S********a 发帖数: 1163 | 1 omg.. why ur inlaw don't give enough food to the boy. no wonder his weight <
50% |
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S********a 发帖数: 1163 | 2 i think u need to let ur inlaws leave. omg |
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h********1 发帖数: 114 | 3 It really depends on if you love kids, and will you regret not having more
kids. Personally I think three is perfect. My inlaws have four children,
and they say that their children are their biggest accomplishments. My boss
has two kids who are in college now, he always says he regrets not having
more kids. My husband's coworker wished the same too. But my mom wishes
she has no kid, I know she doesn't mean it. but it's true that everyone is
different. |
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T******t 发帖数: 420 | 4 I saw your later post. I understand you have practical issues, such long
working hours, not very social inlaws, etc.
I praise you that at least did not just send back your son to China. I
believe you are trying your best.
But your frustration does not help you or your son. Trying to understand
his reasonable needs, such as need to play, need to spend time with mommy,
is the key and a good start. |
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r*f 发帖数: 39119 | 5 我看你妹妹是有点blue,不能怪她inlaws. |
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d***g 发帖数: 1096 | 6 身上水洗, sometimes hair sticks to baby's skin. My inlaw taught me to use
baby powder first to dust off the hair, then give baby a bath. That worked
very well for us! |
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b*****s 发帖数: 836 | 7 that is the only way. You mentioned that there is no way that your parents
and your inlaws can help, unless you are financially stable and you can hire
a nanny or send both of your kids to day care, how can you have time to
study and go to school?
Again, I still cannot understand why you decided to have two kids while you
are still in the process of finding your way, have a long-run plan, and stop
complaining. |
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a*****a 发帖数: 19262 | 8 it's interesting. My parents-inlaw don't speak Putong Hua much. But once she
gets touch with Putonghua, then she prefers to speaking Putonghua.
Now my husband and I often speaks dialect, but she speaks Putonghua with us.
is it because PUtonghua is easier for the kids? |
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D**********R 发帖数: 25234 | 9 那是儿子和媳妇的做人问题。
不论男娃妈,还是女娃妈,都要教育孩子感恩,孝顺,不论是对自己父母还是in laws
,这才是解决问题的根本。
戴着有色眼镜看inlaws,或者给自己儿子灌输这种观念,不是自作自受么。 |
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a*****a 发帖数: 19262 | 10 I like this point.
so even after we pay so much for the daycare, then still not enough ....
this was the question from my father-inlaw. |
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x*******g 发帖数: 1363 | 11 hehe.. I feel the same way. I have been letting my older one stay with
grandma more than 3 times in the past few years, my second one stay with my
inlaw by himself once, with his sister only twice.
I guess I am a step mom... |
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s***a 发帖数: 200 | 12 今天回家又是满地的纸
拿了一叠废纸给inlaw 说让娃娃尽量玩别的活动 不鼓励撕纸
洗澡前 娃跑到废纸堆
在一张纸上画了图案 要娃照着线撕 totally ignore!
于是开始唐
帮爸爸收拾碎纸 要不要
要
(开始递纸给我 收拾了十来张 开始拍纸玩)
拿笔写字 要不要
要
宝宝写字好棒喔
(涂鸦有好几分钟 两只笔 一只是marker 把手上涂红了 后来洗澡时洗干净了)
明天不撕纸 要不要
要
把笔关起来 去洗澡 要不要
(自己套好笔)
之后表扬 表扬 睡前又唐了几遍
”明天不撕纸 撕完纸大人收拾起来很累 宝宝最乖了“
很平安得睡觉了
看明天如何 |
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x*******g 发帖数: 1363 | 13 haha. that is your thought. A luxury watch is quite a gift. A lot of males
in China like it. I am not sure LZ's daddy. But as I mentioned, we were
asked twice in the past years, to buy a brand watches as a gift -- one is
for my inlaw 80 years birthday. So it may be a trend in China.. |
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x*******g 发帖数: 1363 | 14 It really depends. Some parents are perfectly fine staying at home like my
inlaw, some parents, if you go outside without them.. hehe... |
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j****m 发帖数: 3137 | 15 really? then proud to be on inlaw's side. :-) |
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a******o 发帖数: 261 | 16 my older daughter's about the same age. she used to be an angel, but in the
past few month she has been a handful to deal with at times. on one hand,
given my wife has to spend more time with our 2nd child, i am happy to be
spending the majority of the time with her and she’s finally a daddy's girl
; on the other hand, i now appreciate why they call it the terrible two!
