j******n
发帖数: 64 | 1 I am feeling I have a hard time to control my emotions
Sometimes I want to be positive, but just can not manage it.Though sometimes
I can.
Especialy when menstral cycle come, the days before period ,
it is like a disaster..
All the negative things come into my mind, and i ca not do anything..
This has affect my life, my study too much up to now.
i am having a slight depression, but I have such a busy and presurous life
right now..
I do not what can I do to change this..
anybody can help me? | c**********d
发帖数: 659 | | x**c
发帖数: 1435 | 3 change in hormone level makes our chemical balance tip and dip like a roller
-coaster, and it leads to our moodswings. I am against Pschy medication in
general but would still see a doctor in your case, becasue pills bring
quicker solution in addition to subsequent psychotherapy if necessary.
sometimes
【在 j******n 的大作中提到】
: I am feeling I have a hard time to control my emotions
: Sometimes I want to be positive, but just can not manage it.Though sometimes
: I can.
: Especialy when menstral cycle come, the days before period ,
: it is like a disaster..
: All the negative things come into my mind, and i ca not do anything..
: This has affect my life, my study too much up to now.
: i am having a slight depression, but I have such a busy and presurous life
: right now..
: I do not what can I do to change this..
| r**t
发帖数: 214 | 4 不要控制，控制是没有用的，你所谓的负面情绪中，实际上包含了很多于你密切相关的
东西，只是你不愿意去看，不愿意去接受和承认，一直在拒绝罢了。但是你越去控制，
越去压抑，心里就越是僵硬，越是难受。因为你试图将自己的一部分去抹煞掉，这样只
会使内心的空间变得狭小。
如果你能对正面情绪的极力追求和对负面情绪的抗拒逃避，认真去观察自己内心的情绪
变化，仿佛一个完全中立的记录员，如实对当下的状态进行体察。愉快的时候清楚地觉
知愉快，不愉快的时候清楚地觉知不愉快。既非愉快也非不愉快的时候，同样清楚觉知。
这样，愉快的时候感觉虽好，但也是不断在变，有生起，有消减。不愉快的时候虽然很
难受，但也在变化，增减，消失。这样在情绪不断变化转换过程中，去如实地观察体会
到（并非自己心里有意去想）生灭无常的道理。既然不会一直好，也不会一直坏，何必
违背客观规律，只妄图抓住某一面？如此能以更平和，更客观的心态，那么，以前一直
抗拒的，不一定很可怕。
负面的情绪里，包含了很多很多的东西，如实地面对，是非常好的认识自己的机会，不
要错过！！！有时间，有兴趣，研究研究“内观”。
有一个禅宗故事，可以参考。有个人学禅定，入
【在 j******n 的大作中提到】
: I am feeling I have a hard time to control my emotions
: Sometimes I want to be positive, but just can not manage it.Though sometimes
: I can.
: Especialy when menstral cycle come, the days before period ,
: it is like a disaster..
: All the negative things come into my mind, and i ca not do anything..
: This has affect my life, my study too much up to now.
: i am having a slight depression, but I have such a busy and presurous life
: right now..
: I do not what can I do to change this..
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