u*******r
发帖数: 2855 | 1 我觉得问题在于你潜意识里面对现在的状况还算满意，所以没有必需的动力去改变目前的
状况。同时，你又不是一个特别有主动性的人。
所以，要么给自己找一个确实感兴趣的目标，要不从小事开始。 |
f******e
发帖数: 19 | 2 I cannot agree with you any more. I feel completely another feeling when I
arrived in U.S about my marriage. In U.S, there are more challenges for the
couples to face. Many couple become more intimated than before. At least for
me, I feel better than before. I believe the love is more pure than before.
Sometimes, conflicts occurs. Try to face it positively. Most of times, a
couple intend to remember the bad memories happened in their previous marriage
life and attack by teeth or by arms. At the |
d********e
发帖数: 11 | 3 偶觉得拖拖拉拉都是因为不喜欢要做的那件事造成的，说白了，就是逃避。
其实这不是“意志力”的问题，而是没有找到自己的兴趣所在，找到自己的兴趣
所在，拖拖拉拉的毛病自然会好吧。 |
h******r
发帖数: 148 | 4 I belive it's because you are afraid of your work.
You may disgree, but you are afraid of it in the deepest of your mind.
You have to figure out why you are afraid of it first, then you can change.
Otherwise it's going to be hard. |
j****a
发帖数: 10 | 5 It seems to be a common disease - if it is indeed a disease. It has nothing to
do with severe problems I guess, but with your lack of self-discipline. Maybe
you just need more motivation? More aspiration? More pressure? It is always
hard for us to concentrate and work hard continually on one job, in particular
that job is not so much interests you. Anyway, take it easy and learn to
control yourself as much as you can. |
d*********e
发帖数: 17 | 6 给自己的任务太多，而且不明确。然后就觉得很难解决。然后就害怕，就逃避。报纸上广
告没看完，我都觉得有事情没做完，还顾不上我的正事。结果就是经常大半夜才开始干活
。晚睡晚起，拖拖拖。很多时候虽然搞得精疲力尽，还能马虎交差。最差的时候是拖到最
后关头，紧张到极点，什么事情都做不了，就ｆａｉｌ。
我老是这样。也在琢磨，自己是不是心理不健康。
change. |
o****e
发帖数: 1011 | 7 我以前会有更多的“思前想后”，觉得“这样也不行，那样也不行。于是总是踌躇不前。
一方面是自己能力不足，一方面是自己害怕失败而逃避。
而这样的结果是越发失败，越发害怕。越发挨老板（导师）骂。越发束手束脚。
总是需要实际去做的。这样才能有结果给自己做借鉴，以期改进。
另外每次去做时尤其在一些关键的地方必须有一定的坚持，在这之后才再让自己放松。
（否则就会是比如浪费2天去做本来1天就可以完成的东西）
Be brave!
Good luck! |
