l*****s
发帖数: 279 | 1
I don't think this is selfish. She has her own feelings, and all feelings
are valid. She is not trying to gain her own interests on other's
expenses, which is selfish. She doesn't want to live with her in-laws,
that's her rights. She is entitled to have her own thoughts and judgement. |
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m********n
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kakana (nana) 于 (Fri Dec 25 09:11:29 2009, 北京) 提到:
和男友刚订婚，住在一起半年才发现他对吃特别挑剔。
我能理解不要放太多咸盐对身体不好。但他用矿泉水煮粥。汤。我决定特别没必要。
洗衣粉也不能放多量。有一次，我多放了一点，他就把内衣，袜子一个个闻，把味道重
的跳出来，又要洗。我站在旁边无语。一个袜子，至于吗。。。
我上厕所，他也要敲门，问我为啥这么长时间。他又不上厕所。还有问我为啥要在厕所
，一边看书，一边上厕所。。。我不知道他要干吗。
周末我好不容易睡个懒觉，他就把他一个上午作出的所有事情都告诉我。问我为何要躺
在被子里懒。半天都过去了。我每次都懒得理他。
可我现在决定我嫁了一个唐僧。麻烦死了。。我还不如一个人。
晚上要我把脚指头一个个洗干净，他还要一个个检查。我靠。。。。
谁有病。。。
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u****g
发帖数: 221 | 3 Selfishness and self-love, far from being identical, are actually opposites.
The selfish person does not love himself too much but too little; in fact
he hates himself. This lack of fondness and care for himself, which is only
one expression of his lack of productiveness, leaves him empty and
frustrated. He is necessarily unhappy and anxiously concerned to snatch from
life the satisfactions which he blocks himself from attaining. He seems to
care too much for himself, but actually he only makes ... 阅读全帖 |
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u****g
发帖数: 221 | 4 Selfishness and self-love, far from being identical, are actually opposites.
The selfish person does not love himself too much but too little; in fact
he hates himself. This lack of fondness and care for himself, which is only
one expression of his lack of productiveness, leaves him empty and
frustrated. He is necessarily unhappy and anxiously concerned to snatch from
life the satisfactions which he blocks himself from attaining. He seems to
care too much for himself, but actually he only makes ... 阅读全帖 |
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a******o
发帖数: 261 | 5 I feel your pain... i really do.
parents are humans too - they are not perfect - and some even less so than
others.
it is obvious that you care about them deeply, or at least what they think
of you.
believe it or not, they do care about you too, very deeply as well, but in a
very selfish, controlling, and destructive way (to you).
it seems to me what you are trying to do is to get closure on the pain you'
ve experienced so you can move on emotionally. but you choose to do it in a
way that requi... 阅读全帖 |
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a******o
发帖数: 261 | 6 I feel your pain... i really do.
parents are humans too - they are not perfect - and some even less so than
others.
it is obvious that you care about them deeply, or at least what they think
of you.
believe it or not, they do care about you too, very deeply as well, but in a
very selfish, controlling, and destructive way (to you).
it seems to me what you are trying to do is to get closure on the pain you'
ve experienced so you can move on emotionally. but you choose to do it in a
way that requi... 阅读全帖 |
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n****m
发帖数: 1283 | 7 Another selfish WSN. A typical Chinese man raised in an sick environment.
He has no respect for you. Stop helping him. He would never learn how to
respect his spouse unless he will be hurt hard.
Sadly, that means either you will be the first victim of his parents' poor
bringup of this selfish man. |
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n****m
发帖数: 1283 | 8 Another selfish WSN. A typical Chinese man raised in an sick environment.
He has no respect for you. Stop helping him. He would never learn how to
respect his spouse unless he will be hurt hard.
Sadly, that means either you will be the first victim of his parents' poor
bringup of this selfish man. |
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o****6
发帖数: 60 | 9 The wife should contribute to the family too, maybe not 50/50, but at least
take on SOME financial responsibilities. For example, if the husband pays
the bigger expenses such as rent and car payments, can the wife pay for food
and/or utilities? If the wife has income but is not willing to pay for
ANYTHING, especially in the home that she shares with her husband, then she
's a selfish person for sure. Ladies, remember this---you can be insecure
and keep all the money to yourself, but your husban... 阅读全帖 |
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X*G
发帖数: 187 | 10 I don' agree with LZ at all. If there is marriage, that means love and
loyalty. If you don' love him, don' marry him. If you want to betray him,
pease divorce first.
Marriage is not just a game. She should respect her husband if she really
loves him.
She did all these things. Betray him both physically and mentally. There is
no excuse, and don' deserve forgiveness.
