s**********1
发帖数: 4651 | 1 ...With self-acceptance we're just--non-judgmentally--affirming who we are,
with whatever strengths--and weaknesses--we possess in the moment.
The problem with any focus on self-improvement is that such an orientation
inevitably makes self-acceptance conditional. After all, we can't ever feel
totally secure or good enough so long as our self-regard depends on
constantly bettering ourselves. Self-acceptance is here-and-now oriented--
not future oriented, as in: "I'll be okay when . . ." or "As soon as I
accomplish . . . I'll be okay." Self-acceptance is about already being okay,
with no qualifications--period. It's not that we ignore or deny our faults
or frailties, just that we view them as irrelevant to our basic
acceptability.
我就老想着要提高自己. | a********e
发帖数: 5779 | | K********g
发帖数: 553 | | s**********1
发帖数: 4651 | 4 是无可奈何地妥协，还是真心地接受？
【在 K********g 的大作中提到】
: 其实到头来，我们都在无条件的接受自己。
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发帖数: 4651 | 5 无我不是我的追求。
【在 a********e 的大作中提到】
: 既然追求无我，更能平静接受自己，面对现实。
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