s****y
发帖数: 585 | |
f*******a
发帖数: 2662 | |
l**********r
发帖数: 240 | 3 赶快动手找新的assistantship。
这样的老板跟不得的。没有资助也是万万不能的。
一旦secure了新的资助，马上操了他。他不把你当人看，你又何必太care他。
一定要找个可能对你好的老板，至少要fair。你好好干他就应该对你好。
当然不是所有的老板都是那么BT的。
不
时
凉
系 |
l******d
发帖数: 61 | 4 纳闷，当初他干吗招了你呢？不是浪费大家的时间和精力吗？
对这种老板就要早做准备。
不
时
凉
系 |
p*****m
发帖数: 219 | 5 好多事情斗室相互的拉
我们这里有一人就是到那个老板那里到好象是别人害他似的
【在 l******d 的大作中提到】
: 纳闷，当初他干吗招了你呢？不是浪费大家的时间和精力吗？
: 对这种老板就要早做准备。
:
: 不
: 时
: 凉
: 系
|
v*********l
发帖数: 181 | 6 读过{谁动了我的奶酪}没有?
如果没有,建议在网上SEARCH读一读.
人也
，还
感凄
的关
【在 p*****m 的大作中提到】
: 好多事情斗室相互的拉
: 我们这里有一人就是到那个老板那里到好象是别人害他似的
|
m***n
发帖数: 6 | 7 会不会你得罪了实验室里的某些老大啊?如果他们在你老板面前说你坏话,那你是死定乐.
如果你还想呆下去,就多出好结果八.不过我也建议换个老板算了.
不
时
凉
系 |
f******g
发帖数: 111 | 8 My boss is nice to me though he is an indian. He is nice to everyone under him
no matter how poorly they performed as long as he feels you have spent years
with him and used to work hard.
I feel the first impression is important. You usually have to be active and
work hard in the first semester or the first year. For new comers, the
speaking English could be a big bar you have to cross. My opinion is talk to
your boss sincerely about how you can improve yourself. Usually when you are
humble, he |
b********r
发帖数: 9 | 9 Show your respect and maybe bribe him a little bit. Invite your labmate to a
lunch. Invite your boss and his wife to a Chinese New Year party. Things will
change.
乐
人
，
感
的 |
h*i
发帖数: 27 | 10 You are luckier than me. I did very well in my qualify exam, but the committee
only gave a conditional pass. What's more rediculous was that the department
head
and grad student chair found me (none of them is in the 3 profs committee),
and overthrew the committee's decision. They said that the former chair of
grad student
sent me a letter in the end of June saying that I had unsatisfactory
progress...
I had no idea what reason they cited except that they said that what I
demonstrated
in my depa
【在 b********r 的大作中提到】
: Show your respect and maybe bribe him a little bit. Invite your labmate to a
: lunch. Invite your boss and his wife to a Chinese New Year party. Things will
: change.
:
: 乐
: 人
: ，
: 感
: 的
|
|
|
p********a
发帖数: 761 | 11 FInding a new postion is the wise choice.
committee
said
a
to
死
比
打
是
【在 h*i 的大作中提到】
: You are luckier than me. I did very well in my qualify exam, but the committee
: only gave a conditional pass. What's more rediculous was that the department
: head
: and grad student chair found me (none of them is in the 3 profs committee),
: and overthrew the committee's decision. They said that the former chair of
: grad student
: sent me a letter in the end of June saying that I had unsatisfactory
: progress...
: I had no idea what reason they cited except that they said that what I
: demonstrated
|
t*******n
发帖数: 66 | 12 cmft. I think you can consider to change a place. After all it is very easy
for you to transfer here in US. My boss is very kind to me, on the contrary I
often interrupt him during the conversation.
department
committee),
to
not
是
得
【在 p********a 的大作中提到】
: FInding a new postion is the wise choice.
:
: committee
: said
: a
: to
: 死
: 比
: 打
: 是
|
c*****i
发帖数: 1 | 13
不
时
凉
系
First thing first!
You need to sit down with your boss and talk to him about the situation.
I had the same pressure before, maybe greater, from my boss. And after
received some advice from friends, shrinks, I talked to him abou the
situation, and it seems it works out in my way. |
w*****i
发帖数: 1 | 14 I don't think this is a good idea since the language and culture barriers may
be the very factors for the current situation. I agree with the idea "first
thing first" is to sit down and talk with the supervisor to make it clear what
is the root for the unhappiness and make out what is the possible way to
improve the collaboration.
will
so
定
别
断
倍
们
【在 b********r 的大作中提到】
: Show your respect and maybe bribe him a little bit. Invite your labmate to a
: lunch. Invite your boss and his wife to a Chinese New Year party. Things will
: change.