Love is mutual. No matter how deep the love is at the beginning, It can
certainly fade away if you don' t protect and culture it who... 阅读全帖 |
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a**********2
发帖数: 3726 | 11 I won't take back what I said. Bio phd isn't worthwhile unless the only
purpose is to come to the US. IT, EE phd might be worthwhile.
If you argue with me about ” pay for earlier behavior”, then you have no
right to criticize anyone. I would argue that when you got your F1 or J1,
you said you would go back to China afterwards. Did you do that? Obviously
not. I would say your initial lie made other people difficult to get visa
before 2005. So you have no moral superiority.
What you want to get is... 阅读全帖 |
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j*****d
发帖数: 1625 | 12 Australian white is the most selfish white you had never behold!
Their scholarship for PhD students cant even offset the tuition! And
victoria state untill now, did not give discount for international students'
transit, disgracing the whole western world.
Tax is high. You work there. Then you help them raise their children and
their selfish old white.
Price is high. Salary is lower than most common wealth and USA and Canada.
Thats why people call Australia the tier 2 or tier 3 developed country. |
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c*****t
发帖数: 330 | 13 come on! The husband sleep through the whole night and can't wake up to help
his poor wife at 7AM? Can poor LZ has the opportunity like her selfish
husband to '正睡着香的时候被人叫醒'? I don't understand your logic. That's
ridiculous!!! This is definitely called SELFISH.I don't understand why LZ
can stand such behavvior for the whole 2 month. |
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r*******3
发帖数: 711 | 14 agree.
LZ means that younger people in the family have to
make parents and grandparents happy regardless.which means
"xiao shun".this includes breath in their second
hand smoke day in and day out without any complaints.
to LZ,physical health is nothing compared to making those
selfish grandparents happy.
that smoke indoor mother in law is selfish, self centered.
and unfortunately illiterate.and LZ is a fan of her.
i am done reading this kind of shit grandma story.
GET OUT to smoke or GET OUT for... 阅读全帖 |
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debonair (江南小生) 于 (Sat Aug 18 16:58:17 2012, 美东) 提到:
众所周知，中国虽然是乙肝大国，关于乙肝病毒的研究最发达的国家却是美国。
所以，中国医生嘴里的吃饭不传播乙肝病毒当然是转述自西方流行病研究的成果。但真
要探究吃饭是否传播乙肝病毒，还得考虑以下因素。
1. 目前现代医学的看法是，乙肝病毒携带者唾液里面的浓度远低于血液，所以唾液传
播并不是乙肝传播的主要途径。但注意不是主要途径不代表不是途径。
2. 中国人共餐，几乎每天和家人交换唾液。
3. 最要命的是中国人（包括第一代移民）口腔疾病多，牙齿牙龈有伤口出血是常事，
受感染的几率大增。
所以最有效的途径还是通过打乙肝疫苗，实行分餐。
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miaomi8 (miaomi8) 于 (Sat Aug 18 17:03:40 2012, 美东) 提到:
挺有道理
当然疫苗是王道
吃饭做不到分餐的话，用公筷公勺
★ 发自i... 阅读全帖 |
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t***h
发帖数: 40 | 16 IN THE COURT OF APPEAL OF THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA
SECOND APPELATE DISTRICT
DIVISION TWO
Wan (aka Winnie) Tin ) Case #: B222712
)
Plaintiff and Respondent, ) (Sup. Ct. No. CK71139)
v. )
Los Angeles County Superior Court )
)
In re Joshua Tin )
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B*****I
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tshch (大丈夫) 于 (Mon Nov 19 03:35:51 2012, 美东) 提到:
IN THE COURT OF APPEAL OF THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA
SECOND APPELATE DISTRICT
DIVISION TWO
Wan (aka Winnie) Tin ) Case #: B222712
)
Plaintiff and Respondent, ) (Sup. Ct. No. CK71139)
v. )
Los Angeles County Superior Court )
)
In re Joshua Tin )
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dorashat (Dorashat) 于 (Sun May 19 23:29:09 2013, 美东) 提到:
老大一年级还没有毕业。今天说了一句话，全家吃惊不小。
地下室放了N年无人问津的旧玩具拿出来收拾，老二要玩，老大不给，打架。老大胜，
然后又装回箱子里房子床下。
玩具要share。爸爸说。
你不玩，让妹妹玩会儿。奶奶也说。
It's mine, and I have right to do nothing. ~~ 老大说。
爷爷问啥意思，--我的东西，我有权什么都不作。 爸爸翻译。
爷爷想了想，啥也没说。
上学上班多少年，碰到同学同事，借书，借作业，自己没事帮点小忙，家里用不上的朋
友拿走，还倒贴汽油钱。今天老娘算是活明白了：我的就是我的。别人忙得脚后跟打后
脑勺，和我一点关系都没有。我的时间，我有权什么都不干。
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发帖数: 739 | 19 Remember the proactive parent, an 80-20 member, who wrote the "heart-felt, "no holds-barred letter from a Chinese American," shown below?
