h*****e
发帖数: 2988 | 1 http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000142405274870411150457605971
By AMY CHUA
A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically
successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math
whizzes and music prodigies, what it's like inside the family, and whether
they could do it too. Well, I can tell them, because I've done it. Here are
some things my daughters, Sophia and Louisa, were never allowed to do:
attend a sleepover
have a playdate
be in a school play
complain about not being in a school play
watch TV or play computer games
choose their own extracurricular activities
get any grade less than an A
not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama
play any instrument other than the piano or violin
not play the piano or violin. | I*D
发帖数: 40035 | | h*****e
发帖数: 2988 | 3 看了篇western mom的回应, 蛮有道理, 这个讨论不光是一个育儿的问题, 更是一个
人生观, 世界观的问题. 每个人都应该好好想想. 摘录我觉得western mom最有道理
的一段如下:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/christine-carter-phd/chinese-moth
Perhaps even more disconcerting is how Chua disparages play and friendships:
She takes pride in never letting her kids have playdates or sleepovers, so
that they have more time for schoolwork and practicing their instruments.
If scientists have learned anything on the subject, it's that social
connections are the foundation for happiness, health, and success in life.
When kids build friendships through play, their social and emotional
intelligence flourishes; social skills are a key predictor of success later
in life. What's more, research clearly links loneliness and isolation with
chronic illness and increased mortality rates, not to mention unhappiness.
are
【在 h*****e 的大作中提到】
: http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000142405274870411150457605971
: By AMY CHUA
: A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically
: successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math
: whizzes and music prodigies, what it's like inside the family, and whether
: they could do it too. Well, I can tell them, because I've done it. Here are
: some things my daughters, Sophia and Louisa, were never allowed to do:
: attend a sleepover
: have a playdate
: be in a school play
| f***r
发帖数: 5548 | 4 It cuts in both ways.
也许小学的时候不同的族裔还能玩到一块，teenager后做为asian就是有sleepover
的机会也难以收获真诚的友谊（by default我指跨族友谊），很多现象都是大
环境造成的，那个华女作者写点儿花总蛆虫的文章又不敢深入讨论。
就跟当年犹太人搞高利贷的多一样，好多法律根本不让他们干别的。中国孩子学
theater就要有喝西北风的心理准备，好莱坞能接受几个亚裔啊？
看看印裔犹裔的mom，难道就没有特点？
要在美国扔上一亿中国人，再看看tiger mom的比例会不会降下来
friendships:
so
【在 h*****e 的大作中提到】
: 看了篇western mom的回应, 蛮有道理, 这个讨论不光是一个育儿的问题, 更是一个
: 人生观, 世界观的问题. 每个人都应该好好想想. 摘录我觉得western mom最有道理
: 的一段如下:
: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/christine-carter-phd/chinese-moth
: Perhaps even more disconcerting is how Chua disparages play and friendships:
: She takes pride in never letting her kids have playdates or sleepovers, so
: that they have more time for schoolwork and practicing their instruments.
: If scientists have learned anything on the subject, it's that social
: connections are the foundation for happiness, health, and success in life.
: When kids build friendships through play, their social and emotional
| h*****e
发帖数: 2988 | 5 看了一圈大家的讨论, 现在意识到这个Amy Chua就是美国张艺谋呀, 太恶心了,靠抹黑
全体中国人来为自己卖书. 能在yale law教书, 估计这样的恶心事没少干.
are
【在 h*****e 的大作中提到】
: http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000142405274870411150457605971
: By AMY CHUA
: A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically
: successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math
: whizzes and music prodigies, what it's like inside the family, and whether
: they could do it too. Well, I can tell them, because I've done it. Here are
: some things my daughters, Sophia and Louisa, were never allowed to do:
: attend a sleepover
: have a playdate
: be in a school play
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