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Love版 - 刚开始要不要单独请人吃饭?
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f*****n
发帖数: 970
1
喜欢上一个女孩,大家别笑我,俺没有恋爱经验。然后想请她明天吃饭,但是应该是两
个人呢,还是让
她叫上她姐们,我叫上我哥们,这样是不是大家都不会太拘谨。
另外这样四个人了,如何协调呢,怎么表达爱意呢?
f*****n
发帖数: 970
2
都出去约会了吗,给点建议呗
g******n
发帖数: 53185
3
自己约会吧,一次不成两次。
f*****n
发帖数: 970
4
我是说怎么说啊,哥们在跟前,我要跟他说明我要追女孩让他尽快闪吗,怎么把她带的
mm也打发走,还
是第一次不要这样,就先吃饭?

【在 g******n 的大作中提到】
: 自己约会吧,一次不成两次。
g******n
发帖数: 53185
5
先吃饭吧,第一次相触时间长了,女人会烦,而且会警惕你的动机。泡mm,就要有耐心
,前两三次时间别太长,让她猜不透你想干啥,才会觉得你有趣。女人一但认为明白你了,
你基本就没希望了。少说话少笑,多逗她说话,谁话多谁处于劣势。还有别紧张别太nice,
该开玩笑就随便开,女人最看不上的就是好男人,没办法,她们基因里有喜欢被强势男人征服的特性。

【在 f*****n 的大作中提到】
: 我是说怎么说啊,哥们在跟前,我要跟他说明我要追女孩让他尽快闪吗,怎么把她带的
: mm也打发走,还
: 是第一次不要这样,就先吃饭?

S****9
发帖数: 8108
6
我觉得叫上大家一起挺好的。看对方作为“社会人”的形象如何,是判断她的修养礼仪
风度常识的好途径。你只要表现得很周到细心和大方阳光就好了。
a***b
发帖数: 65
7
告诉你哥们,那个女的是你的目标,他应该知道怎么做。如果不知道,
就另找靠谱的电灯泡。我强烈赞同八一老爷看法:不要过早表示
自己的爱意。就是大家一起出去玩,让女生觉得你们这个圈子,你这个人
挺有趣。多玩几次熟悉以后再下手。我也同意女生的尺度是逐步打开的,
而且打开的过程中她们也会兴奋。不过每个女生现有尺度不同,所以
还是多搞几次聚会,了解对方后更自然。见面一次不要就吃个饭,要
安排好饭后活动。

【在 f*****n 的大作中提到】
: 我是说怎么说啊,哥们在跟前,我要跟他说明我要追女孩让他尽快闪吗,怎么把她带的
: mm也打发走,还
: 是第一次不要这样,就先吃饭?

f*****n
发帖数: 970
8
回来了,她没带室友,我也没带。
第一次单独吃饭,聊了家常,就是些运动健身方面的,还有就是各自专业比较有趣的事
情。
没有去我们之前商量好的restaurant去的另一家,所以也算给下次再单独约会提供借口。
问题:
下一次还是去吃饭吗?还是换一个项目?下周末再单独见面,这周中要怎么表示呢?
S****9
发帖数: 8108
9
你这样真给回帖的人泼冷水,说啥你都不听么,既然这样还问个啥,自己想咋地咋地吧。

口。

【在 f*****n 的大作中提到】
: 回来了,她没带室友,我也没带。
: 第一次单独吃饭,聊了家常,就是些运动健身方面的,还有就是各自专业比较有趣的事
: 情。
: 没有去我们之前商量好的restaurant去的另一家,所以也算给下次再单独约会提供借口。
: 问题:
: 下一次还是去吃饭吗?还是换一个项目?下周末再单独见面,这周中要怎么表示呢?

f*****n
发帖数: 970
10
I am so sorry to hurt your feelings.
but it is not I make it as a 1 to 1 dinner. My friend suddenly change minds,
and her friend somehow don't want to come. since nobody come I just change
to a close restaurant not the one we plan to go.
I don't know what to do next time. we are talking about running for lose
weight. then I forgot to appoint a time for running together just went back
send her a message that I m free at Tue and Thu night. she just simply feed
back it sounds good and don't mention

