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发帖数: 1 | 1 I recently regret a lot
how I spoke harsh words to my friends, to strangers,
to someone I think that I will no more contact again but actually he/she is
still living in the same planet
as I do, we are still watching the same sun, the same moon.
So many harsh words... I can not count.... their power gradually accumulates
like a stone stuck in my heart,
So many people I have no chance to send my 'I am sorry'
... I do not have an idea when my already spoken harsh words will stop
hurting them
... I even do not know whether it will keep on hurting them until the day
they die !
In some sense I think we might meet with each other again in a different way
in the next life in a role
we do not know ourselves , and that harsh words might be sent back to me to
hurt me greatly.
That I write here mostly for my own regret :
I also receive harsh words from others some times ,
that really make me heart broken.
Each time I recall them, I see the pain in my heart.
Thanks to praying and meditation, they hurt me less and less.
But not everyone is so lucky as I do, many people will never learn praying
or meditation during
this life time.
Life is hard ! Each time the life is hard, harsh words are more easier to
emerge
from the deep inside of the heart.
It would really better if those people live better and better
that my harsh words would stop hurting them !
I do not believe that Buddha would speak a piece of harsh words
when he does not agree or does not like what others are talking about,
even if they are irritating or they are on the wrong road or even they are
from different religion.
But absolutely I do not have his ability to shut down my mouth.
The Christian has many in common with Buddhism,
but as far as I know,
Christian focus a lot more on
1. love you neighbor
2. love your brothers and sisters (generally referring to all human beings)
3. love the poor/disabled/widow/child
4. love those who hate you because even 'bad' people love those who love
them,
how could you be different from them if you only love those who love you ?
Almost each Christian I know in my life are very very very kind, warm-
hearted, friendly,
always willing to help, and always speak warm words to encourage you
or to comfort you, they seldom speak harsh words.
I feel so good staying with Christian ,
after meeting some very very very kind Christians,
I can not help to start reading the Bible myself, even though I was a
buddhist .
But sadly,
in my knowledge,
many buddhists are a bit like me , too easy to speak harsh words to other
buddhists,
whether it is in a buddhist temple, or meditation center, or buddhist
communities.
Is it because buddha told us not to attach ? that
we buddhists think it better to not love each other ?
Or is it because we care more on animals killing problem,
which obviously Christians have to learn from us that we
do not care how we treat human beings?
Each single piece of word coming out of your mouth or keyboard
has a very very very great power ,
be careful not to use that power in a wrong direction !
Speaking Harsh Words are just Like Sword Thrusts
and
they have much much more greater power than physical sword ,
because the latter one only hurt once,
while the language one will keep hurting someone repeatedly each time ,
he recalls your bad comments on their personality ,
in my experience, it will continue repeating many many times unless they
start
praying/meditation,
so most people would even not be able to stop being hurt at the time of his
death !
Please be kind !
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Here is a Harsh Word Reference if you would be have interest :
https://www.openbible.info/topics/harsh_words
Love you all wisdomers | c*********e
发帖数: 1 | 2 88 Bible Verses about
Harsh Words
Proverbs 15:1 ESV / 213 helpful votes Helpful Not Helpful
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Ephesians 4:29 ESV / 122 helpful votes
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for
building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
Proverbs 29:11 ESV / 111 helpful votes
A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.
James 1:19-20 ESV / 92 helpful votes
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to
speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the
righteousness of God.
Proverbs 12:18 ESV / 74 helpful votes
There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the
wise brings healing.
Ephesians 4:31 ESV / 67 helpful votes
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away
from you, along with all malice.
Psalm 37:8 ESV / 61 helpful votes
Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to
evil.
James 1:20 ESV / 59 helpful votes
For the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
Proverbs 15:18 ESV / 59 helpful votes
A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets
contention.
Ephesians 4:26-27 ESV / 48 helpful votes
Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give
no opportunity to the devil.
Colossians 3:8 ESV / 47 helpful votes
But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and
obscene talk from your mouth.
