R********y
发帖数: 288 | 1 帮朋友急招通勤保姆，马上开始或者下周开始。
语言：
能讲粤语或者英文
地址：
在华大附近的house
时间：
周一至周五大约9-5或者10-6，大约40hours一周，可具体谈
工作：
带一个10个月左右的娃，准备晚餐，以及一些light housework
有意向请私信，谢谢！ |
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h********a
发帖数: 6364 | 2 在地下室锅炉那里能控制？
btw
俺们穷人又懒又笨，哪里有房子阿，
更不懂什么housework
而且也没时间，有时间的话都在灌水 |
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s*********f
发帖数: 155 | 3 1. research: do some hands-on research myself
2. lose weight to ~155 pounds with diet and exercise: tennis, basketball and
running
3. take a walk/or exercise with wife everyday
4. Clean up my investment portofolio
5. housework: fix driveway, paint deck, power-wash house etc.
6. Travel
7. Organize my papers and paperwork with a scanner to go paperless
8. Put together and print a few family photo albums |
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D*********4
发帖数: 29 | 4 I am a faculty. I do more than 80% of housework, but my partner still thinks
I should do more.... |
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l********s
发帖数: 395 | 5 Thanks. I never thought of being a housewife really, but recently the grant
stress (thankfully, it is now released) piled up and I started to ask myself
salaries compared to these guys whose wives do not work and do not do
housework?
不相关的差劲的人说难听的话你就当他放屁。(It was from my chairman. :( ) |
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s******t
发帖数: 2374 | 6 还大部分人呢？
上班比家务轻松？你这观点代表不了大部分人，起码代表不了我和lg。呵呵
我自己找工作的时候也呆家里两个月，哈哈，闲的都快让我长毛了～
呆家里确实太轻松了，无聊得很，每天做家务能做多少？难道每天都要把四处都擦洗一
遍？每天也就做点饭而已，根本不到3小时。清洁工作不会每天都要做5个小时，顶多1
个小时罢了。如果非要说呆家里，每天是》8小时的housework，我只能说，这人能力太
差了，连家务都做得这么慢，不会multitasking，统筹安排时间。哈哈。
绝大部分人选择工作，并不是因为工作更轻松简单，而是因为工作能带来一定的压力，
也有成就感，自己对社会比较有贡献，这种贡献比较visible。上面我也说了，对家庭
而言，对内对外的贡献都是100%没有高低之分，但是从个人发展而言，显然工作更能给
你带来更多征服人生的感觉。 |
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s*****g
发帖数: 7857 | 7 your sister is right. The key point is her pre-husband loss responsibility to
family or to himself.
"经济是婚姻的基石之一，是非常重要的。再说不是你姐姐冷酷，是你姐夫变了。他的
经: 济情况变化，导致他心态变化，变成一个不思进取的，懒惰的，对家庭毫无贡献的
人。 这样的人，有什么魅力呢？如果他下岗后能好好做个家庭妇男，让姐姐出去赚钱
，他把 家庭照顾好，可能你姐姐也不会离婚的。很多下岗家庭离婚，都是因为当事人
不但经济下岗，精神状态也下岗了。"
My classmate (Male) loses job for few years. He does a lot housework at home
and try to open another business again. His wife is a nurse. They also have
a kid. But their marriage is stable.
Actually, your sister did best what |
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j*******1
发帖数: 2045 | 8 Please read carefully. LZ do not have kid, and he does more housework than
his wife!! You are too.....mean. |
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j*******1
发帖数: 2045 | 9 Please read carefully. LZ do not have kid, and he does more housework than
his wife!! You are too.....mean. |
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s**m
发帖数: 4340 | 10 Don't spoil your LG!
If you can't or don't want to do the housework, just don't do it. |
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a**********t
发帖数: 9684 | 11 This is very possible based on my understanding of Shanghai MMs
Most Shanghai MMs were told to "train" their husbands to do various
housework tasks through their marriage |
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s**m
发帖数: 4340 | 12 pat pat mm
You need to talk with your LG.
I think he just doesn't understand you.
BTW, he needs to share the housework with you. |
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C***r
发帖数: 54 | 13 It depends on what kind of person your husband is. I am married early too. I
don't know how to cook before marriage. i don't need to do housework before
marriage. but after marriage, I need to do everything. 我觉得结婚也很锻炼人
。 |
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k***n
发帖数: 11247 | 14 why do they start doing housework when gettint older? |
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m****8
发帖数: 627 | 15 makes less money than wife, score 45
all the housework you do, add 10
comfort and listen to your wife ( since you did not mention it), add 5
romantic moments ( u did not mention this either), add 5
55 to 65 is a good guess
65 out of 100 at most |
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o**y
发帖数: 1084 | 16 It's true.