【在 S****9 的大作中提到】
: 你这样真给回帖的人泼冷水,说啥你都不听么,既然这样还问个啥,自己想咋地咋地吧。
:
: 口。

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S****9
发帖数: 8108
11
真不好意思,我就那么一说,没hurt没hurt
至于下次干嘛,我觉得你没必要老是吃饭吧,可以叫她一起去帮你挑个运动用的,比如
跑鞋之类的,既跟谈过的跑步有关系,不显得突兀,又不会像提议跑步容易被拒绝。反
正我是不愿意跟既不陌生却又不太熟的人一起跑步的。
问题:
下一次还是去吃饭吗?还是换一个项目?下周末再单独见面,这周中要怎么表示呢?

minds,
change
back
feed
together.

【在 f*****n 的大作中提到】
: I am so sorry to hurt your feelings.
: but it is not I make it as a 1 to 1 dinner. My friend suddenly change minds,
: and her friend somehow don't want to come. since nobody come I just change
: to a close restaurant not the one we plan to go.
: I don't know what to do next time. we are talking about running for lose
: weight. then I forgot to appoint a time for running together just went back
: send her a message that I m free at Tue and Thu night. she just simply feed
: back it sounds good and don't mention

f*****n
发帖数: 970
12
It seems I m a little pushing, I send her message to say Hi, and she doesn't
feed back me. (yestoday, she message back very quickly.)
maybe she doesn't want to be so quick to get relation or
something else.
what should I do, keep sending message tomorrow or wait until Thu or Fri?

【在 S****9 的大作中提到】
: 真不好意思,我就那么一说,没hurt没hurt
: 至于下次干嘛,我觉得你没必要老是吃饭吧,可以叫她一起去帮你挑个运动用的,比如
: 跑鞋之类的,既跟谈过的跑步有关系,不显得突兀,又不会像提议跑步容易被拒绝。反
: 正我是不愿意跟既不陌生却又不太熟的人一起跑步的。
: 问题:
: 下一次还是去吃饭吗?还是换一个项目?下周末再单独见面,这周中要怎么表示呢?
:
: minds,
: change
: back

S****9
发帖数: 8108
13
好像是pushy了。你歇两天,让她猜想你在干嘛,下礼拜再找她,也别发没内容的短信
,很容易让人因为不知怎么回而置之不理。

't

【在 f*****n 的大作中提到】
: It seems I m a little pushing, I send her message to say Hi, and she doesn't
: feed back me. (yestoday, she message back very quickly.)
: maybe she doesn't want to be so quick to get relation or
: something else.
: what should I do, keep sending message tomorrow or wait until Thu or Fri?

C***1
发帖数: 2264
14
明明白白的说“I'd like to ask you out for a date" 很难吗?被据了就被据了,再
做回朋友好了。

【在 f*****n 的大作中提到】
: 喜欢上一个女孩,大家别笑我,俺没有恋爱经验。然后想请她明天吃饭,但是应该是两
: 个人呢,还是让
: 她叫上她姐们,我叫上我哥们,这样是不是大家都不会太拘谨。
: 另外这样四个人了,如何协调呢,怎么表达爱意呢?

f*****n
发帖数: 970
15
sorry, she just feed me back with hi.
oh, it seems I m so immature, what should I say?
I need to make an appointment today or wait until tomorrow afternoon. I just
text her some daily life like the classes and homework.
C***1
发帖数: 2264
16
Say you enjoyed dinner with her yesterday. You feel you two has lots in
common and lots to talk about. Hope she had a good time also. Ask her if she
wants to do something together sometime this week or weekend when she has
time.

just

【在 f*****n 的大作中提到】
: sorry, she just feed me back with hi.
: oh, it seems I m so immature, what should I say?
: I need to make an appointment today or wait until tomorrow afternoon. I just
: text her some daily life like the classes and homework.

