l******2 发帖数: 2994 | 1 to follow the rules
Role of thumb: First, she can't get what she wants by through tantrum. If it
is no, it is no. take her away from public area.
Second, you can tell us you are mad, or no talks, or be in your own room, or
even step your feet but throughing tantrum will make you have LONG TERM
consequences(short term is not enough)
restricting the things she likes most. Tell her she is under evaluation/
probation to control the way of express anger when facing rejection.
Third: Who in charge? parents at home; principles at schools; cashier in the
supermarkets; you at playing time;
4 years of old is ready to control the urge of anger for her interests. | l******2 发帖数: 2994 | 2 我买了一本"HOW TO RAISE A STRONG WILL KID"的书,就翻了几页,最受用的就是首
页一句话"倔小孩或是脾气大的小孩需要的是行动的后果,他们只有通过他们自己行动
的失败来接受外部世界,别人的说教没有用。"这点跟脾气温和的小孩不一样。 |
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