:
: 乐
: 人
: ，
: 感
: 的
|
w******e
发帖数: 1 | 15 My boss is American. She is not bad. Sometimes she demands much more work than
just 20 hours. Sometimes it is okay if you do not work. It all depends on your
research situation. Try not to make Chinese jokes(some Chinese jokes are
offensive to American I mean they are not used to it). try not bring any
attitude to work. Try find sth in common, does she or he like fashion? sports?
foods? try to have some conversation about your personal life, relationships
and your family, your difficulty and hap
【在 w*****i 的大作中提到】
: I don't think this is a good idea since the language and culture barriers may
: be the very factors for the current situation. I agree with the idea "first
: thing first" is to sit down and talk with the supervisor to make it clear what
: is the root for the unhappiness and make out what is the possible way to
: improve the collaboration.
:
: will
: so
: 定
: 别
|
l**u
发帖数: 65 | 16
than
your
sports?
"first
to
not
是
得
【在 w******e 的大作中提到】
: My boss is American. She is not bad. Sometimes she demands much more work than
: just 20 hours. Sometimes it is okay if you do not work. It all depends on your
: research situation. Try not to make Chinese jokes(some Chinese jokes are
: offensive to American I mean they are not used to it). try not bring any
: attitude to work. Try find sth in common, does she or he like fashion? sports?
: foods? try to have some conversation about your personal life, relationships
: and your family, your difficulty and hap
|
E**e
发帖数: 524 | 17 你是我听说过得最倒霉的了，真是不敢想象在美国还有这样没有人权的事情。
据我的经验，两种教授最不能碰，一是女教授，二是中国教授，不晓得你是怎么得罪
老美的，老美的老板一般都很nice，好像不会让你做超负荷的工作的，除非你自己愿意。
你应该找学校的有关部门磋商磋商。
committee
said
a
to
死
比
打
是
【在 h*i 的大作中提到】
: You are luckier than me. I did very well in my qualify exam, but the committee
: only gave a conditional pass. What's more rediculous was that the department
: head
: and grad student chair found me (none of them is in the 3 profs committee),
: and overthrew the committee's decision. They said that the former chair of
: grad student
: sent me a letter in the end of June saying that I had unsatisfactory
: progress...
: I had no idea what reason they cited except that they said that what I
: demonstrated
|
h*i
发帖数: 27 | 18 Professors in my department are all very professional, mostly very
knowledgable as well. Some of them are very tough and didn't want any grad
student.
In my area, all students go to the youngest prof, while the other two didn't
have a single one (one is tough too, another just got "Life Achievement
Awards"
but was too old (>60).
relationships
working
barriers
clear
labmate
Things
admiration
你
【在 l**u 的大作中提到】
:
: than
: your
: sports?
: "first
: to
: not
: 是
: 得
|
U******n
发帖数: 75 | 19 my situation is much complicated. my boss has some 'enemies" in this
department, so, we are those little fish that suffer. after two years of
battle, the committee fail me and my labmate (under same advisor) the
qualifying exam and not allow us to take a peak at those graded papers.
well, there are all politics. in or outside the lab.. in every corner of this
acedemic life, i think.
but, beside working hard to impress other facalty instead of only my advisor,
i have nothing to complain.
committ
【在 h*i 的大作中提到】
: You are luckier than me. I did very well in my qualify exam, but the committee
: only gave a conditional pass. What's more rediculous was that the department
: head
: and grad student chair found me (none of them is in the 3 profs committee),
: and overthrew the committee's decision. They said that the former chair of
: grad student
: sent me a letter in the end of June saying that I had unsatisfactory
: progress...
: I had no idea what reason they cited except that they said that what I
: demonstrated
|
u*****t
发帖数: 86 | 20 分特，不要吧。 兄弟前不久就跟实验室的次于老板的管理员掐了一架， 实在受不了了。
压根就瞧不起你，处处不留面子，你越忍人家越起劲。
当然了，还是得自己有两刷子，否则会比较惨。 |
u*****t
发帖数: 86 | 21 呵呵，没啥奇怪得，我见怪不怪了。 干出色点，让老板离不开你，就成。
【在 h*i 的大作中提到】
: You are luckier than me. I did very well in my qualify exam, but the committee
: only gave a conditional pass. What's more rediculous was that the department
: head
: and grad student chair found me (none of them is in the 3 profs committee),
: and overthrew the committee's decision. They said that the former chair of
: grad student
: sent me a letter in the end of June saying that I had unsatisfactory
: progress...
: I had no idea what reason they cited except that they said that what I
: demonstrated
|
h*i
发帖数: 27 | 22 V good suggestions. In my case, my major examiner and another minor examiner
stayed out of the confusing knots (or pretend to, I don't know), and I have to
deal with the other minor examiner, who was former chair of grad students.
During preparation for the exam, we were working much more effeciently than me
with my major examiner. Now really can't tell what he said was truth, and what
was to confuse me, and what else is to give me hints for alternatives. :<
Try to be optimistic even though the |
