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发帖数: 2153 | 1 Just want to share a reading regarding reactive and proactive behaviors.
Love is used as one example for the discussion.
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"... look at my marriage. My wife and I just don't have the same feelings
for each other.... I guess I don't love her anymore..."
"Then love her..."
"But how do you love when you do not love?"
"... love is a verb. Love-the feeling- is a fruit of love, the verb. So ..."
"In the great literature of all progressive societies, love is a verb.
Reactive people make it a feeling. They are driven by feelings.
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Hollywood has generally scripted us to believe ... that we are a product of
our feelings. ... If our feelings control our actions, it is because that we
have abdicated our responsibility and empowered them to do so.
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Proactive people make love a verb. Love is something you do: the sacrifies
you make, the giving of self, like a mother bring a newborn into the world.
....Love is a value that is actualized through loving actions. Proactive
people subordinate feelings to values. Love, the feeling, can be recaptured.
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