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发帖数: 6339 | 1 Filial Responsibility Laws
Filial responsibility laws impose a legal obligation on adult children to
take care of their parents’ basic needs and medical care. Although most
people are not aware of them, 30 states in the U.S. have some type of filial
responsibility laws in place. The states that have such laws on the books
are Alaska, Arkansas, California, Connecticut, Delaware, Georgia, Idaho,
Indiana, Iowa, Kentucky, Louisiana, Maryland, Massachusetts, Mississippi,
Montana, Nevada, New Hampshir... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 82482 | 2 Definition: Filial Piety (孝, xiào) is a virtue regarded by Confucius as a
way to ensure a peaceful family and society. Filial piety is loyalty to one
’s family and country. Filial piety is the most important moral in Chinese
culture. Showing love for the nation and selflessness in protecting and
loving one’s family is ideal.
这个肯定是东方概念。字典里面的etymology是：trans. of Chin (Pek) hsiao4
美国也讲的，程度特征不同而已，好像记得filial piety 是文化研究里一个很要紧的
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发帖数: 1 | 3 If you are not God, what exactly are you born to your mother, can not just
not clear, what is "real"? What is the most "true"? There's a little bit of
ambiguity. Where is your "true"?
If you are not God, you said that Falun Gong is the most representative of
China traditional culture, Chinese most emphasis is the so-called filial
piety, filial piety. What is "good"? What is the most "good", died so
heartless you treat her mother enough to petrified, filial piety? Where is
your "good"?
If you are... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 4631 | 4 不知道这样的东西算书么， 1772 BCE的样子。刻的内容如下：
CODE OF LAWS
1. If any one ensnare another, putting a ban upon him, but he can not prove
it, then he that ensnared him shall be put to death.
2. If any one bring an accusation against a man, and the accused go to the
river and leap into the river, if he sink in the river his accuser shall
take possession of his house. But if the river prove that the accused is not
guilty, and he escape unhurt, then he who had brought the accusation shall
be put to death, while he... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 14447 | 5 英语里有孝顺（filial）这个词，但是我几乎从未见过西方作者用filial来形容本国人
，几乎是专门用来描述儒家文化国家的，如中韩日。
不过至少从语义来说， 孝顺这个词的中文和英文解释并无二致。但是说起“谦虚（
modesty），中文和英文的理解就差了十万八千里了。
比如说，我们从小就接受要“谦虚谨慎”的教育，谦虚是美德。这也是几千年来的中国
文化了，从来都是教人别太张扬了，因为有得就有失，要和谐就要懂得平衡，特别是中
国人的那种长期历史观，就决定了要懂得收放。这也是中国人的智慧。
所以说，中国社会的稳定，在很大程度上也是靠这种自我克制来维护的。比如说，你已
经是高官巨富了，已经是功成名就了，已经得到了很多，那么就要在别的方面特别收敛
，说话办事要考虑到不如你的那些卢瑟们的感受，不要骄横跋扈，否则就刚而易折，容
易栽跟头。
比如说周恩来就是这样，越是对待级别比自己低的同志，就越是说话客气礼貌。以前本
版有个id贴出周恩来给张玉凤的一封信，里面用了“您好”，以此证明张玉凤和毛泽东
有特殊关系。这就很好笑，因为该id压根不理解中国居上位者的心态，也不懂得中国文
化里就是这样子的，越是你地... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 1109 | 6 【 以下文字转载自 WaterWorld 讨论区 】
发信人: weiya (yue), 信区: WaterWorld
标 题: 中日女人对比,我觉得挺有道理的
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Thu Jan 12 13:39:54 2012, 美东)
Japanese women vs. Chinese women:
1.
Japanese women often teach their children to bravely fight the forces of
evil, and even if they lose, it is still infinitely glorious, the highest
honor.
Chinese women often teach their children that when they encounter the forces
of evil they must be good at hiding/running away/avoiding. They say that
God will punish them [the force... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 1128 | 7 Japanese women vs. Chinese women: A little mean, but makes some good points!
1.
Japanese women often teach their children to bravely fight the forces of
evil, and even if they lose, it is still infinitely glorious, the highest
honor.
