w*******i
发帖数: 525 | 1 事情是这样的，我负责组织安排研究生的研讨会（就是学生聚在一起讲自己工作的那种）。要做
报告的学生应该尽早的跟我联系我好安排。
2周前同事让我帮他安排他的两个学生在本周做学术交流报告。但是他一直没给我具体
报告人的名字题目等信息。这2周刚开学我也忙忘了去主动找他要。然后今天我看了一
下日程表，本周没学生要做报告，我就通知所有研究生本周报告取消。
结果那位老师气急败坏的给我写了封信
Why are you doing this shit!
I promised to provide two presentation!
我是应该道歉还是应该骂回去？ |
a**********d
发帖数: 2293 | 2 你的忘性也太大了点儿，不过对方的火气好像更大，是不是早就对你有什么意见、这次
一触就发了？
是我的话会这么回：
I apologize for calling off this week's presentations without consulting you
. It was an honest mistake. The next opening slot is on x/xx. If the
students are still interested in presenting their work, please ask them to
get in touch with me at least one week in advance. I will also need the
titles and abstracts of their presentations for inclusion in the
announcement. |
w*******i
发帖数: 525 | 3 因为口头来告诉我的人也挺多的，我一般很难记住谁是谁，所以都是以正式email通知
我谁谁作报告为准。才会写入日程表。
每次通知开会的时候，我只看日程表而不去考虑谁谁告诉我过什么。
也许以后还需要再改进一下吧。
多谢你的模板
you
【在 a**********d 的大作中提到】
: 你的忘性也太大了点儿，不过对方的火气好像更大，是不是早就对你有什么意见、这次
: 一触就发了？
: 是我的话会这么回：
: I apologize for calling off this week's presentations without consulting you
: . It was an honest mistake. The next opening slot is on x/xx. If the
: students are still interested in presenting their work, please ask them to
: get in touch with me at least one week in advance. I will also need the
: titles and abstracts of their presentations for inclusion in the
: announcement.
|
a**********d
发帖数: 2293 | 4 不客气。你要是照我的模板回，基本上就是要得罪这个人了。不过对方脏话已经说了，
也没给你多少回旋余地。
【在 w*******i 的大作中提到】
: 因为口头来告诉我的人也挺多的，我一般很难记住谁是谁，所以都是以正式email通知
: 我谁谁作报告为准。才会写入日程表。
: 每次通知开会的时候，我只看日程表而不去考虑谁谁告诉我过什么。
: 也许以后还需要再改进一下吧。
: 多谢你的模板
:
: you
|
w******t
发帖数: 1422 | 5 I would write a letter with proper sense, and copy to the chair.
"I am shocked by your email. As the faculty agreed, if no name identified,
we would cancel the meeting. By the end of yesterday, I was not informed
with any named/title by either you or your students for the presentation. I
thus called off the meeting.
Sorry this upset you.
I do not appreciate your language. It is important to keep a professional,
constructive education environment, including not to use un-proper words to
anyone. W |
w********h
发帖数: 12367 | 6 不错的reply，楼主可以copy了。
I
to
【在 w******t 的大作中提到】
: I would write a letter with proper sense, and copy to the chair.
: "I am shocked by your email. As the faculty agreed, if no name identified,
: we would cancel the meeting. By the end of yesterday, I was not informed
: with any named/title by either you or your students for the presentation. I
: thus called off the meeting.
: Sorry this upset you.
: I do not appreciate your language. It is important to keep a professional,
: constructive education environment, including not to use un-proper words to
: anyone. W
|
d********g
发帖数: 463 | 7 学习了
I
to
【在 w******t 的大作中提到】
: I would write a letter with proper sense, and copy to the chair.
: "I am shocked by your email. As the faculty agreed, if no name identified,
: we would cancel the meeting. By the end of yesterday, I was not informed
: with any named/title by either you or your students for the presentation. I
: thus called off the meeting.
: Sorry this upset you.
