s********y 发帖数: 49 | 1 或者说这个和时间无关,想看看大家的意见。
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I********e 发帖数: 6130 | 2 个人意见, 至少两到三年可以考虑结婚的事情, that's of course assuming you are
not doing long distance. If you are doing long distance, I would say to not
consider getting married at all.
【在 s********y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 或者说这个和时间无关,想看看大家的意见。 : 谢谢~
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g**********n 发帖数: 1442 | 3 我老认为一见钟情的婚姻最可靠!
【在 s********y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 或者说这个和时间无关,想看看大家的意见。 : 谢谢~
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l*******r 发帖数: 39279 | 4 I completely disagree
我认为应该闪婚
这样婚姻才会新鲜,才会持久,啦啦啦
are
not
【在 I********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 个人意见, 至少两到三年可以考虑结婚的事情, that's of course assuming you are : not doing long distance. If you are doing long distance, I would say to not : consider getting married at all.
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T*********e 发帖数: 39815 | 5 也zkss
【在 l*******r 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : I completely disagree : 我认为应该闪婚 : 这样婚姻才会新鲜,才会持久,啦啦啦 : : are : not
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l*******r 发帖数: 39279 | 6 我觉得认识久了,就没什么热情了
特别是你并不是特别喜欢一个人的时候
早早结婚安定下来,那就好好过日子了
否则会胡思乱想
【在 T*********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 也zkss
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T*********e 发帖数: 39815 | 7 有道理
【在 l*******r 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 我觉得认识久了,就没什么热情了 : 特别是你并不是特别喜欢一个人的时候 : 早早结婚安定下来,那就好好过日子了 : 否则会胡思乱想
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n****u 发帖数: 490 | 9 新鲜是真的,持久就大打折扣了
俩人之前没那么了解,婚后不遍地鸡毛才怪
当然,新鲜劲过了之后可以离婚,继续闪
【在 l*******r 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : I completely disagree : 我认为应该闪婚 : 这样婚姻才会新鲜,才会持久,啦啦啦 : : are : not
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I********e 发帖数: 6130 | 10 让我来翻译一下你说的 - 结了婚的话新鲜劲过去了大家也会凑和着过, 在一个
miserable的婚姻里面.
我说的是, 如果不结婚的时候新鲜劲过去了大家不想在一起的话, 就不结婚;如果过去
了大家还是想在一起的话, 就结婚.
I'd much rather go with what I said :) It's much better than getting married
without much consideration then either getting a divorce or living in a
miserable marriage.
【在 l*******r 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 我觉得认识久了,就没什么热情了 : 特别是你并不是特别喜欢一个人的时候 : 早早结婚安定下来,那就好好过日子了 : 否则会胡思乱想
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p****l 发帖数: 291 | 11 my case, 15months
my hubby is perfect for me
【在 s********y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 或者说这个和时间无关,想看看大家的意见。 : 谢谢~
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G***a 发帖数: 27294 | 12 看你多大岁数认识这个男人
如果你年龄足够大,又是想结婚的人,最好1-2年结婚
3年还不肯娶你的男人,要慎重
【在 s********y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 或者说这个和时间无关,想看看大家的意见。 : 谢谢~
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t****z 发帖数: 1551 | |
f*********e 发帖数: 3037 | 14 If first relationship or before age 24, 25, then 2-3 years.
If u have good idea of what you want/need out of life and know how to work
toward the life you want, able to identify the important things, and the
other person is on the same boat, then 3 month is ok la. |
t****z 发帖数: 1551 | 15 其实婚后也需要磨合的,脾气也需要慢慢摸
现在偶尔还会拌嘴,但是很快就好了 |
s********y 发帖数: 49 | 16 三个月算闪么?
【在 l*******r 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : I completely disagree : 我认为应该闪婚 : 这样婚姻才会新鲜,才会持久,啦啦啦 : : are : not
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s********y 发帖数: 49 | 17 26,是想结婚,对方也有此意,3个月是不是有点短?
【在 G***a 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 看你多大岁数认识这个男人 : 如果你年龄足够大,又是想结婚的人,最好1-2年结婚 : 3年还不肯娶你的男人,要慎重
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s********y 发帖数: 49 | 18 真好!