Chinese women often teach their children that when they encounter the forces
of evil they must be good at hiding/running away/avoiding. They say that
God will punish them [the forces of evil].
2.
Japanese women believe Japan is the world’s greatest country.
Chinese ... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 43 | 8 Mr. and Mrs. Xu Huaxin definitely replied: “time the son death's age should
be 25 years old”. According to Mr. and Mrs. Xu Huaxin recalls, a ten year
ago summer, local local police station's polices lead "Filial piety Feeling
Daily paper" and filial piety feeling television station's three reporter
come to the Xu China new home (according to China regionalismc, Yingcheng
subordinate in the Xiaogan jurisdiction), interviews its sub-Xu Siwen death
situation. After interviewing, in has not verified |
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发帖数: 141625 | 9 嗯，我把这句英语也放在原帖里，这样看起来更明白。她就是想翻译得更贴切，尤其在
逻辑上更合理。她的第一个例句更有代表性：
“父在观其志，父没观其行，三年无改于父之道，可谓孝矣”。
d.c. lau的翻译是：
Observe what a man has in mind to do when his father is living, and then
observe what he does when his father is dead. If, for three years, he makes
no changes to his father's ways, he can be said to be a good son.
金安平就觉得很不通，为什么一定要make no changes to his father's ways，如果他
爸干的是坏事呢？我从头到尾觉得她的思维非常理科式，我挺喜欢的。她的翻译是：
When your father is alive, observe what he would like to do. After your
father is dead,... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 141625 | 10 我也觉得最直观的理解是儿子，前后两句对称。她对这个“其”有一长段解释，说历史
上有争论。我把英语照搬上来，就不去找这些中文名了，呵呵，一点都不熟。我看完还
是觉得“其”指代父亲有点twisted，不过我不熟悉古文行文习惯。看看你们觉得如何：
The Song scholar Fan Zuyu said that when the father is alive, a filial son
is someone who will look to see what might be his father's wishes. （This
was what Mencius said about Zengzi's relationship with his father in 《
Mencius》, 4A:19, 7B:36.) This reading is different from that of the Han
scholars Kong Anguo and Zheng Xuan, which says, "When the father is alive,
you could onl... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 141625 | 11 嗯，我把这句英语也放在原帖里，这样看起来更明白。她就是想翻译得更贴切，尤其在
逻辑上更合理。她的第一个例句更有代表性：
“父在观其志，父没观其行，三年无改于父之道，可谓孝矣”。
d.c. lau的翻译是：
Observe what a man has in mind to do when his father is living, and then
observe what he does when his father is dead. If, for three years, he makes
no changes to his father's ways, he can be said to be a good son.
金安平就觉得很不通，为什么一定要make no changes to his father's ways，如果他
爸干的是坏事呢？我从头到尾觉得她的思维非常理科式，我挺喜欢的。她的翻译是：
When your father is alive, observe what he would like to do. After your
father is dead,... 阅读全帖 |
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wh
发帖数: 141625 | 12 我也觉得最直观的理解是儿子，前后两句对称。她对这个“其”有一长段解释，说历史
上有争论。我把英语照搬上来，就不去找这些中文名了，呵呵，一点都不熟。我看完还
是觉得“其”指代父亲有点twisted，不过我不熟悉古文行文习惯。看看你们觉得如何：
The Song scholar Fan Zuyu said that when the father is alive, a filial son
is someone who will look to see what might be his father's wishes. （This
was what Mencius said about Zengzi's relationship with his father in 《
Mencius》, 4A:19, 7B:36.) This reading is different from that of the Han
scholars Kong Anguo and Zheng Xuan, which says, "When the father is alive,
you could onl... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 14 | 13 Japanese women vs. Chinese women:
1.
Japanese women often teach their children to bravely fight the forces of
evil, and even if they lose, it is still infinitely glorious, the highest
honor.
Chinese women often teach their children that when they encounter the forces
of evil they must be good at hiding/running away/avoiding. They say that
God will punish them [the forces of evil].
2.
Japanese women believe Japan is the world’s greatest country.
Chinese women usually believe that the moon may be ... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 3888 | 14 14 Differences Between Japanese Women & Chinese Women
1.
