k******s 发帖数: 237 | 1 Praised by ability (intelligence) vs. effort
How can it be a bad idea to tell a student she's smart? By praising a child'
s intelligence, we let her know that solve the problems correctly because
she is smart, not because she worked hard. It is then a short step for the
student to infer that getting problems wrong is a sign of being dumb.
...This conclusion should not be taken to mean that these students can
easily catch up. Slow students have the same potential as bright students,
but they probably differ in what they know, in their motivation, in there
persistence in the face of academic setback, and in their self-image as
students. I fully believe that these students can catch up, but it must be
acknowledged that they are far behind, and that catching up take enormous
effort. How can we help?
---Praise effort, not Ability.
---Tell them that hard work pays off
---Treat failure as a nature part of learning
---Don't take study skills for granted
---Catching up is the long-term goal
---Show students that you have confidence in them.
值得参考
From:
Why Don't Students Like School?: A Cognitive Scientist Answers Questions
About How the Mind Works and What It Means for the Classroom |
i*****a 发帖数: 7272 | 2 在推荐一本书Talent is Overrated,讲的意思也是差不多,无所谓什么天才,就是练得
多。我天天在家里励志,挡不住小孩惰性打大。。。
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【在 k******s 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : Praised by ability (intelligence) vs. effort : How can it be a bad idea to tell a student she's smart? By praising a child' : s intelligence, we let her know that solve the problems correctly because : she is smart, not because she worked hard. It is then a short step for the : student to infer that getting problems wrong is a sign of being dumb. : ...This conclusion should not be taken to mean that these students can : easily catch up. Slow students have the same potential as bright students, : but they probably differ in what they know, in their motivation, in there : persistence in the face of academic setback, and in their self-image as : students. I fully believe that these students can catch up, but it must be
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d****g 发帖数: 7460 | 3 最好使 -- good job! 或夸东西 -- wow that looks nice.
孩子要多夸。 |
i*****a 发帖数: 7272 | 4 多夸会帮助小孩更加自信,但是说好一定得加个详细的为什么好,要不然有失分量,小
孩一个个都是人精
【在 d****g 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 最好使 -- good job! 或夸东西 -- wow that looks nice. : 孩子要多夸。
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B*O 发帖数: 105 | |
S***e 发帖数: 4426 | 6 就是说要夸在点儿上,夸的恰如其分。
【在 i*****a 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 多夸会帮助小孩更加自信,但是说好一定得加个详细的为什么好,要不然有失分量,小 : 孩一个个都是人精
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l*****e 发帖数: 2447 | 7 用身体语言夸。
【在 S***e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 就是说要夸在点儿上,夸的恰如其分。
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X****r 发帖数: 3557 | 8 我最早看到这个说法的时候觉得很有道理,后来想想也未必。
夸奖孩子聪明并不需要认可聪明是能解答问题的充分条件。
反过来讲,即使孩子没能解答出问题,同样可以认可他的智力,
只要指出他没有付出足够努力即可。
从这个角度来看,夸奖孩子聪明反而比夸奖孩子用功更有效,
因为前者隐含着孩子有更大的潜力。
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【在 k******s 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : Praised by ability (intelligence) vs. effort : How can it be a bad idea to tell a student she's smart? By praising a child' : s intelligence, we let her know that solve the problems correctly because : she is smart, not because she worked hard. It is then a short step for the : student to infer that getting problems wrong is a sign of being dumb. : ...This conclusion should not be taken to mean that these students can : easily catch up. Slow students have the same potential as bright students, : but they probably differ in what they know, in their motivation, in there : persistence in the face of academic setback, and in their self-image as : students. I fully believe that these students can catch up, but it must be
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g*****o 发帖数: 1564 | 9 这说的是在学校,是啊,夸一个孩子聪明,是挺让其他孩子难堪的。夸用功大家接受的
更好,而且鼓励大家用工啊
在家里的话就都夸夸好了,孩子总有聪明的地方
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【在 k******s 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : Praised by ability (intelligence) vs. effort : How can it be a bad idea to tell a student she's smart? By praising a child' : s intelligence, we let her know that solve the problems correctly because : she is smart, not because she worked hard. It is then a short step for the : student to infer that getting problems wrong is a sign of being dumb. : ...This conclusion should not be taken to mean that these students can : easily catch up. Slow students have the same potential as bright students, : but they probably differ in what they know, in their motivation, in there : persistence in the face of academic setback, and in their self-image as : students. I fully believe that these students can catch up, but it must be
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s****1 发帖数: 1519 | 10 夸聪明孩子容易害怕失败,碰到问题做不出来干脆不做了也不要失去聪明的光环 |
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i*******t 发帖数: 499 | 11 孩子做得好我也常夸孩子聪明。不过同时灌输了聪明是从多试,多想,多做来的。 |
l******n 发帖数: 4276 | 12 聪明难道不是天生的?