【在 t****z 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 一见钟情 : 半年 : 一直很相爱
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s********y 发帖数: 49 | 19 恩~有道理,谢谢~
【在 f*********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : If first relationship or before age 24, 25, then 2-3 years. : If u have good idea of what you want/need out of life and know how to work : toward the life you want, able to identify the important things, and the : other person is on the same boat, then 3 month is ok la.
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f*********e 发帖数: 3037 | 20 6个月吧,然后订婚6个月到一年举办婚礼。
正合适,不合适也来得及。
【在 s********y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 26,是想结婚,对方也有此意,3个月是不是有点短?
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m*******l 发帖数: 370 | 21 For marriage related dating, 8 to 15 months, if he could not commit, you
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w*m 发帖数: 206 | 22 我觉得,最重要的是看,你和他自我的认知程度,到底有多了解自己是个怎样的人,想
要什么什么样的生活
很多人,其实不是很了解自己的,非要经历点事情,才能发现潜意识里那个本我
【在 s********y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 26,是想结婚,对方也有此意,3个月是不是有点短?
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g*********n 发帖数: 1055 | 23 depends on age:
20 year-old, 2-5 years,
30 year-old, 2 months to 2 years,
50 year-old, 2-5 years..
【在 s********y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 或者说这个和时间无关,想看看大家的意见。 : 谢谢~
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H******C 发帖数: 700 | 24 Agree with you. Marriage is one of the biggest committment in life and one
should be really careful. 2-3 years is a good time to know somebody. I would
suggest not doing long-distance at all for marriage purposes. 99% of the
time, long-distance are based on some kind of material motives from one side
, with the immigration benefits being the most common ones in US.
are
not
【在 I********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 个人意见, 至少两到三年可以考虑结婚的事情, that's of course assuming you are : not doing long distance. If you are doing long distance, I would say to not : consider getting married at all.
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H******C 发帖数: 700 | 25 Re this. Exact point
married
【在 I********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 让我来翻译一下你说的 - 结了婚的话新鲜劲过去了大家也会凑和着过, 在一个 : miserable的婚姻里面. : 我说的是, 如果不结婚的时候新鲜劲过去了大家不想在一起的话, 就不结婚;如果过去 : 了大家还是想在一起的话, 就结婚. : I'd much rather go with what I said :) It's much better than getting married : without much consideration then either getting a divorce or living in a : miserable marriage.
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f*********e 发帖数: 3037 | 26 人年纪稍微大一点了,再如果是生活中从小长大的什么同伴有了罗曼蒂克的愿望,也未
必2-3年了。我觉得10个月左右讨论婚姻的问题不算早。当然到真正结婚肯定还是有一
段距离的。只是约会1年没有任何关于未来的探讨和共识,觉得不太靠谱。
would
side
【在 H******C 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : Agree with you. Marriage is one of the biggest committment in life and one : should be really careful. 2-3 years is a good time to know somebody. I would : suggest not doing long-distance at all for marriage purposes. 99% of the : time, long-distance are based on some kind of material motives from one side : , with the immigration benefits being the most common ones in US. : : are : not
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w******u 发帖数: 2107 | 27
are
not
这个姑娘很明显受了long distance的害,10个贴子里有8个劝人家不要long distance.
...
【在 I********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 个人意见, 至少两到三年可以考虑结婚的事情, that's of course assuming you are : not doing long distance. If you are doing long distance, I would say to not : consider getting married at all.
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s*******y 发帖数: 1138 | 28 以前人们讲结婚慎重
主要是因为以前人认为婚前不应有sex
其实是对女人的保护
既然现在不慎重了
还是结吧
结了再离也比分手有保障 |
s*******y 发帖数: 1138 | 29 以前人们讲结婚慎重
主要是因为以前人认为婚前不应有sex
其实是对女人的保护
既然现在不慎重了
还是结吧
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I********e 发帖数: 6130 | 30
这个我同意.
【在 f*********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 人年纪稍微大一点了,再如果是生活中从小长大的什么同伴有了罗曼蒂克的愿望,也未 : 必2-3年了。我觉得10个月左右讨论婚姻的问题不算早。当然到真正结婚肯定还是有一 : 段距离的。只是约会1年没有任何关于未来的探讨和共识,觉得不太靠谱。 : : would : side
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l*******r 发帖数: 39279 | 31 离了再结
【在 a*******8 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 我老2个礼拜解决问题 : 现在很后悔
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l*******r 发帖数: 39279 | 32 还行,不怎么算闪
【在 s********y 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 三个月算闪么?
