s***y
发帖数: 31 | 1 a friend of mine is really depressed. about everything.
I dont know what to tell him or how to comfort him, cuz most of what he says
about life is actually pretty true.
It's really all about viewpoints, but I cant convince him, cuz optimism really
takes quite a leap of faith.
so I'm worried. =( |
m******m
发帖数: 11847 | 2 十分理解
有的时候看着朋友情绪低落可是爱莫能助
不知道怎么才能帮到他，因为不知道他需要什么
不过我想他要的应该不是什么道理或者说服吧
很多事等过了那个坎他自己就会明白了
有的时候乐观也是一种勇气，需要很坚强才能做到的
【在 s***y 的大作中提到】
: a friend of mine is really depressed. about everything.
: I dont know what to tell him or how to comfort him, cuz most of what he says
: about life is actually pretty true.
: It's really all about viewpoints, but I cant convince him, cuz optimism really
: takes quite a leap of faith.
: so I'm worried. =(
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c********a
发帖数: 780 | 3 我以前用过的招数，就是不管一切的，展现光明面。
有时候，说bright side的东西，说得我自己都不怎么信了，但是，还是坚持说。
其实，不是什么convince的问题，最后都是他自己脑子才转得过来，
just show him the other side of the same case... leave the rest to him...
剩下的，就是看造化了。:P
【在 m******m 的大作中提到】
: 十分理解
: 有的时候看着朋友情绪低落可是爱莫能助
: 不知道怎么才能帮到他，因为不知道他需要什么
: 不过我想他要的应该不是什么道理或者说服吧
: 很多事等过了那个坎他自己就会明白了
: 有的时候乐观也是一种勇气，需要很坚强才能做到的
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m******m
发帖数: 11847 | 4 那么说，有时候自己都觉得空洞
以前有个朋友，她不开心的时候我什么都不用说，只要陪着她就好
我就那么面无表情的在她旁边站着或陪着她走或骑着车
不是不想讲什么，可任凭我脑子怎么转，也不知道说什么
还好她知道的，我真的关心她，不会丢下她不管的
对别的人，我常常是手足无措语无伦次狼狈不堪
就是不知道怎么把这个信息传过去
【在 c********a 的大作中提到】
: 我以前用过的招数，就是不管一切的，展现光明面。
: 有时候，说bright side的东西，说得我自己都不怎么信了，但是，还是坚持说。
: 其实，不是什么convince的问题，最后都是他自己脑子才转得过来，
: just show him the other side of the same case... leave the rest to him...
: 剩下的，就是看造化了。:P
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v*******e
发帖数: 3714 | 5
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~I think this is the only thing
that matters in such situation.
I feel very moved by your words. true friendship is just like this,
with some awekwardness in it.
【在 m******m 的大作中提到】
: 那么说，有时候自己都觉得空洞
: 以前有个朋友，她不开心的时候我什么都不用说，只要陪着她就好
: 我就那么面无表情的在她旁边站着或陪着她走或骑着车
: 不是不想讲什么，可任凭我脑子怎么转，也不知道说什么
: 还好她知道的，我真的关心她，不会丢下她不管的
: 对别的人，我常常是手足无措语无伦次狼狈不堪
: 就是不知道怎么把这个信息传过去
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v*****n
发帖数: 621 | 6 我觉 得心情低落的人，最重要的宣泄，把情
绪排出来所以他/她通常需要的是一个理想的
聆听者。这个聆听者话不多，但是他的眼神表
情都可以让诉说者有说下去，全部说出来的冲
动。
我年轻的时候，经常说经常说，结果觉得自己
太不象男人了。后来就不说了，但其实心里面
还是很希望有个人能和我说说。但真的有好多
年没有说过心理话了。
【在 m******m 的大作中提到】
: 那么说，有时候自己都觉得空洞
: 以前有个朋友，她不开心的时候我什么都不用说，只要陪着她就好
: 我就那么面无表情的在她旁边站着或陪着她走或骑着车
: 不是不想讲什么，可任凭我脑子怎么转，也不知道说什么
: 还好她知道的，我真的关心她，不会丢下她不管的
: 对别的人，我常常是手足无措语无伦次狼狈不堪
: 就是不知道怎么把这个信息传过去
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v*****n
发帖数: 621 | 7 大肆的时候，和我一起做试验那个哥们,一米九七的个头。
失恋了，喝多了，哭个不停。我就拉着他的手，抱着他
的头，那么两个多小时。到他睡着。
想想真有意思，我那么个小个子，搂着个大个子。
【在 v*******e 的大作中提到】
:
: ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~I think this is the only thing
: that matters in such situation.