Japanese women often teach their children to bravely fight the forces of
evil, and even if they lose, it is still infinitely glorious, the highest
honor.
Chinese women often teach their children that when they encounter the forces
of evil they must be good at hiding/running away/avoiding. They say that
God will punish them [the forces of evil].
2.
Japanese women believe Japan is the world’s greatest country.
Chinese women usually believe t... 阅读全帖 |
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i*****7
发帖数: 287 | 15 商朝似乎没有特别的“孝”的概念（别人骂宋人说他们是不孝之国），但有祖宗崇拜。
“孝”是周部落的特有的概念/词汇，比祖宗崇拜更进一步。周公加入了“顺”的成分
。孔子把“孝顺”推到了天上，比如正式规定父母死后子女必须伤心三年等等（之前是
自发的民间习俗）。
西方文化里的“filial love”大致相当与商朝吧，因为只讲究“爱”而不讲究“顺”
，肯定是周朝之前的水平。 |
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发帖数: 4091 | 18 I'm an Asian Woman and I Refuse to Ever Date an Asian Man
It has nothing to do with skin color. It has everything to do with
patriarchy. And guess what? More and more “racist”-against-Asian-men Asian
women are getting on the white boy bandwagon.
Jenny An
Aug 31, 2012 at 1:00pm | Leave a comment
I'm an Asian girl. I don't date Asian guys. Yep, I'm one of those that date
lots and lots of (mostly, but not always) white guys.
Why? It's simple: I'm a racist.
Yep, I said it.
And guess what? I’m not al... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 18007 | 19 http://www.jiaoyou8.com/friends_info?action=user_info&login_id=
我来自中国最北边城市哈尔滨，全家都是基督徒，所以希望能找到一位基督徒为夫
。我是一个性格开朗大方、信实公义、孝顺有爱、善解人意的女孩。有自信的外表
和一定的才华，喜欢运动、旅游、音乐，擅长书画，现在一家大型公司做高管。I come
from the most northerncity Harbin of Chinese .My Family are Christians.So
,I hope you are a Christian.I am a cheerful and generous,Reliance justice
,Filial love,Understanding girl.I have Confident appearance and Talent.I
Like sports,Travel,Music,and good at calligraphy.
希望你是一位虔诚的基督徒，有自己的事业（在事业上我可以协助你，在家庭生活
中你可以完全没有后顾之忧... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 3942 | 20 该文章很长，这里提供一个英文摘要和部分引文。
Ed. Note: Wesley Yang's piece, "Paper Tigers", presents fascinating insight
into the lives of Asian-Americans faced with life and career disappointment
after the diplomas, along with ways Asian-Americans are changing the game
to avoid these pitfalls, stemming from their values, upbringing, and
cultural norms. The take-aways are many, and we've selected only a few to
highlight in this venue. It's a recommended read in its entirety to
appreciate the full context and nuan... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 38600 | 21 八大发克：
Let me summarize my feelings toward Asian values: Fuck filial piety. Fuck
grade-grubbing. Fuck Ivy League mania. Fuck deference to authority. Fuck
humility and hard work. Fuck harmonious relations. Fuck sacrificing for the
future. Fuck earnest, striving middle-class servility. |
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x******g
发帖数: 33885 | 22 这家伙看来有病：
Let me summarize my feelings toward Asian values: Fuck filial piety. Fuck
grade-grubbing. Fuck Ivy League mania. Fuck deference to authority. Fuck
humility and hard work. Fuck harmonious relations. Fuck sacrificing for the
future. Fuck earnest, striving middle-class servility. |
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G*F
发帖数: 404 | 23 说得好。其实舔美不光是老将，小将也有。在美华人不了解自己的传统文化优势是根源
所在。
找了一下刘警官的生平：
今年32岁，独子
12 岁随父母移民美国
本来想当会计，911后决定当警察
几个月前结婚
是个孝子
'During his eulogy, Officer Liu’s father, speaking in Cantonese through an
interpreter, praised his son for loyalty to the family, a dedication in
keeping with Confucian practice, calling him “a filial piety son.” Officer
Liu had begun paying the mortgage on his parents’ home, and when Officer
Liu was married just a couple of months ago, his parents came along on the
honeymoon.'
