of cookware
以前都没注意。听人说那种不粘的带teflon的不好。查了一下, non-stick coating
teflon 需要用PFOA
nonstick coatings "could reach 700 degrees Fahrenheit in as little as 3-5
minutes, releasing 15 toxic gases and chemicals, including two carcinogens."
The release of toxic fumes from nonstick cookware is known to kill pet
birds at much lower temperatures—as low as 464 degrees Fahrenheit,
according to the EWG.
问题在于中国人炒菜多, 有时粗心导致过热。所以一旦有过过热以后我就不想用了。
还有那种rice cooker, 看上去也是那种teflon的 no-stick coating, 时间长了, 几
年下来, 看上去就有些chipping.
考虑那种al... 阅读全帖
f****a
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来自主题: Food版 - 我吃牛油果中毒了
Solanine poisoning (POTATOES/TOMATOES): nausea, diarrhea, vomiting, stomach
cramps, burning of the throat, cardiac dysrhythmia, nightmare, headache,
dizziness, hallucinations, loss of sensation, paralysis, fever, jaundice,
dilated pupils, hypothermia and death have been reported. In large
quantities, solanine poisoning can cause death.
//////////////////// full quote below ///////////////////////
"solanine" wikipedia
Solanine is a glycoalkaloid poison found in species of the nightshade family
(S... 阅读全帖
G*********2
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来自主题: Food版 - 大家用non-stick的锅吗?
Well, if you go to Calphalon's website, and read the product description
carefully, you should see that, the hard-anodized aluminum is just for
exterior; and for the Calphalon Simply Non-Stick line, it uses 2-layer non-
stick coating, plus it is not dishwasher safe, oven safe only to 400 F, and
a 10 year warranty - all the indications of a not so robust coating; whiles
their other better lines of products have 3-layer coating, dishwasher safe,
oven safe to 500 F, and lifetime warranty.
So, this ... 阅读全帖
e****g
发帖数: 469
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来自主题: Investment版 - 真正的考验即将到临
Of course it will sell. Even if there are no private investors, those banks
will manage to create some Hedge Funds to unload each other's toxic assets.
Most banks will suck taxpayers' blood again. Why would they suffer at all?
Most likely, most of the toxic assets are dumped to the taxpayers. You do
the math.
M********r
发帖数: 278
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来自主题: Investment版 - VWO
那话怎么说来着one man's trash is another's treasure. one man's toxic waste
is another man's potpourri.
anyway, I have expressed similar concerns over the china weighting in EM
indices. The problem is in the near future they will not only increase china
exposure from 25% to 50% but also start to include the toxic a-share. The
FTSE EM index, which is the benchmark for VWO, has already started doing
this. MSCI EEM has not decided to follow but it's just a matter of when. I
am quite comfortable with the cu... 阅读全帖
c**l
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来自主题: Investment版 - VWO
Question is other EM may not be any less "toxic" than A-share.
[在 MinaHarker (Ms Harker) 的大作中提到:]
:那话怎么说来着one man's trash is another's treasure. one man's
toxic waste
:is another man's potpourri.
:...........
c*t
发帖数: 32
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来自主题: JobHunting版 - Repost - Job opening in Iowa (转载)
【 以下文字转载自 Environmental 讨论区 】
发信人: cyt (老五), 信区: Environmental
标 题: Repost - Job opening in Iowa
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Fri Feb 8 16:09:45 2013, 美东)
我中午发的工作信息怎么被删了?
Whoever deleted it, and wants to delete it again, please let me know which
role I violated? I just want to help my previous employer to spread the
word and help some recent graduates in Analytical Chemistry and /or
Environmental Chemistry finding their first 'real' job.
Thanks!
______________________________________
State Hygienic Labora... 阅读全帖
w**z
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http://www.linkedin.com/today/post/article/20131217070749-52594
IVO, a programmer: Ivo Sega here.
CAROL, a company recruiter: Hi Ivo! It's Carol from Vector Industries.
Thanks again for coming out to meet everyone last week. Josh, our CTO, was
really happy to meet you.
IVO: No problem. I was happy to meet him too. You've got some interesting
projects going on. It could be a lot of fun to tackle one of them.
