t*******r
发帖数: 22634 | 1 以下为转载，link 在第二页。
Are We Overpraising Our Children?
The negative effects of overpraising kids
Posted Dec 10, 2013
Research has shown that there are positive effects of praising children, but
it depends on what kind of praise we’re dishing out. A recent Stanford
Study (link is external) of toddlers showed that “praising effort, not
talent, leads to greater motivation and more positive attitudes toward
challenges” down the road. These findings are consistent with previous
research, which has connec... 阅读全帖 |
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d****g
发帖数: 7460 | 2 我去查了下什么叫“心理反哺”。大家对号入座一下。。我感觉不太普遍。
My emotionally needy mother exhibited classic signs of narcissism,
１cast herself as victim in a wide range of scenarios,
２wanted to know about and if possible direct the decisions in my life (at
an age when I was more than capable of doing so),
３claimed credit for my accomplishments,
４was masterful with the Guilt Trip, and
５in general – little that I could do or say was sufficient to please her
– a problem in its own right.
The need for reassurance, affection, a... 阅读全帖 |
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d****g
发帖数: 7460 | 3 此番感触有新近发生的现实生活的根源。。。细节不说了。。
给个ＬＩＮＫ。
http://kotaku.com/the-realest-comic-about-growing-up-asian-american-and-1724281672
"We’re told from an early age, by everyone in our support system, that we’
re supposed to feel “AZNPRIDE!” in our identity — proud of the culture we
came from. Usually, we are. But sometimes, we resent it, and we’d rather
fit in than be different. It’s a struggle, from childhood through adulthood
, to overcome that — to stand up a bit straighter, and raise our voices a
bit loude... 阅读全帖 |
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t******l
发帖数: 10908 | 4 OCPD case study:
http://www.verywell.com/ocd-and-ocpd-a-case-study-2510598
[quote]
Sandy: A Very Strong and Competent Woman
... ... Most revealing, her husband said that she could not be pleased. And
while she was not ‘mean’ about it, everyone knew they could not live up to
her exacting standards at home, which greatly affected her relationships ..
. ... They stopped trying to please her, making jokes about her rigidity to
ease the tension. However, they knew that Sandy silently judged and resen... 阅读全帖 |
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t******l
发帖数: 10908 | 5 http://www.verywell.com/ocd-and-ocpd-a-case-study-2510598
看起来这个比较严重的 case 需要 medication。。。但我觉得大部分 borderline
的 behavior 改变一下就差不多了。
[quote]
Treatment for OCPD
Once all the facts were in, Sandy agreed to see our psychiatrist on staff ..
. ... Sandy realized that her beliefs about herself and others were creating
unrealistic expectations...
As Sandy started to make changes in herself, she was able to accept her son
for who he was as a person...
[/quote]
And
to
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to
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l***u
发帖数: 55 | 6 11/11/08 dos在线生成package
11/12/08 洛杉矶领事馆送出申请，拿到申请表，填好交给前台
12/03/08 向DOS寄出package (certified mail);
12/06/08 track USPS 显示 "Arrival at Unit, SAINT LOUIS, MO 63166"
01/07/09 DOS网站显示收到材料
1/17/09 在线显示大使馆向DOS发出No Objection Letter （11月list）
3/06/09 call DOS,被要求重发NOL。email 大使馆
3/09/09 使馆resent NOL
3/17/09 DOS网站显示收到NOL (不知是重发的还是原来的。从时间跨度来看，结合最
近大家的流水帐，DOS好像会在收到你的材料两个月后更新显示收到NOL。我的理解是，
DOS先处理你的材料，然后根据这个材料的受理时间去找你的NOL，所以早点寄材料给
DOS应该是王道。早点排队早点进哈。）
3/20/09 Favorable Recommendation; Recommendation Sent
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发帖数: 1 | 7 您好，我现在也碰到了同样的情况，已经 fax& email DOS sponsor的联系方式了，请
问在这期间DOS网站上会显示状态吗？比如说request resent这样的？
“然后我紧接着给了 签发我ds2019 学校officer的联系方式以及fax
终于2周后 收到dos request 他们是通过传真发的 学校的人传真回去 10天后fr” |
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l**********e
发帖数: 3149 | 8 September 16, 2011|By Barbara Demick, Los Angeles Times
Reporting from Beijing — At a glance, it is clear this is no run-of-the-
mill farm: A 6-foot spiked fence hems the meticulously planted vegetables
and security guards control a cantilevered gate that glides open only to
select cars.