"We, Chinese Americans, often relish ourselves as the smartest and the most educated ethnic group in the country, but in some aspect, we are also the most stupid and selfish. We spend $35 per half hour to give our 
children a piano lesson, countless hours of after school to let them get ahead academically, move to good school districts,... 阅读全帖 |
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w*******r
发帖数: 7276 | 20 Why do we care about IVY so much? Take it easy, it is just a school. It is
just a period in kid's whole life. Their future success depends on a lot of
other factors. As an working professional, I don't see big advantages of
graduating from an IVY as compared with other good public schools, at least
in my profession.
"no holds-barred letter from a Chinese American," shown below?
most educated ethnic group in the country, but in some aspect, we are
also the most stupid and selfish. We spend $3... 阅读全帖 |
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p*******e
发帖数: 986 | 21 【 以下文字转载自 Jan2010_baby 俱乐部 】
发信人: powerwave (YY, My heart!), 信区: Jan2010_baby
标 题: Psychological Immunity (ZZ)
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Wed Sep 7 16:23:21 2011, 美东)
This is a great article to read:
Consider a toddler who’s running in the park and trips on a rock, Bohn says
. Some parents swoop in immediately, pick up the toddler, and comfort her in
that moment of shock, before she even starts crying. But, Bohn explains,
this actually prevents her from feeling secure—not just on the playground,
but in l... 阅读全帖 |
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L********r
发帖数: 758 | 22 这我不能同意，如果现在的AA是基于贫困的照顾，我会投No，尽管我的孩子在入学问题
上应该会吃一点亏。我觉得即使从我们自己的角度出发，fairness还是对我们长远的利
益最有利的。Selfishness can never take us far. Because when we hold our
selfish view strongly, we lose the opportunity of compromise and cooperate
with other people. That is exactly the problem the nowdays bi-party american
society has to overcome.
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reason
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a**********8
发帖数: 1393 | 23 I know someone who is exactly like your wife. She also left the child to her
ex and took all money.
Selfish people are always selfish. Don't expect them to change. She won't
treat your son well. All she cares about is herself.
Divorce her ASAP and then you can move on...
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n****m
发帖数: 1283 | 24 While a lot of people have been complaining about the selfishness, they are
missing the key point.
Instead of suppressing the human nature, selfishness, it is more effective
to establish a fair and suitable legislature system to guide people to go
through the correct path. |
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l******n
发帖数: 4276 | 25 娃对selfish的理解出现了偏差，家长好好引导下吧。自己选自己跟selfish一点关系都
没。如果是我，我可能会跟娃聊下他去参加竞选的动机，跟职位的要求，以及娃自己是
否适合这个职位，其他竞选人的情况。
还有这种自己不投自己票的情况在中国可能会受到鼓励宣传，高风亮节，在美帝，人家
可能还会觉得，竞选人自己都不相信自己，都不投自己，我们为啥要投他呢？我估计所
有美国的竞选，竞选人都会投自己的。
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t**i
发帖数: 3283 | 26 我会和他说，你run，就是觉得你是最合适的人，对吧
所以你应该选自己，不是selfish，是make it happen
选上了，你就可以serve，help大家把事情做得更好。所以投自己是help大家，不是
selfish。。。
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t**********0
发帖数: 1700 | 27 I thought that would be selfish.
你儿子有两个问题. 一是不说中文, 二是被洗脑了居然反感selfish.
再不加强教育, 长大就是一个无脑liberal
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a**********9
发帖数: 394 | 28 when they are too old, they should move to where their children live and
stay with them, or if they don't want to, they can either hire a maid by
themselves or by their children. but the children don't have the obligation
to sacrefice their own life and career just because they have to take care
of their parents, because everyone only have their life once and they have
the right to live it and the responsibility to take care of it by themselves.
As for me, I will always be independent (financial... 阅读全帖 |
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o****d
发帖数: 5454 | 29 I will not ask my son do this, but if he didn't do this, it means he is a
selfish man, do you agree?
In China, usually one's parents certificate all of their time and energy to
him. As my opinion, when he grew up if he couldn't take are of his parents,
it's totally selfish.