CAROL: I'm glad to hear it. Can you come back and meet more of our team next
Tuesday at t... 阅读全帖
s*******s
发帖数: 9926
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来自主题: JobHunting版 - 两个offer选择中,北加和德州
问一个简单的问题 下面几个州 哪一个州黑人加上老墨占人口一半以上
(1)纽约州 (2)加州 (3)德州 (4)伊利诺州 (5)佛罗里达州
正确答案只有一个 这是单选题
这里面唯一正确的答案就只有德州超过50%以上
http://quickfacts.census.gov/qfd/states/48000.html
你答对了吗?
这个答案十个中国人恐怕有九个都是答错的
德州前景堪忧 下面是德州真实的现况
Texas on the Brink
A handful of highlights/lowlights:
Education
‧ Elementary and Secondary Public School Enrollment: 2nd
‧ Average Salary of Public School Teachers: 31st
‧ Percentage of Population Graduated from High School: 50th
State of the Child
‧ Percent of Uninsured C... 阅读全帖
T*******e
发帖数: 4928
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来自主题: JobHunting版 - 惊闻亚麻继续迫害跳楼员工
作为旁观者,本来不想说话。还是说几句吧。
自杀或有自杀倾向的人会被放进suicide watch之类的监护,
主要是怕他继续有过激行为。如果只是暂时监护起来,
还不能说明亚麻继续迫害跳楼员工。
如果那个员工不想以toxic work environment造成巨大
精神伤害而告amazon的话,他应该先冷静下来,不要让
人认为他还会有任何过激行为的想法。然后尽早跟亚麻
协商。
如果那个员工想以toxic work environment造成巨大精神
伤害而告amazon的话,那就多在医院里住几天说明精神
伤害重大。然后由朋友家人替他找律师。
除非amazon能说明那个员工在入职amazon之前就有精神
病史(这个比较难,因为那个员工以前应该没有看过精神病
方面的医生,也没有处方药,家庭病史或是发病记录),
所以amazon应该不希望证明员工现在突然精神失常了,因为
那岂不是很难撇清amazon的关系。亚麻现在最希望的应该
是息事宁人。
那个员工要注意言行,包括他的中文发言都要注意。
美国医院法院律师警局都不缺懂中文的人。
那个员工的朋友和同事,多开解他。年... 阅读全帖
c*******a
发帖数: 1879
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来自主题: JobHunting版 - 弯曲公司的工作环境最
TOXIC的是哪家?
在glass door上经常看到员工评论这家那家toxic environment .

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An optimistic person with a positive outlook on life
Toxic的人会通过抱怨和悲观把本来也许正常的工作和生活变得miserable,甚至把工作
环境变得toxic。
积极、乐观这种正能量虽然不能解决当下某个实际的问题,但长期一定对环境和生活有
积极的作用。
life is short, 传播正能量是一天,咒骂怨念是一天,要怎么过选择权在你手里 :)
glhf
a********r
发帖数: 193
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#
Continuous failure of air conditioning coils, or HVAC units beyond anything
normal. Copper AC coils have turned black, or a grayish black.
#
Oven, or stove elements, or refrigerator coils may have failed a number of
times.
#
Failure of electrical appliances, computer, TV sets, radios, DVD players,
smoke detectors, microwave information display panels may have failed.
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Corroded, or black electrical wiring.
#
High end silver jewelry, or silver plated utensils may be tarnished.
#
Light bulbs in... 阅读全帖
d********a
发帖数: 9567
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来自主题: Living版 - 请叫一种杀杂草的(浓缩的)

效,到土地里就基本无效了。
http://tangergreen.com/roundup-is-toxic-stop-spraying-today/
What is Roundup?
Roundup has been aggressively marketed to homeowners, gardeners, landscapers
and farmers since its unfortunate invention in 1976. It is a highly toxic
herbicide, detrimental to the environment, plant life, animal life and the
human species. Non-Monsanto-conducted studies have shown us that Roundup
causes the following serious harms:
Liver damage
50% increase of miscarriage in pregnant women expos... 阅读全帖
d********a
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来自主题: Living版 - 请叫一种杀杂草的(浓缩的)

毒药,店里不该卖,应该整个禁掉。很多毒性比你说的差的农药都禁掉了。
毒药和毒性你分的清吗?