: I feel very moved by your words. true friendship is just like this,
: with some awekwardness in it.
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c********a
发帖数: 780 | 8 我也觉得这一点了，常常是，只能，捏着他的手，或者是紧紧地抱着，才希望
能够表达出，我真的在乎你，我想你快点好起来，什么都会过去的。
奇怪着啊，在这里能够能言善辩，到了那个爱护的人面前，反而，词穷了。 |
m******m
发帖数: 11847 | 9
关心则乱？
【在 c********a 的大作中提到】
: 我也觉得这一点了，常常是，只能，捏着他的手，或者是紧紧地抱着，才希望
: 能够表达出，我真的在乎你，我想你快点好起来，什么都会过去的。
: 奇怪着啊，在这里能够能言善辩，到了那个爱护的人面前，反而，词穷了。
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c********a
发帖数: 780 | 10 我想是吧，就像是，真正爱的时候，就会觉得，我爱你，说出来，都不是那个要表达的
意思。 我就觉得，老爸生日的时候，说一句，“老爸老爸我爱你！”
都不是那么简单的要表达的意思。
【在 m******m 的大作中提到】
:
: 关心则乱？
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m******m
发帖数: 11847 | 11
我有表达障碍，连这么简单的一句都说不出来
【在 c********a 的大作中提到】
: 我想是吧，就像是，真正爱的时候，就会觉得，我爱你，说出来，都不是那个要表达的
: 意思。 我就觉得，老爸生日的时候，说一句，“老爸老爸我爱你！”
: 都不是那么简单的要表达的意思。
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p*******r
发帖数: 4048 | 12 easy! Get to do some hard core excercise, then he will understand how valuable
is oxygen and life in general. The problem is people think too much and don't
excercise enough.
really
【在 s***y 的大作中提到】
: a friend of mine is really depressed. about everything.
: I dont know what to tell him or how to comfort him, cuz most of what he says
: about life is actually pretty true.
: It's really all about viewpoints, but I cant convince him, cuz optimism really
: takes quite a leap of faith.
: so I'm worried. =(
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p*******r
发帖数: 4048 | 13 Just keep talking to him is enough. It doesn't matter what you say in most
cases. That's all I do. If the friend says A, I say, oh you mean A. :)
says
really
【在 c********a 的大作中提到】
: 我以前用过的招数，就是不管一切的，展现光明面。
: 有时候，说bright side的东西，说得我自己都不怎么信了，但是，还是坚持说。
: 其实，不是什么convince的问题，最后都是他自己脑子才转得过来，
: just show him the other side of the same case... leave the rest to him...
: 剩下的，就是看造化了。:P
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p*******r
发帖数: 4048 | 14 Well, if you speak, you missed it. I speak less and less nowadays. The world
before language is very colorful.
【在 m******m 的大作中提到】
:
: 我有表达障碍，连这么简单的一句都说不出来
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m******m
发帖数: 11847 | 15 i think what you do is keep him talking :)
【在 p*******r 的大作中提到】
: Just keep talking to him is enough. It doesn't matter what you say in most
: cases. That's all I do. If the friend says A, I say, oh you mean A. :)
:
: says
: really
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m******m
发帖数: 11847 | 16 语言是误会的源泉
【在 p*******r 的大作中提到】
: Well, if you speak, you missed it. I speak less and less nowadays. The world
: before language is very colorful.
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c********a
发帖数: 780 | 17 嗬嗬，证明了，为什么会吵架，越来越多的语言，带来越来越多的误会
【在 m******m 的大作中提到】
: 语言是误会的源泉
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c********a
发帖数: 780 | 18
Before? emm... Lost... :(
【在 p*******r 的大作中提到】
: Well, if you speak, you missed it. I speak less and less nowadays. The world
: before language is very colorful.