看到这些，真是让人心痛
刘... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 7400 | 24 华大学伦理学和政治哲学教授、清华大学苏世民学者(Schwarzman Scholars)项目的讲
席教授贝淡宁(Daniel A.Bell，丹尼尔·贝尔）近日在英国《金融时报》发表署名文章
，他预计到2035年时，在中国执掌大权的仍是中国共产党，但这个执政党会改叫别的名
字。《金融时报》称贝淡宁为“中国模式”（The China Model）专家。
贝淡宁6月22日在《金融时报》发文，标题前半截乍一看很惊悚，似乎是加入了“
中国崩溃论的大合唱”，后半截却是转折。在这篇题为《对中国来说，共产党的末日就
在眼前——但只是名义上》（ For china the end of the Communist party is nigh
— but in name only）的文章中，贝淡宁认为，中国的政治体制不会崩裂，而中共即
使“消亡”也只可能是“名亡实存”。因为这个组织现在“既不共产主义也不是一个政
党”，更像一个精英统治组织。
贝淡宁认为，在组织结构和党统领国家这个意义上，中共属于“列宁主义”，但它
不具备“列宁主义”的其它一些重要特征；列宁主义式的政治动员在中国早已成为历史
，因为它也必须... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 2883 | 25 特别有关的段落：
Origins of the feminization of Asians
The stigma of Asians’ femininity began with the first wave of Chinese
immigrants to America in the late 19th century, says Ji-Yeon Yuh, an Asian-
American history professor at Northwestern University. Few of the immigrants
were women. As Asian men went in great numbers to seek white wives, white
American men saw the invasion as a peril and started branding the Asian
bachelors as asexual and homosexual.
In 1850, the Chinese community of San Francisc... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 27354 | 27 孝顺可以做名词，也可以做形容词，说他很孝顺，He shows filial piety? 貌似
native speakers 不大提及这个话题。 |
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发帖数: 8041 | 28 形容词可以改成filially pious，但是英语中的确没这个概念。 |
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发帖数: 16092 | 29 往他伤口上戳，骂他毛爷爷，这孙子很孝顺，very filial pious. |
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y*****g
发帖数: 1822 | 30 Aversion therapy horror stories
In the 1980s and 1990s homosexuals were given what many people today would
see as torture treatments.
"They'd place a metal ring on the genitals, and show a patient pictures of
naked men or have male models walk around them naked," said Zhang, 63. "If
they got an erection, they'd be given an electric shock."
The result of these treatments, admonished Zhang, was not only a loss of sex
drive but depression and even suicide. "Over the long run, people's sexual
orient... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 1822 | 31 They successfully launched a small non-governmental campaign to enhance
college-aged MSMs' HIV/AIDS prevention awareness in several northeastern
universities in 2007.
Despite these and other NGOs' efforts in the fight against HIV/AIDS,
homosexual rights NGOs continue to struggle into existence.