I will not learn western people, what they are good is only science, nothing
more.
fun |
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N********n
发帖数: 8363 | 30
Small government is the way to go. If you cannot figure it out then just
look at where European big government has led those PIIGS to.
Americans are truly too selfish, but it's not those who pay tax that are
selfish. It's those who don't and yet want endless welfare are.
You gotta be brain dead to let government collect even more tax after they
already manage to run just about everything into bankruptcy from Social
Security to Medicaid, Medicare, F&F, FDIC, Pension fund and so on. |
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h*****n
发帖数: 924 | 31 wow, it is heroic deeds to fight against chinese folks here. why not
just make your phone call.
you definitely have the right to be selfish, but showing off selfishness is
pathetic. |
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b*******e
发帖数: 554 | 32 selfishness , Chinese are way too selfish, no matter what kind of background
they have. We have a long twist history and twist culture. What a pity !!! |
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n****e
发帖数: 327 | 33 The biker is selfish to block the road (40mph limit) with a 20mph (or 25?)
speed. Although it is not a reason to be killed,but they need to take their
own risk. Once it is done, it is too late to argue who is right or wrong.
For drivers who are speeding, and passing other cars illegally, they deserve
to pay penalty for it. Nobody is innocent here, the difference is, the
biker paid his life for his selfish and stupidity. The driver may get away
or a few years sentence, but she is still alive. |
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w*t
发帖数: 591 | 34 I pay for the benefit I get, but not asking others to pay for it, tell me
why this is selfish?
Do you know a famous saying that: if you are in your 20's and you are not
democratic, you don't have a heart, if you are 40's and you are not
republican, you don't have a brain.
I am not against drugs, sex... you name it, as long as you can pay for the
consequence. Apparently, a liberal like you want to grant one (let's call it
A) the same right and demand other people (lets call it B) to pay for it. ... 阅读全帖 |
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j*****1
发帖数: 1107 | 35 Re this. It's selfish. Parent's money has much less time to compound. They
may need the money any minute. LZ has maybe more than 30 years till
retirement and has more time to catch up any loss if he cashes some savings
out. The parent's money is for their own enjoyment and security. Leave it
alone
BSO is much less annoying comparing to being selfish |
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L*********h
发帖数: 2617 | 36
你自己脑残，黑人和墨西哥人的地位和他们非洲墨西哥祖国的地位又什么关系？
>> China is not UK, Germany, Japan, Mexico, India, or Philippines.
You can't see the difference.
你真聪明，老中智商这么低，为啥美国还要进口这么多低智商的老中？大学和科技公司
里面老中越来越多？
>> You are book smart, i.e. high test scores and good at coding and
following instructions. That's not the "smart" I'm talking about.
随便就被忽悠，你最后怎么又说BBS上闹来闹去的？真理越辩越明，反倒是你崇拜的黑
哥最容易被忽悠。
黑哥真鸡巴没幽默感，nigger本来就是black的意思。
什么时候打官司，白宫请愿也成了旁门左路了？你智商高情商高，给指条正路？
>> Your lawsuit has a close to 0 winning chance. And a petition to... 阅读全帖 |
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L*********h
发帖数: 2617 | 37 This selfishness is the most typical WSN i've been talking about.
If you truly are 黄香蕉,
Then you should support that white kid's position -- wage war against PRC
and cancel all the debts.
At the bottom of your American heart, you should be happy that someone
finally said it for you, right?
Look at that Asian girl sitting next to the white kid, she didn't oppose at
all.
Why did you 黄香蕉 feel offended in the first place?
That's so confusing @@
Ok but then you fear that if a US-China war really hap... 阅读全帖 |
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t**********0
发帖数: 9359 | 38 【 以下文字转载自 Dreamer 讨论区 】
发信人: Dreamer (不要问我从哪里来), 信区: Dreamer
标 题: 忍到极限了，爆发了！
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Mon Sep 24 10:29:22 2012, 美东)
今天早上问老公要不要下下周和我和孩子一起去动物园（另外一个城市的，开车2小时
，我们是有活动必须要去）。他就又说不去，why? 就因为他不想。
于是我平时攒了很久的怒火终于爆发了！说他selfish, lazy.（注，2人都讲中文的，
手机短信用的英文）
我说, you just want to get drunk with your friends, never wants to show up
in our family events.他说我总是围着孩子转，我说那他当初就不该有孩子，不该有
family。
然后他还说他很生气，表示不再回我的短信了，我就说:
Ok, you do whatever you "like". At certain point, nobody wants to live with
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U*E
发帖数: 3620 | 39 投票是为了平衡。
Human are selfish. This kind of selfishness will make a personvote for
himself for ever.........