C***1
发帖数: 2264
17
Fall is a great season for hiking - ask if she likes hiking.

just

【在 f*****n 的大作中提到】
: sorry, she just feed me back with hi.
: oh, it seems I m so immature, what should I say?
: I need to make an appointment today or wait until tomorrow afternoon. I just
: text her some daily life like the classes and homework.

t**c
发帖数: 257
18
。。。
我说LZ大兄弟阿,这倒是谁在谈对象阿。。。
这一版人对付人家一个小姑娘,非常的不人道阿。。。呵呵
至少你得小心,人家上不上论坛呢?你这一条短信又一条短信,时间报得还这么准。。。

she

【在 C***1 的大作中提到】
: Say you enjoyed dinner with her yesterday. You feel you two has lots in
: common and lots to talk about. Hope she had a good time also. Ask her if she
: wants to do something together sometime this week or weekend when she has
: time.
:
: just

f*****n
发帖数: 970
19
sorry, I kinds of take the chance of information unbalance.
However, all the thing i did is to show my love and escaping from
misunderstood.
I just want to try my best to be one part of her life and to take care of
her.

。。

【在 t**c 的大作中提到】
: 。。。
: 我说LZ大兄弟阿,这倒是谁在谈对象阿。。。
: 这一版人对付人家一个小姑娘,非常的不人道阿。。。呵呵
: 至少你得小心,人家上不上论坛呢?你这一条短信又一条短信,时间报得还这么准。。。
:
: she

C***1
发帖数: 2264
20
It is too early to cal it love - you have interest, maybe crush the most -
or lust. Take time to get know each other first. Dont rush into anything.
Give her a chance to get to know you too. Good luck.

【在 f*****n 的大作中提到】
: sorry, I kinds of take the chance of information unbalance.
: However, all the thing i did is to show my love and escaping from
: misunderstood.
: I just want to try my best to be one part of her life and to take care of
: her.
:
: 。。

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r*a
发帖数: 1503
21
关键是放松点,千百别现在就想着将来怎么样啊?一想多,就紧张,紧张就容易失误。
然后,女人就会认为你不自信,你不自信,就一切完蛋了。女人永远都是需要强者的,
这是进化的结果。
就是COCO1说的,你所做的不过给双方创造一个互相了解的机会,成不成,怎么样,将
来都是很难说的。所以你放松点,别太在意结果,就是当大家在一起娱乐娱乐。

【在 f*****n 的大作中提到】
: 喜欢上一个女孩,大家别笑我,俺没有恋爱经验。然后想请她明天吃饭,但是应该是两
: 个人呢,还是让
: 她叫上她姐们,我叫上我哥们,这样是不是大家都不会太拘谨。
: 另外这样四个人了,如何协调呢,怎么表达爱意呢?

f*****n
发帖数: 970
22
I don't send her message today. I know it's hard but I don't want to make he
r feel unconfortable. I really want to play tennis with her. and if we can j
og together that would be wonderful.
she told me she do jogging this semester and lose a lot of weight when we ha
d dinner together.
could I just told her I also want to lose weight (PS i m fitter than she is)
, is it too direct to show myself and my tendency?
i know i m looked like a dumb.

【在 r*a 的大作中提到】
: 关键是放松点,千百别现在就想着将来怎么样啊?一想多,就紧张,紧张就容易失误。
: 然后,女人就会认为你不自信,你不自信,就一切完蛋了。女人永远都是需要强者的,
: 这是进化的结果。
: 就是COCO1说的,你所做的不过给双方创造一个互相了解的机会,成不成,怎么样,将
: 来都是很难说的。所以你放松点,别太在意结果,就是当大家在一起娱乐娱乐。

g****l
发帖数: 644
23
She talks about losing weight on the 'first date' dinner? LoL
Anyway why you are so afraid of showing your attitude? I thought it's the
part that girls like.

he
j
ha
is)

【在 f*****n 的大作中提到】
: I don't send her message today. I know it's hard but I don't want to make he
: r feel unconfortable. I really want to play tennis with her. and if we can j
: og together that would be wonderful.
: she told me she do jogging this semester and lose a lot of weight when we ha
: d dinner together.
: could I just told her I also want to lose weight (PS i m fitter than she is)
: , is it too direct to show myself and my tendency?
: i know i m looked like a dumb.