: I do not appreciate your language. It is important to keep a professional,
: constructive education environment, including not to use un-proper words to
: anyone. W
|
w********h
发帖数: 12367 | 8 no, he cannot apologize this time.
must copy to his department chair.
you
【在 a**********d 的大作中提到】
: 你的忘性也太大了点儿，不过对方的火气好像更大，是不是早就对你有什么意见、这次
: 一触就发了？
: 是我的话会这么回：
: I apologize for calling off this week's presentations without consulting you
: . It was an honest mistake. The next opening slot is on x/xx. If the
: students are still interested in presenting their work, please ask them to
: get in touch with me at least one week in advance. I will also need the
: titles and abstracts of their presentations for inclusion in the
: announcement.
|
a**********d
发帖数: 2293 | 9 "As the faculty agreed, if no name identified, we would cancel the meeting."
This is not likely true. Even if it is true, it is common courtesy to keep
colleagues' verbal requests in mind.
For some American people, saying $hit and fxxx is no big deal. I think it
would be an overreaction for a guy to get the chair involved in something
like this.
I
to
【在 w******t 的大作中提到】
: I would write a letter with proper sense, and copy to the chair.
: "I am shocked by your email. As the faculty agreed, if no name identified,
: we would cancel the meeting. By the end of yesterday, I was not informed
: with any named/title by either you or your students for the presentation. I
: thus called off the meeting.
: Sorry this upset you.
: I do not appreciate your language. It is important to keep a professional,
: constructive education environment, including not to use un-proper words to
: anyone. W
|
d**i
发帖数: 199 | 10 Good reply!
I
to
【在 w******t 的大作中提到】
: I would write a letter with proper sense, and copy to the chair.
: "I am shocked by your email. As the faculty agreed, if no name identified,
: we would cancel the meeting. By the end of yesterday, I was not informed
: with any named/title by either you or your students for the presentation. I
: thus called off the meeting.
: Sorry this upset you.
: I do not appreciate your language. It is important to keep a professional,
: constructive education environment, including not to use un-proper words to
: anyone. W
|
|
|
a**********d
发帖数: 2293 | 11 I think it is wise to stay cool and not escalate.
What would you want the chair to do? Make the guy apologize for foul
language?
【在 w********h 的大作中提到】
: no, he cannot apologize this time.
: must copy to his department chair.
:
: you
|
d**i
发帖数: 199 | 12 I think everybody has his/her own boundary.Some people can tolerate shix of
F words. Some can not. It is the time to let others to know the boundary.
."
【在 a**********d 的大作中提到】
: "As the faculty agreed, if no name identified, we would cancel the meeting."
: This is not likely true. Even if it is true, it is common courtesy to keep
: colleagues' verbal requests in mind.
: For some American people, saying $hit and fxxx is no big deal. I think it
: would be an overreaction for a guy to get the chair involved in something
: like this.
:
: I
: to
|
a**********d
发帖数: 2293 | 13 It is rude for sure, but no big deal, especially for a guy.
Even if you want others to know your boundary, do it yourself. Getting the
chair involved, frankly, is so elementary school.
of
【在 d**i 的大作中提到】
: I think everybody has his/her own boundary.Some people can tolerate shix of
: F words. Some can not. It is the time to let others to know the boundary.
:
: ."
|
w*******i
发帖数: 525 | 14 还是不扯chair了。谁让我是新人呢。忍了。
我准备这么写。
Though I was shocked by your language but I still have to apologize first
for not remembering your promise. It is the starting of the semester and
there are too many things in my mind.
Please, in the future, send me the name/title of the student ONE week in
advance so that I can input into the database. It is really hard for me to
remember everthing if someone just orally let me know there will be a
presentation.
自己的英语好烂啊，哎。 |
a**********d
发帖数: 2293 | 15 我觉得你没必要用一半的篇幅给自己解释。
【在 w*******i 的大作中提到】
: 还是不扯chair了。谁让我是新人呢。忍了。
: 我准备这么写。
: Though I was shocked by your language but I still have to apologize first
: for not remembering your promise. It is the starting of the semester and
: there are too many things in my mind.