If I met a guy as LZ'sLG, I would not stay at home to have two kids and do
all housework for him. I would go to school, get degree and find a job. At
that time, if the guy changed, accept it, if not dump it. |
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n****m
发帖数: 1283 | 17 可是要知道从前拿人家彩礼的妇女在家啥都得干而且不能给随便给自己娘家一分钱的
If the groom's family did not give any bride's price, should they require
the bride to do all the housework?
In the old time, the wife did not need to work and earn a living. The wife
at that time work as a housewife. Nowadays, the wifes also need to work. Do
you mean the wife should work two jobs 24 hours a day?
That is called greed. If you like greedy husband, I respect you.
。 |
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p******a
发帖数: 26 | 18 She never cooked when she was here. I cooked everyday when I went home from
work. I did not cook for one day because my son had piano lesson that
evening. Then she cooked and that night she cried and cried and told my son
and my husband that she was going to die because she was too tired. Just
this one time, what can I do? She never ever did any housework, which I
really don't care. I told her that she could leave if she felt too tired,
but she insisted stay for five months and will come here ag |
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r********r
发帖数: 789 | 19 sounds like my father
but my father does a lot housework
DIY |
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I********e
发帖数: 6130 | 20 Then he shouldn't have said what he said. You both are students so why is
that you are supposed to do all the housework? 别开玩笑了. Saying that is
very annoying.
"
would |
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I********e
发帖数: 6130 | 21 If your wife just gave birth I think it's perfectly reasonable for you to do
chores. If the baby is like 3 months old it seems like she should be
helping out with housework. |
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r******d
发帖数: 238 | 22 How can i do it? I need to work, pick up my son after work, cook, do
housework,.......so tired. |
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g*******u
发帖数: 899 | 23 TOTALLY AGREE. High EQ is extremely important in the relationship.
If a woman does all the housework everyday without complaints, the man will
take it for granted and never appreciate as much.
his |
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z*****g
发帖数: 592 | 24 To Keep a Man not just good man:
Keep yourself attractive(most important) to him.
To be attractive in appearance is only one thing, keep him interested in
being with u is more important. A pretty but boring woman cant keep man
intersted.
Dont make him take granted for what you do for him.
If a man loves his kids, having kids with him stables the marriage.
Doing great housework is a good quality for a good housewife, but a man
doesnt marry a girl because she is a good cook, or a housewife. I find... 阅读全帖 |
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k***n
发帖数: 11247 | 25 let him do more housework, and treat him like one of your kids, this is the
only way your marriage can go on, i think |
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B*******s
发帖数: 690 | 26 As long as you feel happy, that is great!
It seems like you are a very capable and reasonable woman!
We all grew up with Chinese Traditional Cuture in which wife is responsible
for all of housework. I witnessed my mom worked so much when i was at home.
At that time, I did not help her out but focused on study. Now when i look
at back, i feel so bad about those old traditions! it is very unfair for
wife to do that alone!
By helping wife out, husband really shows respect to wife which is very
norm... 阅读全帖 |
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t********e
发帖数: 1238 | 27 millions congratulations I admire u so much. how could u end up marrying
such a noble caucasian guy?
Lz must be well-educated, gorgeous and able to do all kinds of housework, an
outstanding woman worth of applauding and following. I don't think there's
a chinese WSN whoever can be your peer.
BSO everyday, please, let those WSN look at themselves and feel ashamed. |
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k***n
发帖数: 11247 | 28 what about other housework? clean and decorate the home, raise the kids,
spending time with the kids... eat, eat, eat... why should it be the focus
of homelife? |
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w*****o
发帖数: 105 | 29 actually this is not related with money, it is all about responsibilities.
your LG (is he over 30?) does not behave like a man at all.
you may give him some ultimatuma such as:
1. Get straight A's on all his courses; otherwise, quit the damn permanent
head damage.
2. cut the time fooling around with little sister-in-academia, find a part
time job in a local chinese restaurant or papa john's.
3. if he cannot change, he will not set a good example for your kid. Look
the negative influence he gets ... 阅读全帖 |
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g*******u
发帖数: 899 | 30 这个帖里, 男人都很讨厌调教这个词. 也不喜欢被女人调教, 很正常.
俺家的CASE -- 俺老公基本不错. 属家庭型, 很有道德感的男人,工作很上进,收入不错
. 脾气很温和,人非常耐心,也从不吝啬.
但是他不懂得体贴, 而且对于家事是一直很懒惰的. 这个怎么调教, 我也琢磨了很久,
书也看了记得叫<>什么的.
俺后来累了, 调教老公干家务比自己干还累, 费那心思真的挺累的. 反正他肯让我用他
的钱, 我付钱给保姆和清洁工, 事情就基本解决了. |
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h*b
发帖数: 2040 | 31 是你孤陋. 刚买了本书<
and Housework>> |
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l******o
发帖数: 8344 | 32 for housework, you don't have to do that, if you don't want to do, no big
deal.
you can try not to cook for a few days, life would still be pretty okay. |
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F***9
发帖数: 579 | 33 yes. I never heard among our friends there are any couple, two adults, will
not talk to each other in front of kids because they both think they do more
housework than another party. Grow up, dude! |
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h*******a
发帖数: 1372 | 34 Something I forgot. Everytime I thought about this thing, I will be very
nervous. My mom charge me $800 becuase she helped do housework, she is from
village, you can imagine the food she cook and the clean work she did, but I
never comment on it and I always ask my husband not to comment it, we give
her full freedom at my home.I told my hus if you don't like the food she
cook you can go outside buy something you like but just don't let her know.
