b**********r
发帖数: 59 | 1 I'm quite troubled by my obssessive personality. For example, I met a guy
online six months ago. Everything started very well and we dated for two
months and then out of blue he dumped me. I thought that I fell in deep love
with him and then the pain and grief made me really anxious. I began to
have compulsive behaviors, like wanting to call him all the time, thinking
about him constantly, searching online for relationship tips all day long,
searching online often to see if he was looking for ot |
A*********r
发帖数: 564 | 2 It is good that you realized it.
Did you ever seek professional help from school?
love
I'
【在 b**********r 的大作中提到】
: I'm quite troubled by my obssessive personality. For example, I met a guy
: online six months ago. Everything started very well and we dated for two
: months and then out of blue he dumped me. I thought that I fell in deep love
: with him and then the pain and grief made me really anxious. I began to
: have compulsive behaviors, like wanting to call him all the time, thinking
: about him constantly, searching online for relationship tips all day long,
: searching online often to see if he was looking for ot
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b**********r
发帖数: 59 | 3 I felt like it's not necessary for me to seek professional help because my
symptom isn't severe. At least I can function well with my work and life,
although I wasted time and energy on the obssessive behavior. I've purchased
some self-help books and hope they can help.
But this is an under-discussed topic here so I wonder if somebody can
provide some practical techniques to handle obssession.
【在 A*********r 的大作中提到】
: It is good that you realized it.
: Did you ever seek professional help from school?
:
: love
: I'
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A*********r
发帖数: 564 | 4 Well, you are right. There is no enough information about this topic here.
It is good that you have already taken action to help yourself and good luck
.
purchased
【在 b**********r 的大作中提到】
: I felt like it's not necessary for me to seek professional help because my
: symptom isn't severe. At least I can function well with my work and life,
: although I wasted time and energy on the obssessive behavior. I've purchased
: some self-help books and hope they can help.
: But this is an under-discussed topic here so I wonder if somebody can
: provide some practical techniques to handle obssession.
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s**a
发帖数: 8648 | 5 我知道有女人有这个习惯，if that makes it easier for you，因为这个习惯可能比你
想象的普遍，只是大家不愿意说。但我也不知道这个怎么处理，你以前是怎么走出来的
？上次呢？ |
t*******n
发帖数: 4445 | 6 It could be a relationship problem rather than an obsession problem.
You thought you were in a good relationship, and then it suddenly ended.
Understandbly, you are traumatized and confused. It takes a while for
people to adjust to such losses.
Short of going to professional help, you might want to reflect on the
relationship a bit more -- it's painful, so do it at a comfortable pace:
First, what do you hope to accomplish by the searching and phone calls?
Then try to objectively evaluate t
【在 b**********r 的大作中提到】
: I felt like it's not necessary for me to seek professional help because my
: symptom isn't severe. At least I can function well with my work and life,
: although I wasted time and energy on the obssessive behavior. I've purchased
: some self-help books and hope they can help.
: But this is an under-discussed topic here so I wonder if somebody can
: provide some practical techniques to handle obssession.
|
s**a
发帖数: 8648 | 7 有一部日本电影叫浮云，我一直想看，如果你能找到，也许可以看看。是讲一个女孩子
迷恋一个不忠的男人一辈子。不知道为什么，很多生活里面的事情，我经历的时候不清
楚，都是在看电影的时候想明白的。 |
d**e
发帖数: 9591 | 8 ###此帖已应当事人要求删除###
【在 b**********r 的大作中提到】
: I'm quite troubled by my obssessive personality. For example, I met a guy
: online six months ago. Everything started very well and we dated for two
: months and then out of blue he dumped me. I thought that I fell in deep love
: with him and then the pain and grief made me really anxious. I began to
: have compulsive behaviors, like wanting to call him all the time, thinking
: about him constantly, searching online for relationship tips all day long,
: searching online often to see if he was looking for ot
|
b**********r
发帖数: 59 | 9 Thanks a lot for your encouragement!
I bought a book "Obsessive Love: When it Hurts too much to Let Go" by Susan
Forward. It's a very good book talking about obsession and compulsive
behavior in relationships. After reading the book I thought that my issue
isn't bad compared to the cases that she mentioned. I didn't do intensive
pursuing, other annoying or destructive things to the guy. So I just need to
realize that the relationship is over and he won't come back no matter how
much I think abou |
c**r
发帖数: 10001 | 10 找个心理医生倾诉一下吧。
need help. I have no one to turn in to talk about it. Makes me very very
upset. I have been with this guy for more than 4 years. And now he suddenly
signaled me he didn't want |
A****e
发帖数: 3180 | 11 试着做点儿别的事情转移注意力，出去走走，旅游。每次尝试不想他10分钟，然后20分
钟，然后不断延长，努力把注意力集中放在其他的某件事情上。
Susan
to
how
horrifying
【在 b**********r 的大作中提到】
: Thanks a lot for your encouragement!
: I bought a book "Obsessive Love: When it Hurts too much to Let Go" by Susan
: Forward. It's a very good book talking about obsession and compulsive
: behavior in relationships. After reading the book I thought that my issue
: isn't bad compared to the cases that she mentioned. I didn't do intensive
: pursuing, other annoying or destructive things to the guy. So I just need to
: realize that the relationship is over and he won't come back no matter how
: much I think abou
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h*********g
发帖数: 44 | 12 每天早上洗漱完毕照镜子的时候，都对自己大喝一声，妈的，谁离了谁活不了啊！ |
m**9
发帖数: 3 | 13 He's trash!
love
I'
【在 b**********r 的大作中提到】
: I'm quite troubled by my obssessive personality. For example, I met a guy
: online six months ago. Everything started very well and we dated for two
: months and then out of blue he dumped me. I thought that I fell in deep love
: with him and then the pain and grief made me really anxious. I began to
: have compulsive behaviors, like wanting to call him all the time, thinking
: about him constantly, searching online for relationship tips all day long,
: searching online often to see if he was looking for ot
|
b**********r
发帖数: 59 | 14 没有看过这部电影。。希望自己不要象那样浪费青春，已经在费劲地抓住青春的尾巴了
。不过真的很怀疑自己是否还有能力再爱上别人。
【在 s**a 的大作中提到】
: 有一部日本电影叫浮云，我一直想看，如果你能找到，也许可以看看。是讲一个女孩子
: 迷恋一个不忠的男人一辈子。不知道为什么，很多生活里面的事情，我经历的时候不清
: 楚，都是在看电影的时候想明白的。
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