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"As I watched her chest barely rise and fall, I considered my grandmother, a
junior in high school, slow dancing to Glenn Miller with the young soldier
who would become my grandfather. They married at 19, hardly cognizant of
their choices, she in a simple dress and gloves, he in his military uniform.
Fifty-six years after their wedding, my grandmother told me that she had
married my grandfather because “he was a really nice boy.” Even at 14, I
didn’t believe it was quite as simple as that.
Yet here I had my own “nice boy.” He was the “I love you” in a barrage
of “Come over; I’m drunk.” He had considered dedicating his life to God;
he was intelligent and loved children as much as I did. He knew what I
wanted from my life, the pain I had been feeling from waiting to begin but
having no one with whom to do so. I had asked the universe for someone like
him to come along and to allow me to eventually join the ranks of my
marrying, procreating cousins. This “nice boy” had promised me just that.
What my grandmother didn’t know on her wedding day was that her “nice boy
” would wage a battle with alcoholism that would strain their marriage and
destroy his paychecks before he was able to summon the strength to quit.
They would stay together another 36 years before he died, raising seven
children in a happy, crowded house.
AND she loved him; we knew that. But we also knew that when my grandfather
died, she experienced a liberation that had been impossible while married.
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