Ephesians 4:32 ESV / 42 helpful votes
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in
Christ forgave you.
Matthew 5:43-48 ESV / 35 helpful votes
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate
your enemy.’ But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who
persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For
he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the
just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward do
you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet only
your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles
do the same? ...
James 1:19 ESV / 33 helpful votes
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to
speak, slow to anger;
James 3:5-12 ESV / 31 helpful votes
So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How
great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! And the tongue is a fire,
a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining
the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire
by hell. For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and sea creature, can
be tamed and has been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the
tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our
Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of
God. ...
Romans 12:21 ESV / 30 helpful votes
Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Matthew 5:21-22 ESV / 30 helpful votes
“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not murder;
and whoever murders will be liable to judgment.’ But I say to you that
everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; whoever
insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You
fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire.
Hebrews 12:14 ESV / 28 helpful votes
Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one
will see the Lord.
Ephesians 4:15 ESV / 28 helpful votes
Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him
who is the head, into Christ,
1 Corinthians 10:31 ESV / 27 helpful votes
So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
Romans 12:1 ESV / 26 helpful votes
I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your
bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your
spiritual worship.
Proverbs 16:32 ESV / 24 helpful votes
Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his
spirit than he who takes a city.
James 1:26 ESV / 22 helpful votes
If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives
his heart, this person's religion is worthless.
Proverbs 13:3 ESV / 20 helpful votes
Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life; he who opens wide his lips
comes to ruin.
Psalm 145:8 ESV / 18 helpful votes
The Lord is gracious and merciful, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast
love.
Romans 8:1-3 ESV / 17 helpful votes
There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the
law of sin and death. For God has done what the law, weakened by the flesh,
could not do. By sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh and for
sin, he condemned sin in the flesh,
Jonah 4:2 ESV / 16 helpful votes
And he prayed to the Lord and said, “O Lord, is not this what I said when I
was yet in my country? That is why I made haste to flee to Tarshish; for I
knew that you are a gracious God and merciful, slow to anger and abounding
in steadfast love, and relenting from disaster.
Ephesians 4:26 ESV / 15 helpful votes
Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger,
Psalm 145:9 ESV / 14 helpful votes
The Lord is good to all, and his mercy is over all that he has made.
Psalm 103:8 ESV / 14 helpful votes
The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast
love.
Mark 7:14-23 ESV / 13 helpful votes
And he called the people to him again and said to them, “Hear me, all of
you, and understand: There is nothing outside a person that by going into
him can defile him, but the things that come out of a person are what defile
him.” And when he had entered the house and left the people, his disciples
asked him about the parable. And he said to them, “Then are you also
without understanding? Do you not see that whatever goes into a person from
outside cannot defile him, since it enters not his heart but his stomach,
and is expelled?” (Thus he declared all foods clean.) ...
Proverbs 25:15 ESV / 12 helpful votes
With patience a ruler may be persuaded, and a soft tongue will break a bone.
Proverbs 18:21 ESV / 12 helpful votes
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will
eat its fruits.
John 14:6 ESV / 11 helpful votes
Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes
to the Father except through me.
Matthew 12:36 ESV / 11 helpful votes
I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every
careless word they speak,
James 5:16 ESV / 10 helpful votes
Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that
you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is
working.
Romans 8:1 ESV / 10 helpful votes
There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
John 1:16-17 ESV / 10 helpful votes
And from his fullness we have all received, grace upon grace. For the law
was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ.
Luke 9:57-62 ESV / 10 helpful votes
As they were going along the road, someone said to him, “I will follow you
wherever you go.” And Jesus said to him, “Foxes have holes, and birds of
the air have nests, but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay his head.” To
another he said, “Follow me.” But he said, “Lord, let me first go and
bury my father.” And Jesus said to him, “Leave the dead to bury their own
dead. But as for you, go and proclaim the kingdom of God.” Yet another said
, “I will follow you, Lord, but let me first say farewell to those at my
home.” ...
Romans 5:8 ESV / 9 helpful votes
But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ
died for us.