: Please, in the future, send me the name/title of the student ONE week in
: advance so that I can input into the database. It is really hard for me to
: remember everthing if someone just orally let me know there will be a
: presentation.
: 自己的英语好烂啊，哎。
|
L***s
发帖数: 9258 | 16 你都打算走了还不骂死丫的。
种）。要做
【在 w*******i 的大作中提到】
: 事情是这样的，我负责组织安排研究生的研讨会（就是学生聚在一起讲自己工作的那种）。要做
: 报告的学生应该尽早的跟我联系我好安排。
: 2周前同事让我帮他安排他的两个学生在本周做学术交流报告。但是他一直没给我具体
: 报告人的名字题目等信息。这2周刚开学我也忙忘了去主动找他要。然后今天我看了一
: 下日程表，本周没学生要做报告，我就通知所有研究生本周报告取消。
: 结果那位老师气急败坏的给我写了封信
: Why are you doing this shit!
: I promised to provide two presentation!
: 我是应该道歉还是应该骂回去？
|
w*******i
发帖数: 525 | 17 转成visting prof了。。。。每年会回来2个月指导一下没结业的学生。。。。
【在 L***s 的大作中提到】
: 你都打算走了还不骂死丫的。
:
: 种）。要做
|
l*******s
发帖数: 3562 | 18 你的英语我怎么看得这么痛苦
un-proper? 为啥不说improper？
I
to
【在 w******t 的大作中提到】
: I would write a letter with proper sense, and copy to the chair.
: "I am shocked by your email. As the faculty agreed, if no name identified,
: we would cancel the meeting. By the end of yesterday, I was not informed
: with any named/title by either you or your students for the presentation. I
: thus called off the meeting.
: Sorry this upset you.
: I do not appreciate your language. It is important to keep a professional,
: constructive education environment, including not to use un-proper words to
: anyone. W
|
d*******l
发帖数: 2567 | 19 This would be my reply:
Dude, send me the seminar info like who and what, I'll put it on
for next session.
Next time see him, say: come on,man. where is your seminar info? I've
been waiting for the whole week!
No need to explain or apologize. No need to make it to the department.
He is treating you like a guy and you can do the same.
种）。要做
【在 w*******i 的大作中提到】
: 事情是这样的，我负责组织安排研究生的研讨会（就是学生聚在一起讲自己工作的那种）。要做
: 报告的学生应该尽早的跟我联系我好安排。
: 2周前同事让我帮他安排他的两个学生在本周做学术交流报告。但是他一直没给我具体
: 报告人的名字题目等信息。这2周刚开学我也忙忘了去主动找他要。然后今天我看了一
: 下日程表，本周没学生要做报告，我就通知所有研究生本周报告取消。
: 结果那位老师气急败坏的给我写了封信
: Why are you doing this shit!
: I promised to provide two presentation!
: 我是应该道歉还是应该骂回去？
|
f****b
发帖数: 314 | |
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b********f
发帖数: 925 | 21 Technically，LZ没做错。但是实际上，他作为组织者在没有通知同事DEADLINE的情况
下就CALL OFF MEETING，是很不礼貌的。别拿什么OFFICIAL RULE来搪塞。也许LZ的同
事熬夜在最后5分钟准备呢？
这里提供的所谓TEMPLATES都是打算撕破脸的。根本犯不上。如果确实是组织者的问题
，技术地道歉是最好的做法(对方EMAIL里的SHIT根本不算什么，很正常的反应，别往心
里去)。
建议LZ：
1、首先弄清除对方是什么状况。比如是否记错DEADLINE、或者正准备5分钟后发
ABSTRACT
2、不要立刻把CHAIR搅和进来，何必往大里折腾。先私下口头沟通。比如完全可以委婉
道歉：Cant believe I locked you out.I am really sorry, blah blah 再看看对方
如何打算、也给双方一个台阶：What should I do now?
3、如果道歉了对方还不依不饶，再说。
【在 w********h 的大作中提到】
: no, he cannot apologize this time.
: must copy to his department chair.
:
: you
|
b********f
发帖数: 925 | 22 I agree. Getting the chair involved in such an early stage is such a insult
to LZ's colleague.