Roundup: Label - Keep out of reach of children, harmful if swallowed, avoid
contact with eyes or prolonged contact with skin. Remove clothing if
contaminated.
The Women’s Cancer Resource Center (WCRC) and CHOSE (Coalition for a
Healthy Oakland School Environment), showed that chemicals such as Round-Up
(glyphosate) can result in reproductive damage as well as damage to the
kidney and liver, and some studies show a link between the chemical and
cance... 阅读全帖
a**e
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来自主题: Living版 - 三黄包求赶蚂蚁神器!
NOTE, both Bifenthrin and Permethrin are extremely toxic to cats, even
though they are of low toxicity for most mammals. So, do NOT use them if you
have cats at home.
G****e
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发信人: heverlee (有所思), 信区: Arizona
标 题: Re: 提供良方--如何杀绝各种蚂蚁,用Borax (转载)
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Fri Apr 11 13:18:34 2014, 美东)
不错,在amazon看到了这个诱杀蚂蚁的办法
Mix equal parts sugar and this product and place in a container that you can
secure the top of. Sugar attracts the ants to this source. Poke holes in
the bottom of the containers so the ants can enter to ingest the product.
They will eat it and carry it back to the nest where it will either kill
them or render them infertile, there are two schools of thought ... 阅读全帖
s**********y
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Agent 发来这个表。以前买房没有这个。
看起来并不是告诉我们这个房子有没有mold,而是像个例行通告。我的理解不知道是否
正确? 谢谢。
COLORADO MOLD DISCLOSURE ADDENDUM
1.Properties in Colorado may have either toxic (harmful) or non-toxic (not
harmful) mold.
2.There is a good probability that mold exists in the next property that you
will buy or rent.
3.Generally, new homeowner’s and renter’s insurance policies are excluding
loss due to mold.
4.Some types of mold can cause serious health problems and even death for
certain individuals.
5.Not all types of... 阅读全帖
w*********l
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来自主题: Medicine版 - 请教心脏支架的选择
普通球囊, restenosis rate 30%
BMS, restenosis rate 10 to 20%
DES, less than couple of percent.
late stage thrombsis is a issue, but recent DES all have good
biocompatibility
cypher is very bad, high inflamation, high metal to artery ratio, only thing
is it's the first.
boston scientific Taxus is not good either, since drug it used is cyto-toxic
, not cyto-static.
Metronic and Abbott stent all good, which used rapamycin derivative, which
is cto-static, means, not that toxic to cells.
Bill clinton use... 阅读全帖
g******4
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【 以下文字转载自 Parenting 讨论区 】
发信人: gogo2004 (挑灯看剑), 信区: Parenting
标 题: 小孩家长必看::[视频] 上百万只蜜蜂离奇死亡,咋回事? (转载)
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Mon Jan 13 22:47:33 2014, 美东)
--------------
看来,首先不能让小孩吃蜂蜜
==========================
Pesticides
Further information: Pesticide toxicity to bees, Imidacloprid effects on bee
population, and Bees and toxic chemicals
According to the U.S. Department of Agriculture, pesticides may be
contributing to CCD.[49] Scientists have long been concerned that pesticides
and possibly some fungi... 阅读全帖
S**********l
发帖数: 3835
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来自主题: NextGeneration版 - Walmart的99块的crib和changing table set好吗
这个床貌似不是non-toxic finish,因为他家其他款有写可以选择non-toxic finish,这
个连写都没写。。。
M******7
发帖数: 254
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来自主题: NextGeneration版 - Sam's club 的这种playmat也有毒吗?
Do you mean this one? Thanks for sharing. I was thinking to use area rug,
but it seems that lost of area rug is made from toxic chemical stuff too.