Matthew 15:26 ESV / 9 helpful votes
And he answered, “It is not right to take the children's bread and throw it
to the dogs.”
1 Corinthians 6:9-11 ESV / 8 helpful votes
Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God?
Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor
adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy,
nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you
were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our
God.
John 3:16-17 ESV / 8 helpful votes
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever
believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not
send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the
world might be saved through him.
Proverbs 29:22 ESV / 8 helpful votes
A man of wrath stirs up strife, and one given to anger causes much
transgression.
Proverbs 15:4 ESV / 8 helpful votes
A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.
Hebrews 4:12 ESV / 7 helpful votes
For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword,
piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and
discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.
Ephesians 4:22 ESV / 7 helpful votes
To put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is
corrupt through deceitful desires,
Romans 12:14 ESV / 7 helpful votes
Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them.
Luke 6:45 ESV / 7 helpful votes
The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the
evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the
abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.
Proverbs 21:23 ESV / 7 helpful votes
Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.
1 Kings 12:13-16 ESV / 7 helpful votes
And the king answered the people harshly, and forsaking the counsel that the
old men had given him, he spoke to them according to the counsel of the
young men, saying, “My father made your yoke heavy, but I will add to your
yoke. My father disciplined you with whips, but I will discipline you with
scorpions.” So the king did not listen to the people, for it was a turn of
affairs brought about by the Lord that he might fulfill his word, which the
Lord spoke by Ahijah the Shilonite to Jeroboam the son of Nebat. And when
all Israel saw that the king did not listen to them, the people answered the
king, “What portion do we have in David? We have no inheritance in the son
of Jesse. To your tents, O Israel! Look now to your own house, David.” So
Israel went to their tents.
1 Peter 3:15 ESV / 6 helpful votes
But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to
make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in
you; yet do it with gentleness and respect,
James 3:5 ESV / 6 helpful votes
So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How
great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire!
Colossians 4:6 ESV / 6 helpful votes
Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know
how you ought to answer each person.
Matthew 5:44 ESV / 6 helpful votes
But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,
Proverbs 25:11 ESV / 6 helpful votes
A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver.
Proverbs 18:13 ESV / 6 helpful votes
If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame.
Proverbs 16:24 ESV / 6 helpful votes
Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the
body.
Proverbs 15:23 ESV / 6 helpful votes
To make an apt answer is a joy to a man, and a word in season, how good it
is!
Proverbs 14:29 ESV / 6 helpful votes
Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty
temper exalts folly.
Proverbs 10:19 ESV / 6 helpful votes
When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his
lips is prudent.
Proverbs 10:12 ESV / 6 helpful votes
Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.
1 Kings 12:7 ESV / 6 helpful votes
And they said to him, “If you will be a servant to this people today and
serve them, and speak good words to them when you answer them, then they
will be your servants forever.”
Revelation 1:1 ESV / 5 helpful votes
The revelation of Jesus Christ, which God gave him to show to his servants
the things that must soon take place. He made it known by sending his angel
to his servant John,
1 Peter 3:9 ESV / 5 helpful votes
Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary,
bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing.
2 Timothy 3:1-5 ESV / 5 helpful votes
But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of
difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud,
arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy,
heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not
loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure
rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying
its power. Avoid such people.
Colossians 3:12 ESV / 5 helpful votes
Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts,
kindness, humility, meekness, and patience,
Philippians 4:5 ESV / 5 helpful votes
Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand;
Ephesians 4:2 ESV / 5 helpful votes
With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in
love,
Ephesians 2:8-9 ESV / 5 helpful votes
For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own
doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may
boast.
Romans 10:9 ESV / 5 helpful votes
Because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in
your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
Romans 1:26-27 ESV / 5 helpful votes
For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women
exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the
men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with
passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and
receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error.
Matthew 18:15 ESV / 5 helpful votes
“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you
and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.
Matthew 5:16 ESV / 5 helpful votes
In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see
your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.
Proverbs 28:25 ESV / 5 helpful votes
A greedy man stirs up strife, but the one who trusts in the Lord will be
enriched.