To date, no homosexual rights NGO has registered with China's civil affairs
authorities, due to their unique and unprecedented nature. Their ambiguous
status poses difficulties in raising funds and holdin... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 918 | 32 Chinese police have confirmed that Li Hongzhi's actual date of birth is July
7, 1952. 1951 May 13th (lunar calendar in early April eight), according to
legend is a Buddhist ancestor of the birthday of Shakya Muni. In order to be
Buddha reincarnation, without parental consent, "Li Zhufo" was easily
changed the date of birth. However, with the mother Lee Lu Shuzhen with the
hospital midwife Pan Yufang old Shoushan confirmed that Li Hongzhi's parents
met in the spring of 1951, married in the fall o... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 918 | 33 Chinese police have confirmed that Li Hongzhi's actual date of birth is July
7, 1952. 1951 May 13th (lunar calendar in early April eight), according to
legend is a Buddhist ancestor of the birthday of Shakya Muni. In order to be
Buddha reincarnation, without parental consent, "Li Zhufo" was easily
changed the date of birth. However, with the mother Lee Lu Shuzhen with the
hospital midwife Pan Yufang old Shoushan confirmed that Li Hongzhi's parents
met in the spring of 1951, married in the fall o... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 918 | 34 According to insider memories, Li Hongzhi parents after marriage and
emotional discord, separated in 1956, divorced in 1962. Later, Li's father
remarried, living on their mother to take care of ill. To this end, Li
Hongzhi a grudge. According to Lee's brother Sun Senlun "Li Hongzhi and I a
day in Thailand" a book, Li Hongzhi led the brothers and sisters on the
father's house, shouting, snatched a basin of his father Clivia beloved,
then did not board the father house, completely cut off the rela... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 11762 | 35 Li's father remarried, living on their mother to take care of ill. To this
end, Li Hongzhi a grudge. According to Lee's brother Sun Senlun "Li Hongzhi
and I a day in Thailand" a book, Li Hongzhi led the brothers and sisters on
the father's house, shouting, snatched a basin of his father Clivia beloved,
then did not board the father house, completely cut off the relationship
between father and son. After all, blood is thicker than water, after all,
is the biological father, "Li Zhufo" is clearly ... 阅读全帖 |
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t******r
发帖数: 8600 | 36 键盘侠真是一针见血。的确，动物世界的竞争法则是非常残酷的。但是，达尔文本人也
感觉到动物世界的“同情”和“道德情怀”在适者生存的进化中进化。
Darwin felt that "social instincts" such as "sympathy" and "moral sentiments
" also evolved through natural selection, and that these resulted in the
strengthening of societies in which they occurred, so much so that he wrote
about it in Descent of Man:
The following proposition seems to me in a high degree probable—namely,
that any animal whatever, endowed with well-marked social instincts, the
parental and filial affections... 阅读全帖 |
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M*********s
发帖数: 1086 | 37 那天顺手搜了下英文的＂孝＂字 - filial obligation。英文的＂孝＂其实是"子女对
于父母的责任"。没想到西方也有这方面的专门研究,主要是搞医学伦理和社会学的人研
究这个，给＂孝＂找了不少理论。更让我惊讶的是，西方居然有＇孝＇的法律，最早可
追溯到１６００年的英国法，主要是规定成年子女要承担父母的经济债务，但这些法律
当今很少有人提到或被执行 - 估计是现代西方社会的社会保障发达起来之后，国家代
替子女承担了老人的经济负担。下面说西方＇孝＇的的理论。
子女对老年父母有责任尽孝的一个理论是＂回报＂，即父母生养了孩子，付出很多，所
以孩子欠了父母的债，因此有责任回报。据说西方也有很多人世代认同这一点，相关道
德规范也多基于此。但有学者持不同看法,认为＂感激＂和＂欠债＂是两回事。如果是
你主动请求人为你做事，那你就＂欠了债＂,要回报。但如果你没要求别人，但别人主
动为你做了事， 那你心存感激，但没欠债,没义务回报。由于子女没请求父母生养，子
女只应感激父母，而不欠父母的债，子女对父母的责任应基于＂感激＂，＂回报＂的意
义过于狭窄，也无法界定要尽哪些责任来回报。
另一方面，有人提... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 1086 | 38 发信人: MakingWaves (making waves), 信区: Family
标 题: 西方的孝道理论
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Tue Mar 11 17:05:56 2014, 美东)
那天顺手搜了下英文的＂孝＂字 - filial obligation。英文的＂孝＂其实是"子女对
于父母的责任"。没想到西方也有这方面的专门研究,主要是搞医学伦理和社会学的人研
究这个，给＂孝＂找了不少理论。更让我惊讶的是，西方居然有＇孝＇的法律，最早可
追溯到１６００年的英国法，主要是规定成年子女要承担父母的经济债务，但这些法律
当今很少有人提到或被执行 - 估计是现代西方社会的社会保障发达起来之后，国家代
替子女承担了老人的经济负担。下面说西方＇孝＇的的理论。
子女对老年父母有责任尽孝的一个理论是＂回报＂，即父母生养了孩子，付出很多，所
以孩子欠了父母的债，因此有责任回报。据说西方也有很多人世代认同这一点，相关道
德规范也多基于此。但有学者持不同看法,认为＂感激＂和＂欠债＂是两回事。如果是
你主动请求人为你做事，那你就＂欠了债＂,要回报。但如果你没要求别人，但别人主
动为你做了... 阅读全帖 |
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s******n
发帖数: 2279 | 39 http://www.miller-mccune.com/culture-society/asian-american-parenting-and-academic-success-26053/
By Kathy Seal
Why do so many Asian-American kids do so well in school?