【在 a**********d 的大作中提到】
: It is rude for sure, but no big deal, especially for a guy.
: Even if you want others to know your boundary, do it yourself. Getting the
: chair involved, frankly, is so elementary school.
:
: of
|
d**i
发帖数: 199 | 23 This is smart.
【在 d*******l 的大作中提到】
: This would be my reply:
: Dude, send me the seminar info like who and what, I'll put it on
: for next session.
: Next time see him, say: come on,man. where is your seminar info? I've
: been waiting for the whole week!
: No need to explain or apologize. No need to make it to the department.
: He is treating you like a guy and you can do the same.
:
: 种）。要做
|
g*******t
发帖数: 1039 | 24 totally aglee (or "I concur" as some id would say :)) - though your reply as
is sounds too graduate-student-ish, not professor-ish
no biggie. so "No need to explain or apologize" is right in general, but
based on who he/she is, and who you are, some face to face dialog may help
【在 d*******l 的大作中提到】
: This would be my reply:
: Dude, send me the seminar info like who and what, I'll put it on
: for next session.
: Next time see him, say: come on,man. where is your seminar info? I've
: been waiting for the whole week!
: No need to explain or apologize. No need to make it to the department.
: He is treating you like a guy and you can do the same.
:
: 种）。要做
|
g*******t
发帖数: 1039 | 25 on the 2nd thought, try to figure out if he had escalated this to any VIP in
the dept already, if that's the case, you need to deal with it differently.
For example, a gentle reminder of the rules to the whole faculty might help,
with a brief explanation of the incident. Be careful about the tone, and no
complaining, no finger pointing.
as
【在 g*******t 的大作中提到】
: totally aglee (or "I concur" as some id would say :)) - though your reply as
: is sounds too graduate-student-ish, not professor-ish
: no biggie. so "No need to explain or apologize" is right in general, but
: based on who he/she is, and who you are, some face to face dialog may help
|
c****e
发帖数: 1984 | 26 tell him: shut the fuck up
种）。要做
【在 w*******i 的大作中提到】
: 事情是这样的，我负责组织安排研究生的研讨会（就是学生聚在一起讲自己工作的那种）。要做
: 报告的学生应该尽早的跟我联系我好安排。
: 2周前同事让我帮他安排他的两个学生在本周做学术交流报告。但是他一直没给我具体
: 报告人的名字题目等信息。这2周刚开学我也忙忘了去主动找他要。然后今天我看了一
: 下日程表，本周没学生要做报告，我就通知所有研究生本周报告取消。
: 结果那位老师气急败坏的给我写了封信
: Why are you doing this shit!
: I promised to provide two presentation!
: 我是应该道歉还是应该骂回去？
|
d*******l
发帖数: 2567 | 27 The guy was talking in street language, really student style reply fits
better. The point is to keep it cool since he was obviously pissed.
And fortunately the professor is not LZ's school dean's gay
lover, otherwise LZ'd have been kicked on his butts...hard.
as
【在 g*******t 的大作中提到】
: totally aglee (or "I concur" as some id would say :)) - though your reply as
: is sounds too graduate-student-ish, not professor-ish
: no biggie. so "No need to explain or apologize" is right in general, but
: based on who he/she is, and who you are, some face to face dialog may help
|
p********t
发帖数: 124 | 28 tell him: i pissed you off, you shit on me, we are even now. |
l*******7
发帖数: 431 | 29 Interesting. Why don't you go to his office right after you got his email
and explain it to him and ask him for title and abstract? Then send a
correction email afterwards to state that there is actually presentation
this week.
Fuck Microsoft Win 7! I had to retype so many times as my mouse kept jumping
around while I am typing.
By the way, some people tend to use that word often. Take it easy. One of my
coworkers used all kinds of 4-letter words (you name it) the moment he
stepped in office -- |
m****e
发帖数: 282 | 30 我真的不知道你想问啥? 我觉得你已经有主意了.