here's my 2 cents:
1) it's all about options: when she resists, there's a number of things you
can do: you can threaten her (t... 阅读全帖 |
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D**********R 发帖数: 25234 | 17 静下心来想想,就是立场决定眼光,楼主不论怎么写,都会有人抓住细枝末节挑刺的。
人家能跟岳父母生活很好,能让小姨子一家住下,不能说明lz是个身心健康,善于和人
相处的人吗?正常家庭长大的孩子,未必都能处理好inlaw的关系,楼主也是吃了苦受
了累的,却甘之如饴,不正说明人家有这分心,这个能力吗? |
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k******e 发帖数: 8870 | 18 why don't u worry about ur daughter the most? speachless...........
maybe basically, u r not different from ur in-laws.do you? ask yourself
if ur inlaw want to come again, ask them to treat both kids the same. if
they dare to hurt ur daughter one more time physically or psychologically, u
will report them to the police and they will be in jail. |
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n****m 发帖数: 1283 | 19 Good point. Ask the father first.
If the wife quits the job, will he be able not to complaining about
financial burden? Will he share 50% of whatever he earned with the wife. Are
there men complaining about wife not working here on MITBBS?
If the wife keep the job, will he be able to do half the chore share half
the nights to get up.
If not, the in laws should shut up their mouths regarding whether the couple
should have kids or how many kids.
Most of these inlaws ask the couples to have kids an... 阅读全帖 |
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p*********w 发帖数: 23432 | 21 Pearl Vodka for $1 Bottle after MIR @ Sam's Club
credit to slickdeals
So Sam's Club again has a MIR on their Pearl Vodka. At my Sam's in St. Louis
, the black label(plain), Citrus, Orange vodkas were $10.28 each, and
Cucumber was $11.48. The rebate is purchase 1 get $5 back, purchase 2 get $
20 back. So purchase 2 of Plain, Citrus, or Orange for $20.56+tax and get a
$20 MIR. With tax 2 bottle were $21.98, so after rebate $0.99 each.
The MIR has no state restrictions, and is only valid on purchas... 阅读全帖 |
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i*******0 发帖数: 227 | 22 除了想给公婆买苹果电器,原本以为没觉得有什么大的物件需求,结果搞得有点措手不
及。买了:
同学晒水下照片,一激动, 买了小米 YI 照相机,geekbuying, 62
女儿要e reader, Amazon,50
婆婆的ipad,在纠结买mini 4还是air 2,结果staples和target都没货了。领导要求买
新款的,结果找了一圈,索性买了ipad pro,Rakuten, $750 with $80 super points
returned, no tax.
领导自用 iphone,不要求新款,买了6 plus, unlocked, 700,ebay
领导Garmin Vivoactive, 160, target
ebay various accessories
waiting list: iphone 6s for inlaw
下月大账单。 |
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m*t 发帖数: 843 | 23 my inlaws have come twice
write a letter to custom to show you need to stay 6 months
show return ticket if you have |
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h********m 发帖数: 118 | 24 可能现在说有些马后炮了。
我每次都给海关写封英文信,
让父母入关时跟护照,回程机票一起递上去,
信上大意是:
老人家不会英文,来这里旅游,请给6个月,下面是旅游计划, blah, blah..
连着我inlaw, 一共五次,每次都是6个月。
当然,运气也很重要。 |
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d****a 发帖数: 3087 | 25 TSC 不知道。 VSC 没事。 我父母三次都延期,每次住大概一年。每次签证隔4年,都
签到。INLAW 同样,也没问题。 |
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m******y 发帖数: 46 | 26 Please advise me on my situation: My inlaws got visa and entered the US in
Jan 2008. They visited Canada on
July 4th and reentered the US, granted with stay of another 6 months. Then
they returned to China in Jan 2009
before the I-94 expired. We'd like them to apply for visa recently.
My 1st question is: are they eligible for the Citic Bank service with
interview waiver (visa expired on 1/9/2009
& returned to China on 1/5/09). sorry the link provided on this website
cannot be opened.
My 2nd ques |
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h**********8 发帖数: 76 | 27 Same here. My inlaw got 2 months to stay from SFO last Friday. This was
their 2nd entry. They left here on 7/28/10.