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T***c
发帖数: 17256 | 40 靠，一个阿猫阿狗的“前队友”，还不知道是谁，说了就算啊？乔老爷生涯共事过的队
友加起来得有三位数，乔老爷高压政策下面练出来了皮二哥，也有受不了崩溃的，其中
出来个把吐槽的毫不意外，问题是有说服力么？ 跟圣科比共事过又出来吐槽的少了么
，他们说的你都相信？
再说了，不管那个“前队友”是谁，他这句话毫无逻辑可言，单纯地kiss ass而已。就
单场比赛来说，乔老爷那场命中率过5成18个板子，还叫“selfish”地刷分，那整个
NBA历史上有几场比赛不是“selfish”的？ 就整个生涯来说，所谓“乔老爷平时就一
直在刷分（只是刷不到100而已）”这种论调，在乔老爷拿到总冠军之前满街都是，嚷
嚷这个的别说某面目模糊的“前队友”，就是各路更有credits所谓专家，媒体都是一
堆一堆的。 就是同一帮人，乔老爷3peat之后恨不得把“拜乔丹上帝教”的名片印在脑门上。 |
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D****u
发帖数: 735 | 41 That's what you think. And stopping saying Kobe is selfish, he shots less in
his career, he shots less in his top 5 performances, either in whole career
or in playoff games. If he is selfish, what about MJ? |
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u********r
发帖数: 2525 | 42 安东尼这么多年没有什么招人讨厌的行为吧，除了球队战绩不是太强以外
挺好一个人，人家打法就是这样，纯粹是媒体为了点噱头，一直强调他很selfish，你
妈的这个词媒体天天重复而且还当着人家面说，你打球是个selfish的人，你准备怎么
办？ |
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m*****a
发帖数: 266 | 43 某纽约球迷对现况的深入分析，貌似不管怎么样，melo is screwed and lin will be loved.
--------------------ZT-----------------------------
I think folks are not factoring in David Stern here.
Jeremy Lin is appealing and marketable to an entire segment of potential
fans that do not normally follow basketball. The President is talking about
Jeremy Lin. The women on The View are talking about Jeremy Lin. People in
college who don't follow the pro game are following Jeremy Lin. Having a
young black wannabe rapper thug life s... 阅读全帖 |
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h**********g
发帖数: 3962 | 44 LBJ让典韦做的更好。LBJ always makes team mates better.
He is not selfish. He is unselfish. He is non-selfish. |
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x*******1
发帖数: 28835 | 46 这篇文章挺有意思的
KHuangFebruary 10, 2013 at 4:04 AM
I think I have figured out the reason McHale is irritated with not just
Jeremy Lin but with any starting point guard he’s had (Lowry and Dragic are
recent examples).
McHale played a summer for Bobby Knight who is the master of the motion
offense. Like Mike Woodson who also played for Knight at Indiana, McHale
believes a point guard should be making quick decisions and not pound the
ball dribbling selfishly.
To these Knight disciples, most NBA point gu... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 4981 | 47 KINGJAMES.....this person comes around once in a blue moon...a man whos so
physically gifted he could walk into any sport and be a HOF'ER off his
natural (God given ability) last person who was this gifted in sports might
have been #BOJackson...LET'S take away EVERY STAT and start from scratch..#
NATURAL gifts...6-8..275..44 inch vert...once at top speed can't be stopped.
..vision like magic johnson..a natural #LEFTY who plays basketball as a
righty....him stepping on a nba floor with no effort ... 阅读全帖 |
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s*****m
发帖数: 13092 | 48 Lakers is more garbage team, and they all are selfish, led by Kobe who is
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J***n
发帖数: 210 | 49 He might have some bias issues but for what it's worth...
I live in Beijing and my gym is truly weird. I reckon I'm one of the only
normal people there. It is a local gym, not aimed at foreigners.
Here's some examples of the freaks I have to deal with every time I am there:
The people who walk backwards on the treadmills.
The almost psychotic levels of selfishness amongst the gym goers. (This is a
general problem in China, but that's another conversation).
The staff member who walks around karat... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 34339 | 50 转一片文章，俺觉得写得不错
BOSTON CELTICS: C-minus
Strategically, the trade made sense: The Celtics decided that the hole
created by Perkins' departure (rebounding and interior defense) wasn't as
important as the hole they needed to fill (perimeter scoring, perimeter
defense, flexibility). The dirty little secret of the 2010-11 Celtics? They
really missed … (wait for it) … Tony Allen.
That's right, Trick-Or-Treat Tony!
They actually missed his defense and athleticism. Marquis Daniels did a
decent job filling... 阅读全帖 |
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