Wool material is safer but some baby is allergic to it.
http://www.amazon.com/Dwinguler-Eco-friendly-Kids-Play-Mat/dp/B
The material seems safer - Manufactured with absolutely earth and baby
friendly material. 100% free from any toxic materials including pthalate
c******w
发帖数: 642
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来自主题: NextGeneration版 - 给学爬的宝宝求推荐铺地板的垫子
厂家claim它toxic free啊。不过我看了下review,有一个三星的说里面有PVC,算不得
toxic
free。我也是看中它无毒想给小宝进一块。
j******n
发帖数: 2644
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来自主题: NextGeneration版 - 宝宝打六个月疫苗加flu shot发烧经历
Come on, the possibility of high fever damaging brain and organs of infant
is much larger than the acetaminophen liver toxicity.
I did not see any infants suffer from acetaminophen liver toxicity, but I
have seen many infants with brain and heart damage due to fever.
So if you knew the fever will induce high temp, you should be careful to
control the temp.
v*****r
发帖数: 2325
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来自主题: NextGeneration版 - choice of cookware (转载)
【 以下文字转载自 Food 讨论区 】
发信人: voyiger (star trek), 信区: Food
标 题: choice of cookware
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Mon Apr 23 19:39:09 2012, 美东)
以前都没注意。听人说那种不粘的带teflon的不好。查了一下, non-stick coating
teflon 需要用PFOA
nonstick coatings "could reach 700 degrees Fahrenheit in as little as 3-5
minutes, releasing 15 toxic gases and chemicals, including two carcinogens."
The release of toxic fumes from nonstick cookware is known to kill pet
birds at much lower temperatures—as low as 464 degrees Fahrenheit,
according to the EW... 阅读全帖
k***r
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A few Chinese professionals (Physicians, Scientists, and experienced
parents) from ACMES (American Chinese Medical Exchange Society, http://www.acmes.net/) have organized a meaning event for professionals and families who are involved in Autism, Aspergers or PDD within the spectrum. If you know any parents (no matter they are Chinese or not), please help forward this event information, as it will benefit a kid and his families, and it may change parents' view and change a kid's life !!!
BIOMEDI... 阅读全帖
b*******y
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来自主题: NextGeneration版 - 关于宝宝的护肤霜
http://www.livestrong.com/article/221772-dangers-with-cetaphil-
DISCLAIMER According to a review of data published by the U.S. Agency for
Toxic Substances and Disease Registry, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control
and Prevention and the Australian Government Department of Health and Aging,
the three ingredients that Brue and Gelula said are toxic in Cetaphil
Moisturizing Cream are scientifically documented as safe for food and
cosmetic use at the levels approved.
g**********8
发帖数: 86
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来自主题: NextGeneration版 - 39天的宝宝出现病理性黄疸!
MM,我不想瞎安慰你,不过从我了解的有限的知识来看,超过15,或者数值上升特别快
,需要照蓝光(phototherapy)。你担心kernicterus核黄疸,可以理解。从下文来看,
持续超过25,需要担心。一般是非常非常高的情况才会造成。此外,你担心的肝炎、败
血症等宝宝吃睡精神状态都会有提示。胆道闭锁等大便会有灰白色等改变,即使暂时不
出现,这种情况也比较少见。当然,你的心情可以理解。我写这些,希望能帮助你的焦
虑。你家宝宝的情况,如果是母乳喂养,最有可能还是母乳性黄疸。办法是停止母乳一
个礼拜。然后可以重新喂母乳。重新喂不会产生黄疸了。书上写的。祝一切正常。
http://www.aafp.org/afp/2002/0215/p599.html
The exact bilirubin concentration associated with kernicterus in the healthy
term infant is unpredictable.1 Toxicity levels may vary among ethnic groups
, with maturation... 阅读全帖
s****a
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来自主题: NextGeneration版 - 还是关于小孩咳嗽
川贝琵琶膏 is toxic to kidney? how toxic?
N******0
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来自主题: NextGeneration版 - 还是关于小孩咳嗽
Re这个 怎么伤法 哪看到滴 不可能吧

川贝琵琶膏 is toxic to kidney? how toxic?
c*******u
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g******4
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【 以下文字转载自 Chicago 讨论区 】
发信人: gogo2004 (挑灯看剑), 信区: Chicago
标 题: 小孩家长必看::[视频] 上百万只蜜蜂离奇死亡,咋回事?