"It is for officials only. They produce organic vegetables, peppers, onions,
beans, cauliflowers, but they don't sell to the public," said Li Xiuqin, 68
, a lifelong Shunyi village resident who lives directly ac... 阅读全帖 |
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m*******h
发帖数: 542 | 9 【 以下文字转载自 Military 讨论区 】
发信人: markbench (markbench), 信区: Military
标 题: 波士顿茶党是换汤不换药的新美国三K党
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Sun Jul 8 13:25:38 2012, 美东)
1930年4月6日早上6：30分，甘地从他自己老家开始，在费时24天，步行全程240里后，
领导着79位同志和数千名群众，到达了产盐的岸丹迪市海边，执行了〝丹迪盐巴大游行
事件(Dandi Salt March)〞的最终目的----亲手抓起了一把盐巴，放进了自己的披肩里
，在千百位印度同胞面前，彻底破坏了大英帝国的盐税暴政。
事后在与英国官派殖民地政府总督爱德华.欧文(Lord Edward Frederick Wood Irwin)
见面时，从自己的披肩里拿出一把没有交税的免费盐巴送给欧文。他面带笑容地向着欧
文说：〝这些盐巴使我们想起了著名的波士顿茶叶党。〞
甘地于1908年在南非为了只有黑人必须要带身份证问题而与大英帝国主义抗争起来，
毅然发动公开焚烧身份证运动时，英国的报纸千篇一律的用美国〝波士顿茶叶党〞事件... 阅读全帖 |
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d*******u
发帖数: 1181 | 10 傅苹自传造假一事，对美国社会来说，有没有新闻价值呢？当然有。傅苹并不是普通的
美籍华人，而是美国公众人物。她是奥巴马政府商业部下一个国家咨询委员的委员，算
是“奥巴马智囊”，去年刚被国土安全部移民局授予“杰出归化美国人”称号，其新书
上了《纽约时报》畅销书榜单，她频频接受各大媒体访谈推销自己和书，所有这一切，
都与其中美两重天的“人生传奇”分不开。现在其在中国的“人生传奇”被众多华人指
出是捏造、虚构的，该公众人物的诚信遭到质疑，不值得报道出来让美国公众知道吗？
但是我给十来个曾经采访过我的美国记者写信让他们关注一下此事，只有一个回复
说会留意一下。他们未必觉得此事没有新闻价值，很可能是觉得报道它属于政治“不正
确”，有替中国说话之嫌——设想一下，如果是一本美化中国的畅销书被发现充斥谎言
，美国媒体恐怕早就一哄而上了。倒是有欧洲和澳洲的媒体主动来联系我要做有关报道
。英国两家主要报纸《卫报》和《每日电讯报》已较为中立地报道此事。
到现在为止，只有一家美国英文媒体——和《新闻周刊》（Newsweek）同属一家公
司的新闻网站《野兽日报》（The Daily Beast）在2月4日报道了傅... 阅读全帖 |
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x***h
发帖数: 580 | 11 me either.
LZ please resent.
Thanks. |
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c***l
发帖数: 59 | 12 a conversion ratio will be calculated based on the M&A term by adjustment
panel( resentatives from options exchanges and OCC).
However, sometime it is complex and you may be asked for delivering
fractional shares/closing some position).
Jan 2012, |
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E**********r
发帖数: 2743 | 14 i start to not resent cats as much... :) but some of my favorite writers are
cat person also, such as Hemingway |
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E**********r
发帖数: 2743 | 15 i have no enemies, i don't hate people, just resent some behaviors.