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v*******e
发帖数: 3714 | 19 this is our postmodern situation.. Eco suggested in one of his article that,
when somebody wanted to present his love to a girl he truly loved, he could
not say "I love you" to reach his goal, instead he should prepare a long
paragraph of wordings such like "I know you have known already the traditional
meaning of 'love' is and you will not believe in me if I say 'I love you'
to you now, but I am rather sincere here, since it is impossible for me
to find another expression instead of 'I love you
【在 c********a 的大作中提到】
: 我想是吧，就像是，真正爱的时候，就会觉得，我爱你，说出来，都不是那个要表达的
: 意思。 我就觉得，老爸生日的时候，说一句，“老爸老爸我爱你！”
: 都不是那么简单的要表达的意思。
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s***y
发帖数: 31 | 20 yeah, so I offered him to come over and just read or sth while I do my
homework. =( cant talk much with him cuz i have a looooooooot of
homework. but i think it still helps him to have company. =)
【在 m******m 的大作中提到】
: 那么说，有时候自己都觉得空洞
: 以前有个朋友，她不开心的时候我什么都不用说，只要陪着她就好
: 我就那么面无表情的在她旁边站着或陪着她走或骑着车
: 不是不想讲什么，可任凭我脑子怎么转，也不知道说什么
: 还好她知道的，我真的关心她，不会丢下她不管的
: 对别的人，我常常是手足无措语无伦次狼狈不堪
: 就是不知道怎么把这个信息传过去
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v*******e
发帖数: 3714 | 21 hand. I couldn't say this out to my Dad when I wanted so hard.
so I will never want to say this out to him anymore.
【在 m******m 的大作中提到】
: 语言是误会的源泉
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s***y
发帖数: 31 | 22 yup. he thinks waaaay too much.
i feel so troubled cuz he's soooo smart and soooo talented, but he's just in
the wrong track of thinking. sigh, he's too much of an idealist. how do you
persuade an idealist?
valuable
don't
says
【在 p*******r 的大作中提到】
: easy! Get to do some hard core excercise, then he will understand how valuable
: is oxygen and life in general. The problem is people think too much and don't
: excercise enough.
:
: really
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m******m
发帖数: 11847 | 23 hehe, 今天在地铁上看到一则广告：
depressed? call 1-???-??blues
【在 s***y 的大作中提到】
: yup. he thinks waaaay too much.
: i feel so troubled cuz he's soooo smart and soooo talented, but he's just in
: the wrong track of thinking. sigh, he's too much of an idealist. how do you
: persuade an idealist?
:
: valuable
: don't
: says
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v*******e
发帖数: 3714 | 24 heng, u can copy Eco by yourself, I belive what he said was
1000 times Niuer than this :) |
t****e
发帖数: 2737 | 25 what is he thinking?
fa lun gong ?
what is the problem?
if it's a general problem
he must have been thinking for long time. so don't worry
if it's a problem arising recently,
just try to distract him from the thing happened.
【在 s***y 的大作中提到】
: yup. he thinks waaaay too much.
: i feel so troubled cuz he's soooo smart and soooo talented, but he's just in
: the wrong track of thinking. sigh, he's too much of an idealist. how do you
: persuade an idealist?
:
: valuable
: don't
: says
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p*******r
发帖数: 4048 | 26 that's why long distance relationship is hard. :)
world
【在 c********a 的大作中提到】
: 嗬嗬，证明了，为什么会吵架，越来越多的语言，带来越来越多的误会
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p*******r
发帖数: 4048 | 27 To that I offer the reply, I am the word you and you are the word I. Since
traditionally the two words are together in the phrase I love you, let's get
married. :)
traditional
的
【在 v*******e 的大作中提到】
: this is our postmodern situation.. Eco suggested in one of his article that,
: when somebody wanted to present his love to a girl he truly loved, he could
: not say "I love you" to reach his goal, instead he should prepare a long
: paragraph of wordings such like "I know you have known already the traditional
: meaning of 'love' is and you will not believe in me if I say 'I love you'
: to you now, but I am rather sincere here, since it is impossible for me
: to find another expression instead of 'I love you
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p*******r
发帖数: 4048 | 28 Frustrate him enough so he gives up. :)
【在 s***y 的大作中提到】
: yup. he thinks waaaay too much.
: i feel so troubled cuz he's soooo smart and soooo talented, but he's just in
: the wrong track of thinking. sigh, he's too much of an idealist. how do you
: persuade an idealist?
:
: valuable
: don't
: says
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