b*****n
发帖数: 5 | 1 I went through a very tough time (sick and poor and desperate for a very
long time ) during the first few years in the states. Everything is getting
better and better now. However it was like be "bitten by snakes" once. Just
hard to forget the tough feeling. What makes it much worse is that, from the
bottom of my heart, I blame my husband for all the things I went through. I
don't think he tried his best for the family. How come a man can just sit
around and wait(!!!) for his wife to solve the f | n***e
发帖数: 461 | 2 since you are not prepared to leave your husband, why not talk to your
husband then? being open can be the beginning of healing process, and it
would be good for yourself and your husband too. | c******r
发帖数: 889 | 3 Communication, communication and communication.
If you find it is hard for you guys to talk about issues (either part
becomes defensive, conversation escalating to blaming game and fight..etc.),
try a counselor as a mediator who can serve as a buffer and relay thoughts
between you two.
It will help expose the real issue in your marriage. Finding the problem is
the first step of mending it.
I think you have accumulated lots of resentment toward him. This has to be
resovled. | c**r
发帖数: 10001 | 4 可能因为你的不满从来没有正确表达过，以至于堆积成了愤怒吧，唯一方法可能
还是跟你LG交流，提醒你一句，你的愤怒是你长期没能疏导而升级后的结果，但是
就像笑的时候我们以为自己开心一个道理，你会有“我如此愤怒，肯定是因为受到
了极大伤害”的推理，这个推理是人之常情，但是它夸大了你们过去的事情，对你
解决自己问题有害无益，你得时时当心它。
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: I went through a very tough time (sick and poor and desperate for a very
: long time ) during the first few years in the states. Everything is getting
: better and better now. However it was like be "bitten by snakes" once. Just
: hard to forget the tough feeling. What makes it much worse is that, from the
: bottom of my heart, I blame my husband for all the things I went through. I
: don't think he tried his best for the family. How come a man can just sit
: around and wait(!!!) for his wife to solve the f
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