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Sun Jan 12 15:29:06 2014, 美东)
看来,首先不能让小孩吃蜂蜜
==========================
Pesticides
Further information: Pesticide toxicity to bees, Imidacloprid effects on bee
population, and Bees and toxic chemicals
According to the U.S. Department of Agriculture, pesticides may be
contributing to CCD.[49] Scientists have long been concerned that pesticides
and possibly some fungicides may have sub-letha... 阅读全帖
n********h
发帖数: 13135
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推荐一本书“toxic parent". 你妈妈,还有很多中国父母都是toxic parent.
v****x
发帖数: 980
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晕,太小心了。
不用memory foam还可以理解,用organic实在不能理解。娃又不是生活在真空里,到外
面去坐的椅子什么的不是都要接触非organic.

概可以写长篇论文了,咔咔。简单总结对下面两个问题的答案。
.Memory foam has to be the worst material ever invented...certainly for use
in a mattress. If you're looking for something to avoid, memory foam would
be it."
何利益与私心在里面。而且因为the mattress expert在我这里没有local showroom,
我最后并没有从他那里买,而是跟他说我要从local的Macy's买。可是在此之后,他依
然写非常详细的邮件回复我的各种问题。倒是Macy的sales lady,我都准备下单了,仍
然鼓动我买memory foam。后来我说小宝宝有时会cosleep,她才闭嘴。***
必须放flame retardant,所以这些床垫里面一样有toxic chemi... 阅读全帖
S**********l
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绝对没现在的辐射危害大。。。。
现在周边辐射已经超过切尔诺贝利当时的影响了。
切尔诺贝利当时9个月之后畸形儿曾经达到过background10倍以上。持续了差不多半年
。而且第一代的效果只有10%左右。就是说第二代expect 20%畸形。。。。

概可以写长篇论文了,咔咔。简单总结对下面两个问题的答案。
.Memory foam has to be the worst material ever invented...certainly for use
in a mattress. If you're looking for something to avoid, memory foam would
be it."
何利益与私心在里面。而且因为the mattress expert在我这里没有local showroom,
我最后并没有从他那里买,而是跟他说我要从local的Macy's买。可是在此之后,他依
然写非常详细的邮件回复我的各种问题。倒是Macy的sales lady,我都准备下单了,仍
然鼓动我买memory foam。后来我说小宝宝有时会cosleep,她才闭嘴。**... 阅读全帖
b**k
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作为塑料化工行业从业者(非PU,不过有很多东西是共通的),一开始看到此文,以为
又是随便一篇惊乍文,动手查了点文献。。看到确实有的会使用PBDE(Polybrominated
diphenyl ethers)。。即便此文内容绝非完全属实,仅PBDE一条,鉴于身为普通消费
者是没法鉴定的,以后不会再买,不过本来也不舒服,呵呵。另外PU的生产过程复杂,
有劣质厂家生产脏了吧唧的次品,普通消费者照样无法鉴别residue level。
话说回来,塑料中的FR agent本身在通常条件下没那么容易释放出来,一般是考虑
recycle和万一真着火时对环境和人的污染。凡是brominated or chlorinated FR,现
在亚洲的规定是连电器外壳中都不允许使用的。这点美国反而没那么严格。
最容易跑出来chemical的是液态的,以及固化后涂料、coating中的有机溶剂和其他小
分子,硅烷类添加剂等。总之急性中毒的可能性相对小,长期来讲还是尽量少接触。成
年人也能过敏。

概可以写长篇论文了,咔咔。简单总结对下面两个问题的答案。
.Memory foam has to be the wo... 阅读全帖
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Thanks for sharing

概可以写长篇论文了,咔咔。简单总结对下面两个问题的答案。
.Memory foam has to be the worst material ever invented...certainly for use
in a mattress. If you're looking for something to avoid, memory foam would
be it."
何利益与私心在里面。而且因为the mattress expert在我这里没有local showroom,
我最后并没有从他那里买,而是跟他说我要从local的Macy's买。可是在此之后,他依
然写非常详细的邮件回复我的各种问题。倒是Macy的sales lady,我都准备下单了,仍
然鼓动我买memory foam。后来我说小宝宝有时会cosleep,她才闭嘴。***
权衡
必须放flame retardant,所以这些床垫里面一样有toxic chemical. 除非可以拿到医
生的处方。网上的organic mattress without any flame ret... 阅读全帖
t**c
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怀孕的女性可以用memory foam的床垫吗?会对胎儿有不好的影响么?

