w******r
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w******r
发帖数: 1095 | 2 + 63 people like this Posted by PAUSD mother
a resident of Midtown
on Mar 9, 2015 at 9:51 pm
PAUSD mother is a registered user.
"Community" --- many people keep on using this word... for Palo Alto ----
aka "shallow Alto"
I have lived here for 11 years. There is no community here. This is a place
without a soul --
I have never encountered another parent in a store who had time to talk---
always... their response is "sorry, I'm in a rush.' Well... I think Palo
Alto needs to slow down and smell the roses... and teach their children to
do so as well.
When I was in high school... I don't remember any homework; I worked part-
time after school and on the weekends. I don't remember any pressure about
getting into a "good college" or pressure about what my future career was
going to be. I have a senior at Paly. That senior has told me that "the
light has gone out" that he is "anxious about everything and excited about
nothing." That: he has not enjoyed school since middle school. As a parent,
I have experienced extrene pressure from Paly's College and Career Office
since the first day of my child's junior year. A monthly calendar of "To Do"
items... to get ready for applying to college. My student has had to endure
... hours of homework 7 days a week. All work and no fun... makes Jack/Jill
a very depressed human being. What is the point anyway of living with
nothing but pressure about your future... instead of enjoying the present?
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w******r
发帖数: 1095 | 3 + 26 people like this Posted by mauricio
a resident of Embarcadero Oaks/Leland
on Mar 10, 2015 at 2:22 pm
mauricio is a registered user.
Palo Alto kids get depressed and panicked when told that not all of them
will become billionaires, multi millioners and captains of industry. This is
the kind of pressure parents and or school peer pressure is causing. Palo
Alto used to be the nicest imaginable place to live in. Friendly people who
greeted strangers on the street with a smile and a good morning. Friendly
neighbors, the most polite drivers I had ever seen. Now, people are uptight,
tense, angry and judgmental. Neighbors ignore and don't know each other.
Kids are put into such a competitive school environment, that even those
without emotional problems are stressed out to the max, and those with metal
issues sometimes crack under the pressure and expectations.
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c********i
发帖数: 638 | 4 为人父母版其实是大家自学当父母的草头班子，这里学徒多，演练的少，伸脖看得多，
自己抱着哪里捡来的葵花宝典私下琢磨的多虽然高手在民间，开会讨论的时候少。登台
现献技的少担心扔过来烂西红花太多砸死人。还有人喜欢专门砸场子找乐的。 |
c********i
发帖数: 638 | 5 面对竞争，淡定的父母才能培养出从容的孩子，抗打击能力从小孩起跑线的时候就开始
了。
百步笑50步，谁能看到人生末端？为了眼前50步的差距很多人都要鸡飞狗跳的往前赶，
群体效应。想养个从容不迫的孩子，家长先放松，也许不往尖子生扎堆的地方去是个规
避的好办法。把孩子送进那所学校的同时，你就给孩子准备了那种生活方式，都是家长
的游戏，孩子只不过是PAWN。 |
t*******r
发帖数: 22634 | 6 是不是从容不迫，首先是家长的问题，而不是娃或学校的问题。。。
怕了尔托高中再牛，也还是个学区内人人都上的公立高中，比千挑万选的藤校差远了。
。。对扑通蛙而言，还是有无数垫底的，（不信的话，上网查州考成绩）。。。
至于狠推型家长，看看文学城，就知道放哪个学校都是狠推型。因为人可以上 bbs 打
听。。。
【在 c********i 的大作中提到】
: 面对竞争，淡定的父母才能培养出从容的孩子，抗打击能力从小孩起跑线的时候就开始
: 了。
: 百步笑50步，谁能看到人生末端？为了眼前50步的差距很多人都要鸡飞狗跳的往前赶，
: 群体效应。想养个从容不迫的孩子，家长先放松，也许不往尖子生扎堆的地方去是个规
: 避的好办法。把孩子送进那所学校的同时，你就给孩子准备了那种生活方式，都是家长
: 的游戏，孩子只不过是PAWN。
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p**f
发帖数: 2610 | 7 其实这是这个年龄段正常的自杀率，并不算太离谱，不必过分解读。
【在 w******r 的大作中提到】
: http://www.paloaltoonline.com/news/2015/03/09/caltrain-reports-
: 让孩子们有个快乐的青少年时光吧
: 贴一些回复……比这个版上的讨论更深刻吧
: 都是真心话
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u*****a
发帖数: 6276 | 8 支持楼主。别推爬藤，注重健康向上。田忌赛马不可取；独木桥不要挤着过；火车道不
要跳。 |