unlike you, consumed by hate and revenge. what a pitiful life u have
money will not save u
u need to save yourself
read the article, get over it |
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m***c
发帖数: 14 | 16 其实这倒不是最郁闷的，郁闷的是把你招进来的头升官儿了，而把你扔给一群小肚鸡肠的
人管。我最近在做一个新技术的预研，还是招我那头临走前点名儿让我做的。感觉上早就
有些不对，旁边的人鼻子不是鼻子，眼儿不是眼儿的。前两天让我把结果给全group做个p
resentation.我努力讲了40分钟， 升官的头儿还是挺满意的，表示了一下赞许，顿时气
氛就不对了。我的新头嘴巴稍微动了动，说了些莫名其妙的话，会就散了。大头头也没回
的走了。可怜我的听力，只能应付学术名词，那些土语简直如同天书。我当时就感觉不对
，因为本来说好做完预研，就由我来design and implement。结果，果然新头今天来找我
，做沉痛状说恐怕这个项目下马了。一边说，一边眼珠咕噜噜转，瞟我有没有反映。当时
心里真气，可又不知说什么好。都是我的头，哪得罪的起？
另外，最恨老美的是诚心在group meeting上不是说slang就是冒french，诚心吗!就想让
你显得土.尤其搞CS的都是一群Geek (Jurk?)，排他，有洁癖。感觉真是在缝儿里挣扎。
那
“与人斗争，其乐无穷”。前几天我们大部门二百个人破天荒的开了个 |
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w*********t
发帖数: 319 | 17 Not really, he works smart, but just doesn't talk that much. Others
blah blah a lot, but don't get things done. - He is team player, trust me he got lots of Kudo reward from all kind of people. but he resents lazy/blahblah team members, inside.
I think the problem is he made some project manager mad.
be |
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D*******a
发帖数: 3688 | 18 他老板可不是这么认为。
建议等fryking的评点吧，哈哈
he got lots of Kudo reward from all kind of people. but he resents lazy/
blahblah team members, inside. |
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n*******r
发帖数: 244 | 19 该加班的时候真的是得加班，别跟老板过不去。
在公司里，尽量open一些，跟同事上级下级都搞好关系，中午吆喝一些同事一起去吃饭。
he got lots of Kudo reward from all kind of people. but he resents lazy/
blahblah team members, inside. |
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y******1
发帖数: 252 | 20 前不久才注册linkedin，很快就connect了一批新老同事。系统一直说profile not
completed，需要至少三个以上的recommendation，心血来潮就给一位前任老板，几位
前任同事发了邀请信，结果一连等了好几天都没有人回复，后来忍不住又resent了一次
，并加上一些言辞恳切的comment，让他们帮忙recommend一下，过了一周多还是没有任
何回音。。。这些人中中国外国的都有，以前的关系都非常不错，其中有一个manager
在我发推荐邀请之前还刚和我搭上线，聊得很火热。
请问大家这种情况正常吗？还是作为一个linkedin新人的我有什么地方做得不妥？
另外，linkedin对找工作的帮助到底大不大，上面的recommendation作用又如何？ |
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k**********i
发帖数: 8706 | 21 http://www2.tech.purdue.edu/cg/courses/cgt411/covey/48_laws_of_
The 48 Laws of Power
by Robert Greene and Joost Elffers
Law 1
Never Outshine the Master
Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to
please or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you
might accomplish the opposite – inspire fear and insecurity. Make your
masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights
of power.
Law 2
Never put too Much Trust in Friend... 阅读全帖 |
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a******e
发帖数: 36306 | 22 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
kelvinchufei (Kelvin) 于 (Mon Jan 30 16:01:38 2012, 美东) 提到:
The 48 Laws Of Power
by Robert Greene
☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
kelvinchufei (Kelvin) 于 (Wed Feb 1 16:22:45 2012, 美东) 提到:
http://www2.tech.purdue.edu/cg/courses/cgt411/covey/48_laws_of_
The 48 Laws of Power
by Robert Greene and Joost Elffers
Law 1
Never Outshine the Master
Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to
please or impress them, do ... 阅读全帖 |
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k***g
发帖数: 4904 | 23 We do not have any bill sent to the new address. We relocated and changed
the mailing address to our friend's. We do not have any joint bank account.
Could you read my draft response and make any comment? Thanks.
Dear Officer:
Yes we are still married.
The inconsistency in address information was caused by a technical issue.
Actually, we submitted the applications for changing our address together on
September 11th, and received confirmation of the service request via email.
The tracking nu... 阅读全帖 |
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m**g
发帖数: 573 | 24 What kind of questions did you ask in your e-mail. I asked about our
receipts twice. One officer told me that I should call custom service for
inforpass. Another officer told me that they do not know the reason and
they will not resent the receipts.
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j****2
发帖数: 281 | 25 I got a mail yesterday regarding my service request to I-765. But ONE week
pasted from this response, I haven't seen any update of my case.
Anyone have good idea for next?
My i-765 was filed with i-485 in Mar, which both got rejected by mistake.
I resent them in Apr. I got receipt on May 16.
"Documentation submitted meets the requirements for expedite processing of
your application/petition. You should receive a decision shortly" -- XM286
(U.S.CIS -07-06-2010).