概可以写长篇论文了,咔咔。简单总结对下面两个问题的答案。
.Memory foam has to be the worst material ever invented...certainly for use
in a mattress. If you're looking for something to avoid, memory foam would
be it."
何利益与私心在里面。而且因为the mattress expert在我这里没有local showroom,
我最后并没有从他那里买,而是跟他说我要从local的Macy's买。可是在此之后,他依
然写非常详细的邮件回复我的各种问题。倒是Macy的sales lady,我都准备下单了,仍
然鼓动我买memory foam。后来我说小宝宝有时会cosleep,她才闭嘴。***
权衡
必须放flame retardant,所以这些床垫里面一样有toxic chemical. 除非可以拿到医
生的处方。网上的organic mattress wit... 阅读全帖
G**i
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No clinical or research evidence prove the silver material (amalgam) had
mercury toxicity. This material is much better than white material (
composite). There are also some arguement about composite material release
some toxic monomer, but still no clinical or research evidence. Since the
primary molar will be replaced till 11-12 years old. It is better to use
silver material.
B******1
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A widely-accepted idea is that work and play cannot possibly be used in the
same sentence. Indeed, whoever thought they were must have heard wrong.
Work is something you do so that you have enough money for a decent method
of recreation. However, that is not always the case, as studies have shown
that interest in one’s subject quickens the rate of learning, which is true
if you think about it. If you find something intriguing, you would, at
any rate, be keener to learn about it. If you believe i... 阅读全帖
k***r
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A few Chinese professionals (Physicians, Scientists, and experienced
parents) from ACMES (American Chinese Medical Exchange Society, http://www.acmes.net/) have organized a meaning event for professionals and families who are involved in Autism, Aspergers or PDD within the spectrum. If you know any parents (no matter they are Chinese or not), please help forward this event information, as it will benefit a kid and his families, and it may change parents' view and change a kid's life !!!
BIOMEDI... 阅读全帖
b********i
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m**n
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l******a
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瞎扯把,就是我们父辈那一代,不是这样的都很多。
c****a
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r****z
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不知道,娃还小,整天嬉皮笑脸,还没看出中毒迹象。
不过我想这可能是慢性中毒,时间长了就起作用了。
我这不是努力学习想不带毒吗?
希望他就算中毒了也不深,小肝小肾什么的还能给排出去。
y****i
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这本书不是专门写给中国人看的吧?
话说40年前的美国家长,打孩子的也不少的。
y****i
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所以很难说这些社会道德规范到底是有毒还是正常。
i**e
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我的抑郁症和治疗(三)
作者:乔一
这篇很长,写好后犹豫了很久。我想,可能有人会很不赞同。但是,前两天,看到真妮
最新的博客文章“孩子心中最深的渴望” (http://blog.wenxuecity.com/myblog/30560/201301/13056.html),那些有自杀倾向的孩子,写给自己的话,或者说,灵魂深处发出的呐喊,和我曾经写下的如出一辙。还有什么比真实更有力量呢?我一定会写下去。
2. Suppressed rage 被压抑的愤怒
上次说到,哭在我原生家庭是不被鼓励的,如果我哭泣,父母会说,不哭了,不哭了。
这个暗示哭是一件不好的事情。然后妈妈就会打来热水让我洗脸,这个举动暗示哭是可
耻的,应该被掩盖。事实上,当我把脸埋进热毛巾的时候,能真实地感受到羞耻。即使
当时仍然在强烈的情绪当中,我也会强迫自己停止哭泣,好像一把热毛巾就一瞬间抹去
了一切痕迹。如果偶尔我不能控制,妈妈会非常焦躁的说,怎么回事,怎么还哭,不是
已经好了吗?妈妈这个反应,其实是非常典型的,父母不能承受自己的无能为力,不能
承受失控,而产生的焦虑。父母用否定孩子的感觉来缓解自己的焦虑感。但作为孩子,... 阅读全帖
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