f*****n
发帖数: 970
24
anything wrong?
I think it's just a causal topic
or it has serious meaning for girls? I m also not fit, she is a little
overweight, so it's just a talking I think

the

【在 g****l 的大作中提到】
: She talks about losing weight on the 'first date' dinner? LoL
: Anyway why you are so afraid of showing your attitude? I thought it's the
: part that girls like.
:
: he
: j
: ha
: is)

f*****n
发帖数: 970
25
i send her message to invite her to play squash ball, she did not response
me.
I feel lost and nervous.
f*****n
发帖数: 970
26
hey, please help me, we have lost in contact for 2 days.
b**d
发帖数: 7644
27
一个人。当心你哥们挖墙角,这种事情经常发生。

【在 f*****n 的大作中提到】
: 喜欢上一个女孩,大家别笑我,俺没有恋爱经验。然后想请她明天吃饭,但是应该是两
: 个人呢,还是让
: 她叫上她姐们,我叫上我哥们,这样是不是大家都不会太拘谨。
: 另外这样四个人了,如何协调呢,怎么表达爱意呢?

f*****n
发帖数: 970
28
this is not a issue, my fellow already has gf
s******e
发帖数: 1697
29
you might ask your guys what have to do next, as they know your situation
much more better than people you met on line

【在 f*****n 的大作中提到】
: this is not a issue, my fellow already has gf
f*****n
发帖数: 970
30
though he has a gf, he doesn't have experience. since he is a passive
acceptor in his romance period.

【在 s******e 的大作中提到】
: you might ask your guys what have to do next, as they know your situation
: much more better than people you met on line

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S****9
发帖数: 8108
31
我觉得你小动作已经够多了,张罗吃饭,叫跑步,没事短信,都是你主动的。她要是有
意就呼应了。目前看你该休息一下,别增加她不理你的次数。你过一两个礼拜再找她,
也让她有机会想起你一两回。
M*****8
发帖数: 17722
32

minds,
change
back
feed
together.

【在 f*****n 的大作中提到】
: I am so sorry to hurt your feelings.
: but it is not I make it as a 1 to 1 dinner. My friend suddenly change minds,
: and her friend somehow don't want to come. since nobody come I just change
: to a close restaurant not the one we plan to go.
: I don't know what to do next time. we are talking about running for lose
: weight. then I forgot to appoint a time for running together just went back
: send her a message that I m free at Tue and Thu night. she just simply feed
: back it sounds good and don't mention

f*****n
发帖数: 970
33
对不起我还是弄砸掉了
不知道能否帮我弥补呢?
上周就发发短信,上周五约她出去跑步,她说她病了,结果
我就想着讨好她,
就每天早晚狂发短信(我不习惯直接打电话,因为我可能会说错话,或者无话可说),
结果她回的越来
越迟缓,今天炖了鸡汤打算送去,打电话她也不接。
我觉得她可能是还觉得不了解我,而我有表现的太积极,弄得她不舒服。所以我不知道
现在要不要退一
步重新做回朋友,我意思是让她觉得我只是想做朋友,这样给自己回旋余地,还是有什
么更好的办法可
以弥补之前过于心急的过错,或者就这么放着,可是下下周就是我生日,毕竟我们还是
朋友总能见面,
这样子,我真是无地自容了。

【在 S****9 的大作中提到】
: 我觉得你小动作已经够多了,张罗吃饭,叫跑步,没事短信,都是你主动的。她要是有
: 意就呼应了。目前看你该休息一下,别增加她不理你的次数。你过一两个礼拜再找她,
: 也让她有机会想起你一两回。

f*****n
发帖数: 970
34
and I think I made a big mistake that I only call her given name lin the
last message. then she never feed me back.

contact her too much then she doesn't answer me. hint I v send the
hang out for dinner last week and ask for help below that post. I don't
understand girl is so famine sensitive I did a bad job sorry. do I have any
chance to make it back

【在 S****9 的大作中提到】
: 我觉得你小动作已经够多了,张罗吃饭,叫跑步,没事短信,都是你主动的。她要是有
: 意就呼应了。目前看你该休息一下,别增加她不理你的次数。你过一两个礼拜再找她,
: 也让她有机会想起你一两回。

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