d****g
发帖数: 7460 | 1 不好意思，抢风头。
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-esteem
这个WIKI LINK看的我后心发凉啊。带着一棵沉重的心，欢迎所有爱＂思考＂，＂探索
＂的大娃小娃家长，介绍成功经验，分享教训。
抛砖引玉的话，我们老二占了LOW ESTEEM的好几条。哭。
A healthy level of self-esteem:
1.Firmly believe in certain values and principles, and are ready to defend
them even when finding opposition, feeling secure enough to modify them in
light of experience.
2.Are able to act according to what they think to be the best choice,
trusting their own judgment, and not feeling guilty when others do not like
their choice.
3.Do not lose time worrying excessively about what happened in the past, nor
about what could happen in the future. They learn from the past and plan
for the future, but live in the present intensely.
4.Fully trust in their capacity to solve problems, not hesitating after
failures and difficulties. They ask others for help when they need it.
5.Consider themselves equal in dignity to others, rather than inferior or
superior, while accepting differences in certain talents, personal prestige
or financial standing.
6.Take for granted that they are an interesting and valuable person for
others, at least for those with whom they have a friendship.
7.Resist manipulation, collaborate with others only if it seems appropriate
and convenient.
8.Admit and accept different internal feelings and drives, either positive
or negative, revealing those drives to others only when they choose.
9.Are able to enjoy a great variety of activities.
10.Are sensitive to feelings and needs of others; respect generally accepted
social rules, and claim no right or desire to prosper at others' expense.
11.Can work toward finding solutions and voice discontent without belittling
themselves or others when challenges arise
Low self-esteem :
1.Heavy self-criticism and dissatisfaction.
2.Hypersensitivity to criticism with resentment against critics and feelings
of being attacked.
3.Chronic indecision and an exaggerated fear of mistakes.
4.Excessive will to please and unwillingness to displease any petitioner.
5.Perfectionism, which can lead to frustration when perfection is not
achieved.
6.Neurotic guilt, dwelling on and/or exaggerating the magnitude of past
mistakes.
7.Floating hostility and general defensiveness and irritability without any
proximate cause.
8.Pessimism and a general negative outlook.
9.Envy, invidiousness, or general resentment.
10.Sees temporary setbacks as permanent, intolerable conditions.[30]
When given negative feedback, individuals with low self-esteem often take it
personally, and can be devastated by it. This damage can be much more
severe if the feedback is harsh or directly criticizes the individual's
worth, moral character, achievements, etc. Individuals with low self-esteem
are very critical of themselves and depend on the approval and praise of
others for their own evaluation of self-worthiness. They believe that a
person's approval of them is dependent on their performance, whether it be
academic, relationship, etc. People with low self-esteem view their
likeability in terms of successes: others will accept them if they succeed
but will not if they fail. | i*****a
发帖数: 7272 | 2 大家都关心的事，顶一个吧。
【在 d****g 的大作中提到】
: 不好意思，抢风头。
: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-esteem
: 这个WIKI LINK看的我后心发凉啊。带着一棵沉重的心，欢迎所有爱＂思考＂，＂探索
: ＂的大娃小娃家长，介绍成功经验，分享教训。
: 抛砖引玉的话，我们老二占了LOW ESTEEM的好几条。哭。
: A healthy level of self-esteem:
: 1.Firmly believe in certain values and principles, and are ready to defend
: them even when finding opposition, feeling secure enough to modify them in
: light of experience.
: 2.Are able to act according to what they think to be the best choice,
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