And every weekend, the whole big family will dine ... 阅读全帖 |
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t********n
发帖数: 1075 | 35 I think you can just give your parents a fixed rate, like $200 a month or $1
,000 if your parents are here to help out with your baby and housework.
You can tell your husband that the normal market price would be $1,500 a
month. So he had a really good deal! :) |
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k**r
发帖数: 102 | 36 Need aromatic? Try to find kids' play date. Have sometime alone with your
wife. Help her more with housework and kids' care.She may be too tried to do
anything else. |
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S*********r
发帖数: 5693 | 37 wrong, dating is more time-consuming.
if you're married, most wife will do the housework like cooking, washing
clothes etc, it'll save you a lot of time.
if you're just dating, you need to do cooking to the girl, or bring her out
. Either way, cost you a lot of time, or even money.
If you don't even date, just work all day long .... wait, are you sure you'
re a healthy man? |
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T*******7
发帖数: 636 | 38 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
rainwind (阳光总在风雨后) 于 (Tue Oct 26 12:18:27 2010, 美东) 提到:
你们感觉幸福吗？有life吗？
我的答案是否定的。
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newlily (lily) 于 (Tue Oct 26 12:28:45 2010, 美东) 提到:
那要看是哪种post-doc,如果是过两年做faculty的，还行，如果是千年postdoc，那就
肯定没有life了。
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rainwind (阳光总在风雨后) 于 (Tue Oct 26 12:36:05 2010, 美东) 提到:
从来美国那天起，就已经没有life了。他的那个BT老板,每个礼拜一都有meeting, 每个
人都要show data。
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GoooG (pu... 阅读全帖 |
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j****e
发帖数: 919 | 39 PAT PAT
I'm 8-month pregnant now, and I know exactly how it feels at this stage.
Don't know what to say about your husband, but do take care of yourself.
Stop doing housework. You shouldn't spoil your husband anymore. |
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C*****a
发帖数: 1025 | 40 This is mean.
Based on LZ's post, '我老婆是个能干好强的人，家里孩子都管的井井有条', his
parents '饭菜也从不挑剔', we know that his wife is taking care of almost all
housework and cook for his parents. His wife is good woman. |
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j******a
发帖数: 1582 | 41 原文链接
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/9572187/Couple
注意下面这段话
“Modern couples are just that, both in the way they divide up the choresand
in their perception of marriage” as being less sacred, Mr Hansen said.“In
these modern couples, women also have a high level of education and a well-
paid job, which makes them less dependent on their spouse financially.
They can manage much easier if they divorce,” he said. Norway has a long
tradition of gender equality and childrearing is shar... 阅读全帖 |
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j******a
发帖数: 1582 | 42 原文链接
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/9572187/Couple
这文章里面还提到了另一个研究
但国男们就不会把这个研究贴出来
The survey appeared to contradict another recent one across seven countries
including Britain that found that men who shouldered a bigger share of
domestic responsibilities had a better sense of wellbeing and enjoyed a
better work-life balance.
The researchers expected to find that where men shouldered more of the
burden, women’s happiness levels were higher. In fact they found that it
was the men... 阅读全帖 |
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y*****i
发帖数: 35 | 43
我挣钱,hire nanny to do housework, 不行吗。 |
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c**4
发帖数: 77 | 44 Speaking of old days...in the old days, Chinese women didn't work, yet
control the money of the family...
btw, if I have a daughter in the future, I'll spoil her. I'll also let her
to receive the best education possible so that she has the ability to find a
good job and hire someone to do housework for her. |
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h***0
发帖数: 312 | 45 Even she is not working, his husband needs to share the housework when he
got home. Taking care of baby during day and night is much harder than going
to work! But he went out to exercise and left her at home. Do you think it
is normal?
事情
那些 |
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e**s
发帖数: 513 | 46 My husband said many times to me that he really hates those husbands who don
't do any housework! |
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P******d
发帖数: 4272 | 47 tell you husband to grow up and take responsibilities as a man...
fix his own shit
or you can quit and be a housewife, if they want you to do all the housework |
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z****n
发帖数: 1514 | 48 If your in-law is your family, she would not insist you to do all the
housework. |
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P******d
发帖数: 4272 | 49 tell you husband to grow up and take responsibilities as a man...
fix his own shit
or you can quit and be a housewife, if they want you to do all the housework |
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z****n
发帖数: 1514 | 50 If your in-law is your family, she would not insist you to do all the
housework. |
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