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发信人: buffalochick (win), 信区: Parenting
标 题: 求助 7-12 岁的小孩喜欢动手怎么办？
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Mon Mar 17 15:48:29 2014, 美东)
今天收到一封之前教会做volunteer 朋友的求助信， 反应说中国家长习惯把他们那里
当成免费daycare 的地方， 而且一些7-12岁的小孩喜欢动手， 英文也说不大好， 向
我求助。
本来他们做的是好事， 她这样一说我反倒不知道怎么回答。
我本人还没有带小孩的经验， 想问问本版的爸爸妈妈们 有什么好的建议。
Would you willing to give advice to help our church do better with the
international children – e.g. Chinese? The English practice group that you
and your wife visited is regularly attended by 20-30 people and more at
other times. Some wanted themselves and their children to learn about church
/English & more. On Sundays, we added lessons and fun events like bowling,
roller skating, and a Wii game time. Some of the kids whose parents drop
them off have not been well-behaved. We want to be careful to know what part
, if any, is due to different cultures, language issues, etc. and not just
kids away from parents testing what they can get away with.
For some reason, the Chinese boys age 7 to 12 are the most challenging. They
do a lot of shoving, punching, grabbing things away from each other, saying
things like shut-up (& name-calling I think), and so forth. Even a girl
about 12-14 punched another kid in the arm really hard. Since our group
leader didn’t see it, I just said hey, hey, hey – no hitting.
In my daughter’s school, they got in a lot of trouble if they put their
hands on someone else.
--Is this rougher shoving, pushing, grabbing more excepted in the Chinese
culture?
--Are their parents more lenient? Since they tend to be tougher on kids to
study, I’d be surprised they’d be easier on them in other ways, yet maybe
there is something I’m missing.
Our church leader of kids is very sweet, soft-spoken . . . do I need to
encourage her to be more firm and clear of expectations and rules of
behavior?
Either some kids do not understand English very well (or they pretend they
don’t) and during the lessons are being unruly, at those times, also. Some
parents (not just Chinese) have dropped kids off (a safe place, I think) as
if it’s free babysitting, free pizza/food and fun, yet they don’t come
get their kids at the proper time or leave good contact info. What are we
missing here that might be a cultural thing (or you think is not)? One
Chinese parent asked me if there is a family her child could stay with to
better learn culture and English. We don’t have a family who could do this,
so I’m not sure if I want to start asking others in the community to do
this.
We want our church group to offer more to international visitors than free
babysitting and free pizza/meals with games. Would you please give me some
insights into the expectations for boys and girls in China at the 8 to 14
age group? Or just ideas in general? Someone suggested that we try to find a
Chinese Christian young person to help with translation, however I’m not
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