m******b
发帖数: 79 | 1 想听一下大家对于给每一个孩子individual attention的心得。父母两个人对三个、四
个孩子，有没有觉得心有余而力不足？孩子是不是会觉得因为父母没有能够完全专心对
待他们每一个而感到伤心？ |
j***e
发帖数: 708 | 2 when you have one child, the only child has attention of both parents. when
you have two, it will be one on one (one parent with one child, the other
parent with antoher child). when you have three, both parents will be free. |
S**********l
发帖数: 3835 | 3 haha，
that sounds really encouraging!At least I have tested one and two, both are
right!.
when
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【在 j***e 的大作中提到】
: when you have one child, the only child has attention of both parents. when
: you have two, it will be one on one (one parent with one child, the other
: parent with antoher child). when you have three, both parents will be free.
|
g***t
发帖数: 83 | 4 I have three kids. I sometimes feel bad to take my baby everywhere because
of the oldest child's activities. On the other hand my younger children
definite benefit from the oldest, they tend to get everything earlier than
my first child because they have an older sibling to watch.
I can't tell which child gets the most attention. I should say I give them
different attention due to different needs. My oldest is school age, I have
to drive her everywhere for her activities and playdates, my middle one is
almost 3 but still has T2 mood sometimes, I put lots of energy fighting with
her, for my youngest baby I have to feed him, change him, and I do spoil
him since he is the youngest. I feel like I did try my best to give all 3 of
them full attention.
Think it this way, they not only need my attention, but also enjoy sibling
interaction. |
t*g
发帖数: 1758 | 5 这个事情问妈妈意义不大，应该问孩子才知道。我一老美同事，家里5，6个孩子那种大
家庭出来的，她就是这种感觉。所以她对她父母很不好，可她父母一点也不觉着亏待她
了。不过老美本来带孩子就糙，孩子多了就更不用说了。你已经想到这点的，应该没问
题的。
【在 m******b 的大作中提到】
: 想听一下大家对于给每一个孩子individual attention的心得。父母两个人对三个、四
: 个孩子，有没有觉得心有余而力不足？孩子是不是会觉得因为父母没有能够完全专心对
: 待他们每一个而感到伤心？
|
m****y
发帖数: 3437 | 6 如果我完全专心对待他们每一个，他们才应该感到伤心。哈哈。
【在 m******b 的大作中提到】
: 想听一下大家对于给每一个孩子individual attention的心得。父母两个人对三个、四
: 个孩子，有没有觉得心有余而力不足？孩子是不是会觉得因为父母没有能够完全专心对
: 待他们每一个而感到伤心？
|
l****e
发帖数: 176 | 7 父母一般会认为自己对每个小孩都一样，但是小孩不这样认为的， 有的小孩比较细腻
需要比较多的ATTENTION， 比较粗燥的小孩则无所谓，如果父母的对每个小孩一样，比
较细腻小孩就会认为父母不公平。这就是为什么一母养九子，九子各不同。
发信人: tag (标签), 信区: Parenting
标 题: Re: 有三个以上孩子的父母们请进
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Wed Dec 29 13:05:51 2010, 美东)
这个事情问妈妈意义不大，应该问孩子才知道 |
m******b
发帖数: 79 | 8 Thanks for sharing, everybody! |