I shamed that the Officer even sai |
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x**l
发帖数: 113 | 26 It was returned to me. I resent it to the right place. |
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s********n
发帖数: 2071 | 27 Resent after reorganized well |
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z*a
发帖数: 197 | 28 I requested prime precessing after I-140 pending for 3 months. I had to send
I-907 twice before it actually happened. The first time, I sent the form as
regular first class mail. One week after I mailed the form, a guy from
Florida called me saying that USCIS had mistakenly "sent" my I-907 form to
him! Had he not informed me, I would have been waiting for who knows how
long. Then I immediately resent the form by USPS express mail and my case
status changed the next day!
Not trying to scare you, ... 阅读全帖 |
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i****w
发帖数: 329 | 29 Thank you all. My RFE was messed up originally: didn't receive the original
letter. They resent a copy after 3 months , but no golden ( or whatever
color) sheet. My case is eb1a, non-pp, Texas center. I will wait to see if
anyone is in the same category as mine.. |
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k***g
发帖数: 4904 | 30 不知道是不是我对问题描述清楚了，先贴个刚简单draft的回复，请看看这样有什么问
题么？
没太理解为什么照片，机票可以证明婚姻状况没变，报税是在改地址前，银行账户还真
没有联合账户。
Dear Officer:
Yes we are still married.
The inconsistency in address information was caused by a technical issue.
Actually, we submitted the applications for changing our address together on
September 11th, and received confirmation of the service request via email.
The tracking numbers of our AR-11 requests are xx (husband) and xx (wife),
respectively. However, it turned out that only my request was p... 阅读全帖 |
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y*****o
发帖数: 2364 | 31 resent pass port visa number in red print on the right corner on visa page. |
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w**********c
发帖数: 136 | 33 just called FBI and was told FP was resent in May 2010, 15 months after last
FP (Feb 2009). |
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G**********g
发帖数: 264 | 34 My lawyer received the letter today. The expiration date is 8/18, though the
date on the header is 7/7. It looks like they resent the letter after I
called the second tier officer. |
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y*******g
发帖数: 247 | 35 http://www.immigration-information.com/forums/showthread.php?t=
While we can always hope for members of Congress to see reason, the reality
is that they (and the President) are pursuing their own political agendas. I
think that the President wants to raise immigration issues at ever
opportunity because he knows that the Republican response will always be "no
." Things may change a bit in the months ahead as primary election season
winds down.
Up until now, it has been possible for an extreme rig... 阅读全帖 |
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c***k
发帖数: 387 | 37 Now I really start to get impatient and resentful about TSC :( |
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a******i
发帖数: 52 | 38 NSC
PD: 2010-06
EB2->EB3
I-140
RD: 2014-04-04
ND: 2014-04-17
I-485
rejection notice received on 4/21 saying that the PD is not current
resent on 4/21 |
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a******i
发帖数: 52 | 39 NSC
PD: 2010-06
EB2->EB3
I-140
RD: 2014-04-04
ND: 2014-04-17
I-485
rejection notice received on 4/21 saying that the PD is not current
resent on 4/21 |
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l***0
发帖数: 224 | 40 You can call your center. Last time we talked to T2 officer, he resent one
to us. |
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l***o
发帖数: 140 | 41 今早老婆和我终于绿了。
Timeline:
EB2 NIW
I140 PD: April, 2009
485 Receipt date: Feb, 2012
485 RFE notice: June 9, 2014(This letter was not received and I asked them
to resent to me)
485 RFE Repsonse review: July 17, 2014
InfoPass: Aug. 28,2014 and the person told me that my case was just reviewed
by an officer.
Card production: Sep. 2,2014
这段时间受到版上很多人的帮助，真是非常感谢！可惜没有包子。
来美十一年，一把鼻涕一把泪！ |
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n****e
发帖数: 1403 | 42 你还好了 我用律师的copy回复都response review了
结果我的copy没寄到不说 还有可能被退回USCIS 结果response review变成了initial
review并说退件会给我的申请造成严重后果。我打了电话CS Level 1什么也不知道 只
能幇我request resent.都整一周了什么也没收到.
