a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 1 “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and
said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I
observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what
I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t
seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks
and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each
other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to
our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had
lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that
she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced
at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her
life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time,
resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved
Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I
had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea
of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and
clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at
the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep
very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke
up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I
turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want
anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She
requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life
as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s
time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall
how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She
requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our
bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just
to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and
thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face
the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was
explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both
appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his
arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting
room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She
closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I
nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to
wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest
. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t
looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young
any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our
marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done
to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy
returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On
the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing
again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the
month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses
but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have
grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the
reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart
. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To
him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part
of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him
tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind
at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom,
through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly
and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in
my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her
tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove
to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was
afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane
opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce
anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a
fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t
divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t
value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other
anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding
day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to
suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and
burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on
the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me
what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every
morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run
up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting
CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that
she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative
reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least,
in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It
is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create
an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in
themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little
things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are
people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
By: Kevin K. Nakasone | Y*****2
发帖数: 38613 | 2 。。。。。。。。。
这个这个这个，天涯上几年前就有了。
翻译成英文了？ | d*j
发帖数: 13780 | | a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 4 The person before you already read it..in Chinese..
it's touching at the end..
【在 d*j 的大作中提到】
: too long
: who will read?
| m****s
发帖数: 7397 | | y*******o
发帖数: 6632 | | i********o
发帖数: 348 | | l***a
发帖数: 122 | 8 I read that before.
呵呵， too 矫情 to be true
【在 Y*****2 的大作中提到】
: 。。。。。。。。。
: 这个这个这个，天涯上几年前就有了。
: 翻译成英文了？
| Y*****2
发帖数: 38613 | 9 恩。
【在 l***a 的大作中提到】
: I read that before.
: 呵呵， too 矫情 to be true
| a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 10 what do you feel after you read it the first time? beside true or not.
It sends out a message, which makes a lot of people feel something. That's
more important.
【在 l***a 的大作中提到】
: I read that before.
: 呵呵， too 矫情 to be true
| | | c********e
发帖数: 6158 | 11 i just foolishly hope that there are moe people to be "矫情"
【在 l***a 的大作中提到】
: I read that before.
: 呵呵， too 矫情 to be true
| s*******7
发帖数: 2880 | 12 detail matters
how to keep love alive is an art.
'the 5 love language' can shed some lights | a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 13 "In a healthy relationship the partners make five positive comments to each
other for every one negative one."
【在 s*******7 的大作中提到】
: detail matters
: how to keep love alive is an art.
: 'the 5 love language' can shed some lights
| L******k
发帖数: 33825 | 14 thanks for sharing!
I
what
【在 a*o 的大作中提到】
: “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and
: said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I
: observed the hurt in her eyes.
: Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what
: I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t
: seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
: I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks
: and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each
: other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to
: our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had
| l***a
发帖数: 122 | 15 琼瑶奶奶的剧作也让很多人feel something.
feel something != important
s
【在 a*o 的大作中提到】
: what do you feel after you read it the first time? beside true or not.
: It sends out a message, which makes a lot of people feel something. That's
: more important.
| l***a
发帖数: 122 | 16 女孩子都应该看看李敖的“没有窗，哪有《窗外》”！ | a*o
发帖数: 25262 | 17 Do you really think this is similar to 琼瑶's stuff? 琼瑶奶奶的剧作 are only
target the teenagers. Does 琼瑶剧作 inspire you to find a dream lover as
those in her TV?
I do believe this can happen in real life. What do you mean 娇情 in the
context of this article？
【在 l***a 的大作中提到】
: 琼瑶奶奶的剧作也让很多人feel something.
: feel something != important
:
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