【在 i*******t 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 孩子做得好我也常夸孩子聪明。不过同时灌输了聪明是从多试,多想,多做来的。
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i*******t 发帖数: 499 | 13 不知道,这好像是个很深奥的问题。也可以有不同的定义吧。
我觉得把它定义成后天的对孩子有更多正面的影响。
【在 l******n 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 聪明难道不是天生的?
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i*******t 发帖数: 499 | 14 搜 Nature versus nurture |
a****g 发帖数: 3027 | 15 已经被这样教育很多年,毫无异议赞同所说的每一条。
俺就一直搞不懂,夸小孩子聪明,小孩子长的漂亮,这些天生的东西,有什么好处。要
碰到更聪明的,更漂亮的,小孩子会有什么心理?
觉得应该夸夸小孩子打扮越来越漂亮/帅,通过学习思考变得越来越来聪明,这些努力
的东西,使养成习惯,更为重要。
【在 B*O 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 已经身体力行十几年了。
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A***u 发帖数: 3714 | |
P*******2 发帖数: 5 | 17 孩子越夸他用功,他就干劲越大,呵呵。这是所有父母都该学习的一个小道理 |
l*****n 发帖数: 1763 | 18 我家娃今年上了k,开始了学习生涯。回家后有时候忍不住说,谁谁笨,什么什么都不
知道。我就告诉他,将来会发现,周围大多数人都没他聪明,不要奇怪,更不要笑话别
人;但这个世界上总有比他更聪明的人,只是可能离得远、没看见。
我也告诉娃,要想学习好,光聪明还不够,更要认真。他马上举一反三地说,就和龟兔
赛跑一样。
我还告诉他,熟能生巧。在新学东西的时候,无论是爬假山还是叠飞机,他都会反复练
习,直至熟练掌握。 |
B******1 发帖数: 9094 | |
R*********i 发帖数: 7643 | |
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r**i 发帖数: 2328 | 21 哦,我更彻底,我跟娃说,你聪明,这世界上永远有比你更聪明的,你勤奋,这世界上
永远有比你更勤奋的。所以聪明也好勤奋也好都不是你要注重的,最重要的其实是你
ENJOY了这整个过程。 |
A***u 发帖数: 3714 | 22 亲,抱,微笑,还有啥身体语言可以用?
确实,语言本身是很软弱的交流工具。。。
【在 l*****e 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 用身体语言夸。
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A***u 发帖数: 3714 | 23 小孩子很难理解这么长的句子。要把这个意思讲得具体到他能立刻体会到。。
我实在没办法的时候,就只能用比较来刺激了, XXX怎么样。。。。但是“比较”这个
传统的办法不是很受人唾弃吗? 所以,我非常的困惑。。
【在 r**i 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 哦,我更彻底,我跟娃说,你聪明,这世界上永远有比你更聪明的,你勤奋,这世界上 : 永远有比你更勤奋的。所以聪明也好勤奋也好都不是你要注重的,最重要的其实是你 : ENJOY了这整个过程。
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A***u 发帖数: 3714 | 24 非常的有用和必要, 而且意义是长远的。。
因为孩子成年之后,无论成功或失败,是否接受自己喜欢自己,对他在社会上的立足和
心理健康就非常的重要了。 这个心理能力跟小时候父母对他的认可程度关系非常的密
切。
【在 a****g 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 已经被这样教育很多年,毫无异议赞同所说的每一条。 : 俺就一直搞不懂,夸小孩子聪明,小孩子长的漂亮,这些天生的东西,有什么好处。要 : 碰到更聪明的,更漂亮的,小孩子会有什么心理? : 觉得应该夸夸小孩子打扮越来越漂亮/帅,通过学习思考变得越来越来聪明,这些努力 : 的东西,使养成习惯,更为重要。
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r**i 发帖数: 2328 | 25 你不夸聪明也不夸勤奋,就夸他自己会找乐子不就行了。我娃5岁的时候,自己设计了
个电脑游戏,有规则有美工有配乐,当然很粗浅,我就恨恨的夸她自己会HAVE FUN,她高
兴的不得了。前几天自己写曲子,也是很粗浅的东西,但是她得到了乐趣,我也夸她了
。作为家长,我们只需要往有益的兴趣上引导,剩下的聪明啊勤奋啊,都是这个娃自己
的事情,聪明是天生的,感兴趣了自然勤奋。
【在 A***u 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 小孩子很难理解这么长的句子。要把这个意思讲得具体到他能立刻体会到。。 : 我实在没办法的时候,就只能用比较来刺激了, XXX怎么样。。。。但是“比较”这个 : 传统的办法不是很受人唾弃吗? 所以,我非常的困惑。。
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S*******s 发帖数: 13043 | 26 为什么正文里的别字就不该了?
【在 R*********i 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 麻烦LZ把标题里的别字该了吧。
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y****i 发帖数: 12114 | 27 这是东西方文化差异造成的。
各有个的好处,取舍就看个人了。 |