也不知道有什么后果 即使收到了我的copy 也不知是再回一遍RFE or not. |
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t*******e
发帖数: 1633 | 43 我真的很惊讶你这种智商居然能能办EB绿卡。共和党支持合法移民，不代表每一个共和
党员都支持合法移民。但是大方向上共和党对合法移民要友好的多，比如AC21, 比如
H1b advanced名额，都是共和党提出，获得绝大部分共和党支持, 并且是在共和
党控制参众两院的情况下通过的法案。 我一直邀请左派们列举出一个由民主党推动的
，对合法移民的作用能和AC21相提并论的法案，至今无人回应。你总是挑出一两个反对
合法移民的共和党，然后鼓吹民主党如何如何，我觉得十分无厘头。
还有人总拿阁老反对3012说事，并由此得出共和党反对合法移民的荒谬结论，我真是无
力吐槽。3012又不增加合法移民名额，只不过是取消国别把名额都给烙印了而已。 现
在中国的EB类勉强拿到7%的名额，如果3012真的通过而H1b的审查又不加强的话，说实
话我认为3012对中国人是灾难性的的，所有名额都会被烙印拿走，中国人的排期只会更
长。何况人家阁老AC21和H1b advanced名额都是投了赞成票的好吧，民主党员有多少投
了反对票？
整个民主党，注意不是一个，也不是两个，是全体民主党，都在绑架合法移民的利益来
推动大赦，究... 阅读全帖 |
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c*********2
发帖数: 37 | 44 most resent...
我律师说会附上说明
于是我觉得可能的确会有影响
2 |
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t*******e
发帖数: 1633 | 45 你们别被版上的几个民猪党宣传员蒙蔽了，那几个荣誉黑墨断章取义的抹黑Trump其实
只是为了捧稀拉痢。 如果你听过那场辩论就知道Trump多次提到高科技移民的重要性
One of the biggest problems we have is
people go to the best colleges … as soon as they’re finished, they get
shoved out. They want to stay in this country," Trump said at the debate. "
They want to stay here desperately. They’re not able to stay here. For that
purpose, we absolutely have to be able to keep the brainpower in this
country.
相反看看民猪党对高科技移民极端仇视
GUTIERREZ RESENTS GOP STEM VISA BILL
“
That is not America.... 阅读全帖 |
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g********f
发帖数: 1112 | 46 I got an email today saying the document was returned to USCIS by Post
Office because they cannot deliver it. So confusing.
I just called T2, she said their system is down today, she cannot see what
document was sent to me. She said probably the document was sent earlier and
returned but the online status didn't adjust right away and they resent it
today and the online status changed so I got an email about the returned
document earlier. Also it is possible a glitch of their system causing the
e... 阅读全帖 |
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t*******e
发帖数: 1633 | 47 来来，我也贴一段你们左逼口中“支持移民”的民主党议员的话，让大家看看民主党支
持的是哪类移民
GUTIERREZ RESENTS GOP STEM VISA BILL
“
That is not America. There was no special line for PhD's and Master's
Degree holders at Ellis Island.
There was not asterisk on the Statue of Liberty that said your IQ must be
this high to enter.
”
The fact is, we don't have enough jobs for the people who are here.�0
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0�2 Our
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s*****2
发帖数: 56 | 48 Resently a statement was repeared in the net:
Since the rumor that I were blind was published on the website of Fulun
Gong-Minghui Net,my frineds of Buddhist circle and disciples called me to
ast whether I was healthy on and on,and some of them even came to the Wuzu
Temple for me .During these moths, I always explain it,which makes me fall
in trouble.
I published a solemn statement to ask Mingjui Net to “remove the false
information,cease and desist all the torts,apologize to the Wuzu Temple and |
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发帖数: 56 | 49 A solemn statement again from abbot Shi Jianren
Resently a statement was repeared in the net:
Since the rumor that I were blind was published on the website of Fulun
Gong-Minghui Net,my frineds of Buddhist circle and disciples called me to
ast whether I was healthy on and on,and some of them even came to the Wuzu
Temple for me .During these moths, I always explain it,which makes me fall
in trouble.
I published a solemn statement to ask Mingjui Net to “remove the false
information,cease and desis |
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发帖数: 6973 | 50 John M. Glionna, In Chinese city, WWII enemies are now partners; Dalian,
once a colony and military hub of imperial Japan, has mostly put aside the
past as it welcomes high-tech Japanese investors. Los Angeles Times, May 25,
2009.
http://www.latimes.com/news/nationworld/nation/la-fg-china-dalian25-2009may25,0,3593122.story
Quote:
"Yang is a Dalian native who, like many here, speaks Japanese.
"Resentment still runs deep in China over Japan's 40 years of often brutal
colonial rule in this region i |
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