t******s 发帖数: 159 | 1 My marriage goes wrong now. if someone can give me some advice.
She is good, she came here first then brought me and my old one over. 4
years later we had our younger one. I think everything went alright until
recently she didn't have any sex drive. Forget to tell you, we got our
greencards 2 years ago and she is the major applicant. I still really
apprecited what she brought to this family.
I don't know why, i think man is more like animal. I can't live without that
. Unfortunately her drive went down about 5 years ago now is even down to
nothing. She doesn't care my feelings everything, just every time (almost)
she refused to have it with me.
Is it b/c we don't have love any more? I think of it, but other than sex
life, she seemed totally fine to me. Just don't care what i need and that
totally throw me out. And like last night I couldn't control my anger.
I love er and have willingness to do things for her. I love this family and
my two sons much. if this leads to a divorce, it will be heartbreaking and
i don't think she can handle it.
Any suggestions? Don't give me shit like ONS MNS etc gentlemen don't do. |
b***b 发帖数: 13249 | 2 Poor man! I don't think you can do anything about it. If divorce is not an
option, then life like this is the only option since you cannot force her to
do things she doesn't like.
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【在 t******s 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : My marriage goes wrong now. if someone can give me some advice. : She is good, she came here first then brought me and my old one over. 4 : years later we had our younger one. I think everything went alright until : recently she didn't have any sex drive. Forget to tell you, we got our : greencards 2 years ago and she is the major applicant. I still really : apprecited what she brought to this family. : I don't know why, i think man is more like animal. I can't live without that : . Unfortunately her drive went down about 5 years ago now is even down to : nothing. She doesn't care my feelings everything, just every time (almost) : she refused to have it with me.
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X****r 发帖数: 3557 | 3 try seeking help from professional marriage counselor or family therapist
together with your wife. You cannot fix the problem without understanding
its cause, and you would never be able to fix it just by yourself.
that
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【在 t******s 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : My marriage goes wrong now. if someone can give me some advice. : She is good, she came here first then brought me and my old one over. 4 : years later we had our younger one. I think everything went alright until : recently she didn't have any sex drive. Forget to tell you, we got our : greencards 2 years ago and she is the major applicant. I still really : apprecited what she brought to this family. : I don't know why, i think man is more like animal. I can't live without that : . Unfortunately her drive went down about 5 years ago now is even down to : nothing. She doesn't care my feelings everything, just every time (almost) : she refused to have it with me.
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s**********8 发帖数: 25265 | 4 check her hormone level first to see if any physilogical clue
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【在 t******s 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : My marriage goes wrong now. if someone can give me some advice. : She is good, she came here first then brought me and my old one over. 4 : years later we had our younger one. I think everything went alright until : recently she didn't have any sex drive. Forget to tell you, we got our : greencards 2 years ago and she is the major applicant. I still really : apprecited what she brought to this family. : I don't know why, i think man is more like animal. I can't live without that : . Unfortunately her drive went down about 5 years ago now is even down to : nothing. She doesn't care my feelings everything, just every time (almost) : she refused to have it with me.
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w******0 发帖数: 4472 | 5 first rule out physical problem. take her to doctor. check hormone
level and whatever the doc orders...
is she too tired/stressed? think about more ways to relax her
decrease her chore times, more relaxing walks, more music, more small
talks, more vacations, ....
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【在 t******s 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : My marriage goes wrong now. if someone can give me some advice. : She is good, she came here first then brought me and my old one over. 4 : years later we had our younger one. I think everything went alright until : recently she didn't have any sex drive. Forget to tell you, we got our : greencards 2 years ago and she is the major applicant. I still really : apprecited what she brought to this family. : I don't know why, i think man is more like animal. I can't live without that : . Unfortunately her drive went down about 5 years ago now is even down to : nothing. She doesn't care my feelings everything, just every time (almost) : she refused to have it with me.
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q******n 发帖数: 661 | 6 荷尔蒙治疗
去医院
or
提高你的技术
估计你服务的不到位,你老婆未享受到性的快乐,说不定还被你弄得很疼
女人三十如狼四十如虎,好好开发 |
q******n 发帖数: 661 | 7 真的有了几次难忘的性高潮,估计就轮到你老婆天天bug你了 |
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t******s 发帖数: 159 | 9 ding
【在 q******n 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 好好去找一下她的敏感部位 : 晕啊
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b*******c 发帖数: 20683 | 10 不和老婆谈,和网上ID说顶个P用。问问老婆为什么不愿意和你XXOO。
【在 t******s 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : My marriage goes wrong now. if someone can give me some advice. : She is good, she came here first then brought me and my old one over. 4 : years later we had our younger one. I think everything went alright until : recently she didn't have any sex drive. Forget to tell you, we got our : greencards 2 years ago and she is the major applicant. I still really : apprecited what she brought to this family. : I don't know why, i think man is more like animal. I can't live without that : . Unfortunately her drive went down about 5 years ago now is even down to : nothing. She doesn't care my feelings everything, just every time (almost) : she refused to have it with me.