对于所有的回复, 还是小心考虑为好. 没有人比你更清楚你和这个SHIT之间的关系. 我
觉得还是先不要留下任何书面记录, 口头交流一下比较好. 他已经有这SHIT在你手上了
, 任何轻率的回复都不一定对你有利. 他让你安排, 他又没有给你东西, 你有什么错?
当然, 你们系有自己的规定另当别论.
当面先谈SHIT的问题, 让他澄清一下. 如果他退, 都客气点. 否则, 当面明说, 让他自
己记住他自己的事情需要自己主动提供信息. 当然, 大牛的化, 您自己想.
种）。要做
【在 w*******i 的大作中提到】
: 事情是这样的，我负责组织安排研究生的研讨会（就是学生聚在一起讲自己工作的那种）。要做
: 报告的学生应该尽早的跟我联系我好安排。
: 2周前同事让我帮他安排他的两个学生在本周做学术交流报告。但是他一直没给我具体
: 报告人的名字题目等信息。这2周刚开学我也忙忘了去主动找他要。然后今天我看了一
: 下日程表，本周没学生要做报告，我就通知所有研究生本周报告取消。
: 结果那位老师气急败坏的给我写了封信
: Why are you doing this shit!
: I promised to provide two presentation!
: 我是应该道歉还是应该骂回去？
|
|
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I*****2
发帖数: 1586 | 31 可怜，faculty做到这地步了也够可以的
被人指着鼻子骂了，还满口sorry的。
【在 w*******i 的大作中提到】
: 还是不扯chair了。谁让我是新人呢。忍了。
: 我准备这么写。
: Though I was shocked by your language but I still have to apologize first
: for not remembering your promise. It is the starting of the semester and
: there are too many things in my mind.
: Please, in the future, send me the name/title of the student ONE week in
: advance so that I can input into the database. It is really hard for me to
: remember everthing if someone just orally let me know there will be a
: presentation.
: 自己的英语好烂啊，哎。
|
I*****2
发帖数: 1586 | 32 真可怜， 被人侮辱了，害怕自己侮辱了骂自己的人。
insult
【在 b********f 的大作中提到】
: I agree. Getting the chair involved in such an early stage is such a insult
: to LZ's colleague.
|
j******t
发帖数: 846 | 33 这个很聪明
【在 d*******l 的大作中提到】
: This would be my reply:
: Dude, send me the seminar info like who and what, I'll put it on
: for next session.
: Next time see him, say: come on,man. where is your seminar info? I've
: been waiting for the whole week!
: No need to explain or apologize. No need to make it to the department.
: He is treating you like a guy and you can do the same.
:
: 种）。要做
|
v******d
发帖数: 1322 | 34 You should send me the f*cking titles and abstracts in time!
种）。要做
【在 w*******i 的大作中提到】
: 事情是这样的，我负责组织安排研究生的研讨会（就是学生聚在一起讲自己工作的那种）。要做
: 报告的学生应该尽早的跟我联系我好安排。
: 2周前同事让我帮他安排他的两个学生在本周做学术交流报告。但是他一直没给我具体
: 报告人的名字题目等信息。这2周刚开学我也忙忘了去主动找他要。然后今天我看了一
: 下日程表，本周没学生要做报告，我就通知所有研究生本周报告取消。
: 结果那位老师气急败坏的给我写了封信
: Why are you doing this shit!
: I promised to provide two presentation!
: 我是应该道歉还是应该骂回去？
|
m***f
发帖数: 1622 | 35 no!
这样做容易让人骂你和你的MEMORY，还觉得真的是你的错
what a shit reply
【在 w*******i 的大作中提到】
: 还是不扯chair了。谁让我是新人呢。忍了。
: 我准备这么写。
: Though I was shocked by your language but I still have to apologize first
: for not remembering your promise. It is the starting of the semester and
: there are too many things in my mind.
: Please, in the future, send me the name/title of the student ONE week in
: advance so that I can input into the database. It is really hard for me to
: remember everthing if someone just orally let me know there will be a
: presentation.
: 自己的英语好烂啊，哎。
|
w******t
发帖数: 1422 | |