Proverbs 26:4-5 ESV / 5 helpful votes
Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest you be like him yourself.
Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own eyes.
Proverbs 16:1-33 ESV / 5 helpful votes
The plans of the heart belong to man, but the answer of the tongue is from
the Lord. All the ways of a man are pure in his own eyes, but the Lord
weighs the spirit. Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be
established. The Lord has made everything for its purpose, even the wicked
for the day of trouble. Everyone who is arrogant in heart is an abomination
to the Lord; be assured, he will not go unpunished. ...
Proverbs 15:2 ESV / 5 helpful votes
The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouths of fools pour out
folly.
Proverbs 14:1-35 ESV / 5 helpful votes
The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it
down. Whoever walks in uprightness fears the Lord, but he who is devious in
his ways despises him. By the mouth of a fool comes a rod for his back, but
the lips of the wise will preserve them. Where there are no oxen, the manger
is clean, but abundant crops come by the strength of the ox. A faithful
witness does not lie, but a false witness breathes out lies. ...
2 Chronicles 10:7 ESV / 5 helpful votes
And they said to him, “If you will be good to this people and please them
and speak good words to them, then they will be your servants forever.”
2 Samuel 19:43 ESV / 5 helpful votes
And the men of Israel answered the men of Judah, “We have ten shares in the
king, and in David also we have more than you. Why then did you despise us?
Were we not the first to speak of bringing back our king?” But the words
of the men of Judah were fiercer than the words of the men of Israel.
1 Samuel 25:21-22 ESV / 5 helpful votes
Now David had said, “Surely in vain have I guarded all that this fellow has
in the wilderness, so that nothing was missed of all that belonged to him,
and he has returned me evil for good. God do so to the enemies of David and
more also, if by morning I leave so much as one male of all who belong to
him.”
1 Samuel 25:10-11 ESV / 5 helpful votes
And Nabal answered David's servants, “Who is David? Who is the son of Jesse
? There are many servants these days who are breaking away from their
masters. Shall I take my bread and my water and my meat that I have killed
for my shearers and give it to men who come from I do not know where?”
1 Samuel 25:10 ESV / 5 helpful votes
And Nabal answered David's servants, “Who is David? Who is the son of Jesse
? There are many servants these days who are breaking away from their
masters.
Judges 12:3-6 ESV / 5 helpful votes
And when I saw that you would not save me, I took my life in my hand and
crossed over against the Ammonites, and the Lord gave them into my hand. Why
then have you come up to me this day to fight against me?” Then Jephthah
gathered all the men of Gilead and fought with Ephraim. And the men of
Gilead struck Ephraim, because they said, “You are fugitives of Ephraim,
you Gileadites, in the midst of Ephraim and Manasseh.” And the Gileadites
captured the fords of the Jordan against the Ephraimites. And when any of
the fugitives of Ephraim said, “Let me go over,” the men of Gilead said to
him, “Are you an Ephraimite?” When he said, “No,” they said to him, “
Then say Shibboleth,” and he said, “Sibboleth,” for he could not
pronounce it right. Then they seized him and slaughtered him at the fords of
the Jordan. At that time 42,000 of the Ephraimites fell.
Judges 8:1 ESV / 5 helpful votes
Then the men of Ephraim said to him, “What is this that you have done to us
, not to call us when you went to fight against Midian?” And they accused
him fiercely.
James 3:2 ESV / 2 helpful votes
For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he
says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body.
Ephesians 4:25 ESV / 2 helpful votes
Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth
with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.
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【在 c*********e 的大作中提到】
: I recently regret a lot
: how I spoke harsh words to my friends, to strangers,
: to someone I think that I will no more contact again but actually he/she is
: still living in the same planet
: as I do, we are still watching the same sun, the same moon.
: So many harsh words... I can not count.... their power gradually accumulates
: like a stone stuck in my heart,
: So many people I have no chance to send my 'I am sorry'
: ... I do not have an idea when my already spoken harsh words will stop
: hurting them
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