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发帖数: 7881 | 1 The sad guy
“So, what do you do?” I asked.
A sad look streaked across his face.
“Oh, I do tech stuff,” he replied. “It’s boring.”
It was my first mock date. He was in his late 20s, and we were sitting on a
bench in Central Park on a lovely summer day.
Despite the glorious weather, his head hung down and his shoulders slumped.
“Oh, it can’t be that boring,” I replied, desperately hoping that he was
secretly passionate about his work, and just thought I’d be bored by it. “
How did you get into it?”
“No, really, I hate my job. Let’s talk about anything else.”
So I told him about all the exciting things I was hoping to do now that I
was living in New York.
That was when he told me “not to get my hopes up.”
I felt incredibly sorry for him — he was resigned to unhappiness, and that
’s not something people find attractive.
The Lesson: If you do hate your job, well, first of all, it would be great
if you were trying to change your job. Talk about what that transition is
like — people respect people who refuse to be unhappy. Or make sure you
talk about things that do make you happy. If you’re miserable 40 hours a
week, it’s nice to know that you’re getting great pleasure cooking or
being in a band or going to ballgames in your spare time. |