Researchers are zeroing in on one important reason: the unique style of
Asian-American parenting.
A visit to the University of California’s most selective campuses shows how
very well Asian-American kids do academically: While Asian Americans
constituted 14 percent of the state population in 2008, this fall they ... 阅读全帖 |
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c******i
发帖数: 4091 | 41 I'm an Asian Woman and I Refuse to Ever Date an Asian Man
It has nothing to do with skin color. It has everything to do with
patriarchy. And guess what? More and more “racist”-against-Asian-men Asian
women are getting on the white boy bandwagon.
Jenny An
Aug 31, 2012 at 1:00pm | Leave a comment
I'm an Asian girl. I don't date Asian guys. Yep, I'm one of those that date
lots and lots of (mostly, but not always) white guys.
Why? It's simple: I'm a racist.
Yep, I said it.
And guess what? I’m not al... 阅读全帖 |
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d****g
发帖数: 7460 | 42 再来一篇，我在暴风雨中孜孜不倦。精分。
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2854415/
１。几个定义
文化 Culture - 风俗，价值观，信仰，思维方式。经常跨民族，比如中国韩国。
种族 Race - 黄皮。黑发。眼睛形状。
民族 Ethnic Identity - 汗族，朝鲜族，country of origin。
亚洲价值观 Asian Values - 集体主义collectivism, 不标新立异conformity to
norms, 听从领导deference to authority, 不喜形于色emotional self-control, 孩
子有出息家里才认同family recognition through achievement, 认祖认宗filial
piety, 谦虚温顺humility, 等级观念hierarchical relationships, and 脸皮薄
avoidance of shame
２。美国亚裔分布
一共占４。２％。５１％在加洲, New York, and Hawai... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 1650 | 43 本人非常不认可楼主所谓的：“亚洲价值观”
Asian Values - 集体主义collectivism, 不标新立异conformity to
norms, 听从领导deference to authority, 不喜形于色emotional self-control, 孩
子有出息家里才认同family recognition through achievement, 子从父命filial
piety, 谦虚温顺humility, 等级观念hierarchical relationships, and 脸皮薄
avoidance of shame
以上楼主所说的“亚洲价值观” 正是中华文化的糟粕部分... 如果楼主真的这么执着以
你所谓的亚洲价值观，我觉得你还是回国养孩子吧，在那里你的孩子会少些冲突和痛苦
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m***n
发帖数: 12188 | 44 忠，仁，孝，义
一言蔽之，思无邪
因为很多传统都被妖魔化和庸俗化了，我解释一下：
忠和诚是一起的。诚为做人之本。忠于所事，诚实，诚心，诚意。朱子对诚是非常非常
强调的。
或许类似圣经的： love your God. （十诫第一誡）这是作为人最本质的东西，最基本
的要求。
仁：仁者爱人。也就是对生命和世界的爱。所谓人饥己饥，人溺己溺。见到禽兽，闻其
声，不忍食其肉。也是己所不欲，勿施于人。
类似圣经的love your neighbor as yourself，（耶稣说的第一大誡命）但是内涵外延
不全一样。
孝，这是中国文化的独有概念。英文的翻译filial love，其实是个很怪的翻译，但是
很难有更好的翻译。孝的概念其实很复杂。不解释了。大致是一种文明的接力棒，你要
把前人的努力接力好。
类似圣经说的: honor your father and your mother.（十诫之一）
义：虽千万人，吾往矣。
思无邪：非礼勿视，非礼勿闻，非礼勿行。
圣经，诺亚饮酒醉，裸睡，这是非礼。其子含见而笑，又招人来见，此更为非礼。其次
子闪则闭目，后退，以衣服覆盖父亲。保护了父亲的尊严，这是礼... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 3942 | 45 Ed. Note: Wesley Yang's piece, "Paper Tigers", presents fascinating insight
into the lives of Asian-Americans faced with life and career disappointment
after the diplomas, along with ways Asian-Americans are changing the game
to avoid these pitfalls, stemming from their values, upbringing, and
cultural norms. The take-aways are many, and we've selected only a few to
highlight in this venue. It's a recommended read in its entirety to
appreciate the full context and nuances.