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T*********e 发帖数: 39815 | 33 3个月完全不算闪
【在 l*******r 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 还行,不怎么算闪
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l*******r 发帖数: 39279 | 34 哈哈哈
竟然你也有这种想法
【在 T*********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 3个月完全不算闪
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T*********e 发帖数: 39815 | 35 我是说,3个月不算闪婚
我见过3天的,哈哈
【在 l*******r 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 哈哈哈 : 竟然你也有这种想法
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l*******r 发帖数: 39279 | 36 还有当天就结婚的
比如谭盾
【在 T*********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 我是说,3个月不算闪婚 : 我见过3天的,哈哈
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T*********e 发帖数: 39815 | 37 这个不认识,孤陋寡闻了
【在 l*******r 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 还有当天就结婚的 : 比如谭盾
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l*******r 发帖数: 39279 | 38 。。。。。。。。。。
文盲啊
【在 T*********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 这个不认识,孤陋寡闻了
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T*********e 发帖数: 39815 | 39 blush
【在 l*******r 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 。。。。。。。。。。 : 文盲啊
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l*******r 发帖数: 39279 | 40 撒娇者五步内必死
【在 T*********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : blush
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f*********e 发帖数: 3037 | 41 Friend in college did long distance for 5 years while her bf is in military.
They married last year, (after 7 years), now they are going to law school/
business school together.
The rest of long distance couple (about 7 of them I personally know) ended
in disaster.
Some people believe statistics, nothing wrong with that =P
distance.
【在 w******u 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : : are : not : 这个姑娘很明显受了long distance的害,10个贴子里有8个劝人家不要long distance. : ...
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T*********e 发帖数: 39815 | 42 刚打了杯开水回来
走了50步
看来我没撒娇
【在 l*******r 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 撒娇者五步内必死
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l*******r 发帖数: 39279 | 43 油嘴滑舌
【在 T*********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 刚打了杯开水回来 : 走了50步 : 看来我没撒娇
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T*********e 发帖数: 39815 | 44 靠,我居然会油嘴滑舌
版主都笑了
【在 l*******r 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 油嘴滑舌
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I********e 发帖数: 6130 | 45 All the people I know who did LD ended up not working out...thus my attitude
. heh.
military.
【在 f*********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : Friend in college did long distance for 5 years while her bf is in military. : They married last year, (after 7 years), now they are going to law school/ : business school together. : The rest of long distance couple (about 7 of them I personally know) ended : in disaster. : Some people believe statistics, nothing wrong with that =P : : distance.
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f*********e 发帖数: 3037 | 46 My mom and dad did long distance for 3 years, but they were married with
family responsibilities.
hehehe but when we are young, want to avoid that route.
attitude
【在 I********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : All the people I know who did LD ended up not working out...thus my attitude : . heh. : : military.
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I********e 发帖数: 6130 | 47 Yes, I think if you are already married, and if the long distance is
something you must do, and if the period of time is defined (yes there are a
lot of conditions :)) it's acceptable if it's not tooooo long. I would
never tell people to start a relationship on long distance.
One of my friends was dating a girl for a few months and he told me "she's
the one". Then he moved away to another state, then they broke up after 2 or
3 months. This is the latest LD case I know.
【在 f*********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : My mom and dad did long distance for 3 years, but they were married with : family responsibilities. : hehehe but when we are young, want to avoid that route. : : attitude
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f*********e 发帖数: 3037 | 48 Yes, LD is a killer.
My coworker's bf works in a different city but he flies to her every weekend.
Cong...
a
or
【在 I********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : Yes, I think if you are already married, and if the long distance is : something you must do, and if the period of time is defined (yes there are a : lot of conditions :)) it's acceptable if it's not tooooo long. I would : never tell people to start a relationship on long distance. : One of my friends was dating a girl for a few months and he told me "she's : the one". Then he moved away to another state, then they broke up after 2 or : 3 months. This is the latest LD case I know.
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m*****u 发帖数: 6094 | 49 可以去撞墙了。。。。。
【在 T*********e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 这个不认识,孤陋寡闻了
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P****D 发帖数: 11146 | 51 这BSO也太过分了……
【在 b*****7 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 见面三天求婚,100天领证。我和我老婆。
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