He |
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ie 发帖数: 1350 | 28 大侠们:
我inlaw 现在在美国,中国护照明年4月份过期,但是签证一直到明年6月份。那她
这次回国,然后再来(最早明年1月份),护照有效期不够6个月,就要renew。那她的
签证怎么办呢? 需要重新签么?上次是通过中信代办的。
谢谢 |
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l*x 发帖数: 14021 | 29 What risk do I put my parents in? At worst, I pay $250+ to change the return
ticket. Will IO give my parents a shorter stay or decline their entry
simply because their return date is in 6 monthes?
Again, I have to clarify. I never chosen the dates jusy because of the tax
saving. We always put other factors on top. But the original poster wants
his/her parents to stay as long as possible, then 6 full monthes is the best
choice, the tax saving is just a nice thing to come with it.
My parents and i... 阅读全帖 |
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v**t 发帖数: 88 | 30 Inlaws just passed by 中信代签. But they have very good records, no
extension, no 2nd entry before expiration date. Stayed at home for one year. |
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h*****s 发帖数: 821 | 31 中国人书面上parents和in-law都不分,都叫爸妈。但是写成英文就得分清楚。但是如
果我们用夫妻两人合写的邀请信,不知道怎么样address我的inlaw,老婆的父母。 |
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g****e 发帖数: 299 | 32 My inlaws use the scanned letter last week in Beijing. They got the visa in
2 minutes.
B2 visa turns to be much easier than before. |
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N*******r 发帖数: 118 | 33 If it is your first time to extend, I would say no problem at all. My
parents and inlaws both extended their stay. The second time they applied
for visa, they both got it.
Agree,只要回国带够时间,问题不大。
If your parents stay here for one year, it's better to stay in China at
least for the same length before you apply for visa.
3 month, 6 month, I don't see much difference. |
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f*u 发帖数: 5576 | 34 Just bought two pairs for my inlaw from this webside.
www.foryourlegs.com |
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w*******g 发帖数: 9932 | 35 you cannot claim any of them.
your parent or your inlaws have to stay more than 6 months by themselves. |
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h****s 发帖数: 16779 | 36 就是这样的,这两年给我爸妈,inlaws都申请了。 |
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n*******s 发帖数: 11 | 37 My husband just got citizenship, I am still green card, can my husband help
his inlaws to apply for green card now? |
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a*****n 发帖数: 5158 | 38 你知道父母与inlaws还是差了十万八千里的,一个有血缘关系,一个没有
即使能的话,也要等个十年八年的
help |
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un 发帖数: 1311 | 39 I was told it's just filling in a form.
We once sent SGD to my inlaws' account with Bank of China
they got it exchanged and withdrawn fine |
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un 发帖数: 1311 | 40 //blush. sounds more and more like I should just ask inlaws to take package
tours and leave the baby with us... |
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un 发帖数: 1311 | 41 haha, just let them be, why care about those ppl?
talking about this,
even my inlaws objected our decision of coming to SG
since they thought only losers move from US to SG...
so what... hoho
~~ |
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un 发帖数: 1311 | 42 EP可以给inlaws申请LTVP,只不过期限只有六个月 |
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c**********1 发帖数: 73 | 43 有啊,就是上面说的,parents跟EP的时间一样长,而inlaws居留时间是六个月,但是
可以续签。 |
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m*******o 发帖数: 301 | 44 无论是pr还是citizen,都不能给inlaw申请ltvp,只有靠你爱人自己给自己父母申。 |
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m*******o 发帖数: 301 | 45 无论是pr还是citizen,都不能给inlaw申请ltvp,只有靠你爱人自己给自己父母申。 |
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m******1 发帖数: 164 | 47 in law不行了,其他看你是P1/P2还是Q1/Q2。
The changes, from 1 September 2012 are as follows:
S Pass and Employment Pass (EP) holders need to earn a fixed monthly salary
of at least $4,000 to sponsor the stay of their spouses and children here.
P1 Pass holders will no longer be able to bring in their parents-in-law.
They may still bring in their parents, spouses and children.
P2 Pass holders will no longer be able to bring in their parents or parents-
in-law. They may still bring in their spouses and children... 阅读全帖 |
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a*****4 发帖数: 3081 | 48 haha, it is me and my inlaw. So we don't need 党代表. |
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q********i 发帖数: 795 | 50 my inlaw's in on june 8 |
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