......
Sometimes I... 阅读全帖 |
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f*******r
发帖数: 1086 | 46 小弟之前一直在欧洲读博士，今年2月份来美国博后，和老婆今年刚刚有了一个女儿，现
在打算邀请父母12月份签证过来团聚旅游一下，请大家帮忙看看我准备的邀请信，看看
有什么问题？ 欢迎大家拍砖，非常感谢的！
我没有主动在信里提女儿的事情，怕签证官觉得父母是过来带孩子，应该可以？
Dear Sir/Madam,
This is xxxx writing you a letter with great pleasure in support of the B-2
visa applications of my parents, Mr. xxx and Mrs. xxx. They plan to visit me
and my family from December 2011 to May 2012.
On February 7th, 2011, my wife, xxxx, and I moved to xxxx U.S., and I starte
d working at the xxxx University as a postdoctoral research associate. ... 阅读全帖 |
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m******u
发帖数: 12400 | 47 发信人: chichazi (吃叉子), 信区: Military
标 题: I'm an Asian Woman and I Refuse to Ever Date an Asian Man
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Wed Oct 23 15:10:14 2013, 美东)
I'm an Asian Woman and I Refuse to Ever Date an Asian Man
It has nothing to do with skin color. It has everything to do with
patriarchy. And guess what? More and more “racist”-against-Asian-men Asian
women are getting on the white boy bandwagon.
Jenny An
Aug 31, 2012 at 1:00pm | Leave a comment
I'm an Asian girl. I don't date Asian guys. Yep, I'm one of ... 阅读全帖 |
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p***y
发帖数: 18037 | 48 Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior
Can a regimen of no playdates, no TV, no computer games and hours of music
practice create happy kids? And what happens when they fight back?
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000142405274870411150457605971
By AMY CHUA
Amy Chua with her daughters, Louisa and Sophia, at their home in New Haven,
Conn.
A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically
successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math
whizzes and music prod... 阅读全帖 |
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y*e
发帖数: 9799 | 49 经常在网路上，在报刊上，看到有文章说，某些中国的老年人来美国，加拿大，探望他们的孩子，却遭到孩子们的冷遇，老人们抱怨孩子们不孝。
我想讲一讲中国人传统的的孝文化与西方文化的碰撞。当然虐待老人是另外一回事，不在本文讨论之列。
1。从“孝”字谈起
“孝”字，上边一个老字的上半边，下边是一个孩子的子，意思是，老来有子，老来靠子，老人和孩子在一起生活，孩子要奉养老人，等等一些意思。
中国人的孝，主要意思是指，从《孝经》流传下来的孝。例如： “身体发肤，受之父母，不敢毁伤，孝之始也。立身行道，扬名于后世，以显父母，孝之终也。夫孝，始于事亲，中于事君，终于立身”。并按照父亲的生老病死等生命过程，提出“孝”的具体要求：“居则致其敬，养则致其乐，病则致其忧，丧则致其哀，祭则致其严”。
所以中国人讲的“孝”，比较倾向于把父母的利益当作自己至高无上的生活准则，为他们而生，按他们的意愿而生。因此才有：“父母在不远行”，这样的子女生活准则。
比较流行的孝是指，我一把屎一把尿的把你养大了，你得听我的，你得顺从我，你得养活我，你得给我养老送终。
孝字翻成英文是什么？是“filially piety,” 再翻回中文 |
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p***y
发帖数: 18037 | 50 Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior
Can a regimen of no playdates, no TV, no computer games and hours of music
practice create happy kids? And what happens when they fight back?
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000142405274870411150457605971
By AMY CHUA
Amy Chua with her daughters, Louisa and Sophia, at their home in New Haven,
Conn.
A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically
successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math
whizzes and music prod... 阅读全帖 |
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