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t******s 发帖数: 159 | 11 Thank you for your comment. She always said she felt tired. Just because
there is no solution in between after so many talks.
【在 b*******c 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 不和老婆谈,和网上ID说顶个P用。问问老婆为什么不愿意和你XXOO。
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a**********u 发帖数: 28450 | 12 老婆不行,多半是老公的责任,如果不是(1)有病;(2)橱柜。
女人生完孩子都是如虎添翼的,你这个得搞清楚什么原因。现在就扯着嗓子喊离婚,不
由得哥鄙视你,亏你还是长鸡巴的。
【在 t******s 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : Thank you for your comment. She always said she felt tired. Just because : there is no solution in between after so many talks.
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s**v 发帖数: 512 | |
b*******c 发帖数: 20683 | 14 娃上幼儿园或上学的日子,两人请假在家,啥家务也别让老婆干,让她早上睡到自然醒
,那样没理由还累了。如果那样休息了就不拒绝老公了,就确实太累了,平时应该多休
假。如果怎么休息都还是不行,那就是个借口,好好谈谈。很不能理解夫妻两之间还有
什么谈不开的事。
【在 t******s 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : Thank you for your comment. She always said she felt tired. Just because : there is no solution in between after so many talks.
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t******s 发帖数: 159 | 15 Thanks, I am at work so I can't type Chinese. Sorry. Your opinion is good,
and I think we tried that. Didn't work, because she would go shopping crazy
if there is free time, then it turns out the same result again.
【在 b*******c 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 娃上幼儿园或上学的日子,两人请假在家,啥家务也别让老婆干,让她早上睡到自然醒 : ,那样没理由还累了。如果那样休息了就不拒绝老公了,就确实太累了,平时应该多休 : 假。如果怎么休息都还是不行,那就是个借口,好好谈谈。很不能理解夫妻两之间还有 : 什么谈不开的事。
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t******s 发帖数: 159 | 16 Thanks, it is easy to copy two characters from somewhere and paste here, but
it is not possible to copy and paste what really happens to me
【在 s**v 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 为啥标题用中文,正文用英文啊?
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l********a 发帖数: 1424 | 17 她的内心可能也是找不到安全感,想通过购物来填满。
也许是整天操持家务,想购物来满足和实现自我。
家里有两个孩子啊?多大了?
也许你们真的应该想办法让生活轻松一些。
crazy
【在 t******s 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : Thanks, I am at work so I can't type Chinese. Sorry. Your opinion is good, : and I think we tried that. Didn't work, because she would go shopping crazy : if there is free time, then it turns out the same result again.
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t******s 发帖数: 159 | 18 Thanks. Actually she has the same last name as yours.
My two sons, 10 and 3.
I guess this is what it is. Probably i did something wrong in my past life,
now this is just what god thinks I deserve.
I will take it.
Sometimes I think probably this is postpartum thingy? Any one has any
experience of it?
【在 l********a 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 她的内心可能也是找不到安全感,想通过购物来填满。 : 也许是整天操持家务,想购物来满足和实现自我。 : 家里有两个孩子啊?多大了? : 也许你们真的应该想办法让生活轻松一些。 : : crazy
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s**v 发帖数: 512 | 19 sex对于婚姻生活来讲挺重要的,如果不和谐,矛盾会越来越大,会影响到其它事情。
我觉得女人不愿意,有天生,也有后天有不愉快的经历后不喜欢了。她如果爱你,就该
尝试去改变,要好好沟通。希望你们早日恢复和谐。 |
f*****m 发帖数: 157 | 20 我认识挺多中国女人跟自己的丈夫从来没有过高潮,自然觉得性是可有可无的。中国男
人讲究老婆是处女,娶了处女,又没有办法让人高潮。前两年还可以糊弄过去,时间久
了老婆就没有兴趣了。其实很多女人都假装高潮,男人不知道而已。我没有见过高潮过
的女人会不喜欢性的。另外就是很多男人不注意自己的形象,腆着大肚子,不修边幅。
这样也是很难激发女人性欲的。 |
t******s 发帖数: 159 | 21 None of these is my case. We used to have great time but don't know why it
just died out. But thank you for your comment anyways
【在 f*****m 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png) : 我认识挺多中国女人跟自己的丈夫从来没有过高潮,自然觉得性是可有可无的。中国男 : 人讲究老婆是处女,娶了处女,又没有办法让人高潮。前两年还可以糊弄过去,时间久 : 了老婆就没有兴趣了。其实很多女人都假装高潮,男人不知道而已。我没有见过高潮过 : 的女人会不喜欢性的。另外就是很多男人不注意自己的形象,腆着大肚子,不修边幅。 : 这样也是很难激发女人性欲的。
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