a********e
发帖数: 12 | 1 其实呢，我觉得大家都是一个面子问题，谁主动还不都一样？又没损失什么。我还是相信
大多数中国人还是很有礼貌，很喜欢和人交往的，就是需要你脸上轻轻地那么一笑 ：)
后
lot
wise
one
间
人 | s****r
发帖数: 38 | 2 都没错，林子大了什么鸟都有。可能你们偏偏遇到了几个不同的鸟而已。
这种情况不仅国外有，其实国内也很常见。
北京的筒子楼里头，不就是有人很热情有人很冷淡么？
看到前面有人特意把它总结为中国人呆久了的情况，
窃以为不妥。
【在 a********e 的大作中提到】
: 其实呢，我觉得大家都是一个面子问题，谁主动还不都一样？又没损失什么。我还是相信
: 大多数中国人还是很有礼貌，很喜欢和人交往的，就是需要你脸上轻轻地那么一笑 ：)
:
: 后
: lot
: wise
: one
: 间
: 人
| X****r
发帖数: 3557 | 3 这句话很有道理. 各人性情本就不同, 象我就是那种不爱和人打交道的,
来美国就觉得很舒服. 对于那些爱和人交往的人来说, 以前在国内有得
是同伴, 自然不会注意象我这样的人, 来了外国, 周围的中国人少了,
同伴也少了, 与人交流的需求并没有减少, 自然就会觉得闷气, 和象我
这样的人交往又没有满足期望, 就来责怪出国改变了我们.
其实并不一定要和中国人交流的. 外国人里很多愿意和人交往的, 多和他们
聊天, lunch,泡bar, party, 生活说不定就打开一个新天地了呢. 还能提高
语言能力, 多了解国外社会, 多积累一点人际关系对自己也不无帮助.
【在 s****r 的大作中提到】
: 都没错，林子大了什么鸟都有。可能你们偏偏遇到了几个不同的鸟而已。
: 这种情况不仅国外有，其实国内也很常见。
: 北京的筒子楼里头，不就是有人很热情有人很冷淡么？
: 看到前面有人特意把它总结为中国人呆久了的情况，
: 窃以为不妥。
| b**********d
发帖数: 1 | 4 我也觉得在美国难得找知己。。
有的甚至形同陌路。。 | d********r
发帖数: 303 | 5 This just not work!
Previously, i greet to anyone i meet (especially girls, :>).
when I greet american or indian or other non-chinese people, they greet me
too, and smile back.
when I greet chinese, generally i do not get any response.
so now, I only greet nonchinese
it is very sad
but no choice
信
【在 a********e 的大作中提到】
: 其实呢，我觉得大家都是一个面子问题，谁主动还不都一样？又没损失什么。我还是相信
: 大多数中国人还是很有礼貌，很喜欢和人交往的，就是需要你脸上轻轻地那么一笑 ：)
:
: 后
: lot
: wise
: one
: 间
: 人
| d********r
发帖数: 303 | 6 Generally, I think oversea chinese are too conservative.
since I am a liberal,
don't feel very comfortable to talk with them
to be honest, indians are more liberal than chinese
among chinese, the people just come from china are more liberal and more
likely to share same idea with me.
I don't know why chinese peole get more conservative when they stay oversea
during years. This does not happen to me, I've been here almost five years,
but are more liberal than ever. | d********r
发帖数: 303 | 7
现在我的办法是， 谁理我， 我就理谁， 要不一句话也不用多讲。 呜呼哀哉
This is right. Should be polite and this is the way to communicate with
people. And chinese people generally are less tolerant. Most of them
discriminate against black and latino. this is BAD! | j*****t
发帖数: 24 | 8 Regarding to 礼貌问题, what a pity. Compare students from Korea, Japan and
even Taiwan, students from China have worst courtesy. I guess it is a result
of 10 year Culture Revolution and popularity of materialism in China. Nobody
pays attention to ethical or spiritual matters anymore.
Regarding to offering help,
I used to offer a lot of help to the new students and found out later they
either don't show appreciation to the help, i.e. thought they deserved all
these and took everything for granted, OR | a********e
发帖数: 12 | 9 It works in right environment---the environment where Chinese people feel
comfortable. I understand that Chinese people don't smile back when they just
meet you on the road (actually American people and Indian people not always
smile back), but when you smile at a Chinese people in a party, you have
better than 50% chance to get a smile back. That's the culture things, not
personality things.
相
：)
【在 d********r 的大作中提到】
: This just not work!
: Previously, i greet to anyone i meet (especially girls, :>).
: when I greet american or indian or other non-chinese people, they greet me
: too, and smile back.
: when I greet chinese, generally i do not get any response.
: so now, I only greet nonchinese
: it is very sad
: but no choice
:
: 信
| a********e
发帖数: 12 | 10 When I offer help to others, I never think about rewards because I know the
good side of help will have a positive influence on people's behavior, which
is very "rewarding" to me. Seriously.
遇
college.
时
的
【在 j*****t 的大作中提到】
: Regarding to 礼貌问题, what a pity. Compare students from Korea, Japan and
: even Taiwan, students from China have worst courtesy. I guess it is a result
: of 10 year Culture Revolution and popularity of materialism in China. Nobody
: pays attention to ethical or spiritual matters anymore.
: Regarding to offering help,
: I used to offer a lot of help to the new students and found out later they
: either don't show appreciation to the help, i.e. thought they deserved all
: these and took everything for granted, OR
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