y*******o
发帖数: 133 | 1 曾经陪同校长一家及其他的学生去中国，当然在中国的时候我是尽力照顾他们，不过，
我觉得我是应该的，毕竟我是带队的。 回美国之后，校长夫人就曾经说要请我们吃饭
，我都打哈哈过去了。
现在学校帮我申请的140 刚被批准，他们说请我们去他们家，就当是庆祝。其实我觉得
我们应该请他们，可是我家太小太寒酸。
你们觉得我们应该去吗？如果去，应该带什么礼物去。如果不去，什么理由拒绝呢？
谢谢！ |
u*******r
发帖数: 2855 | 2 of course
perfect opportunity to social...
bring some nice gift
【在 y*******o 的大作中提到】
: 曾经陪同校长一家及其他的学生去中国，当然在中国的时候我是尽力照顾他们，不过，
: 我觉得我是应该的，毕竟我是带队的。 回美国之后，校长夫人就曾经说要请我们吃饭
: ，我都打哈哈过去了。
: 现在学校帮我申请的140 刚被批准，他们说请我们去他们家，就当是庆祝。其实我觉得
: 我们应该请他们，可是我家太小太寒酸。
: 你们觉得我们应该去吗？如果去，应该带什么礼物去。如果不去，什么理由拒绝呢？
: 谢谢！
|
y*******o
发帖数: 133 | 3 I feel it is too much for them since they only invite my family, not other
colleagues. |
g*****g
发帖数: 34805 | 4 A wine is enough, take it easy.
【在 y*******o 的大作中提到】
: I feel it is too much for them since they only invite my family, not other
: colleagues.
|
j******n
发帖数: 2206 | 5 不明白为什么不去？！！人家都邀请几次了，当然是很真心的。 |
y*******o
发帖数: 133 | 6 谢谢回复， 看来还是去吧。 只是觉得很麻烦校长一家。 |
c********a
发帖数: 2829 | 7 Forgive me for being rude. But don't be stupid.
You are thinking more about cost(even it's the headmaster's money) than
relationship.
I used to make similar mistakes years ago. I helped people, like moving, or
teaching them driving. When they invited me for meals in restaurant, I
rejected by saying "that's nothing". Actually, I used to think it a waste
going to restaurant, even it was not my money.
Actually, this behavior hurt relationship.
First, imagine your invitation got rejected. What do you think? Appreciate
that your money/trouble is saved? NO.
Second, it's a good chance to build long-term relationship. You don't have
many chances to do that.
Third, you want to keep people owning you something but you never want to
own anything from others. That's a big NO-NO.
Four, the headmaster wouldn't ask for any favor in the future because he
doesn't want to own you more.
Five, even if you think you were just doing your job. The headmaster might
only want to thank you for your good job.
【在 y*******o 的大作中提到】
: 曾经陪同校长一家及其他的学生去中国，当然在中国的时候我是尽力照顾他们，不过，
: 我觉得我是应该的，毕竟我是带队的。 回美国之后，校长夫人就曾经说要请我们吃饭
: ，我都打哈哈过去了。
: 现在学校帮我申请的140 刚被批准，他们说请我们去他们家，就当是庆祝。其实我觉得
: 我们应该请他们，可是我家太小太寒酸。
: 你们觉得我们应该去吗？如果去，应该带什么礼物去。如果不去，什么理由拒绝呢？
: 谢谢！
|
y*******o
发帖数: 133 | 8 Thanks for your advice. My original reasoning is we should treat his family
since the headmaster helped us for the green card application, and it is too
troublesome to have someone to come to their house for dinner.
But what you said is absolutely correct. It is better for me to own them
something. |
g******7
发帖数: 1532 | 9 Owe, not Own.
or
【在 c********a 的大作中提到】
: Forgive me for being rude. But don't be stupid.
: You are thinking more about cost(even it's the headmaster's money) than
: relationship.
: I used to make similar mistakes years ago. I helped people, like moving, or
: teaching them driving. When they invited me for meals in restaurant, I
: rejected by saying "that's nothing". Actually, I used to think it a waste
: going to restaurant, even it was not my money.
: Actually, this behavior hurt relationship.
: First, imagine your invitation got rejected. What do you think? Appreciate
: that your money/trouble is saved? NO.
|
s**********0
发帖数: 2798 | 10 坚决去。人家都请你了，有什么不好意思的。
大不了下次再请人家去餐馆吃。社交拉关系的好机会 |
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L*S
发帖数: 1773 | 11 哥们不回国混真是浪费人才啊
or
【在 c********a 的大作中提到】
: Forgive me for being rude. But don't be stupid.
: You are thinking more about cost(even it's the headmaster's money) than
: relationship.
: I used to make similar mistakes years ago. I helped people, like moving, or
: teaching them driving. When they invited me for meals in restaurant, I
: rejected by saying "that's nothing". Actually, I used to think it a waste
: going to restaurant, even it was not my money.
: Actually, this behavior hurt relationship.
: First, imagine your invitation got rejected. What do you think? Appreciate
: that your money/trouble is saved? NO.
|
c********a
发帖数: 2829 | 12 Thank you. I'll take that as a compliment.
【在 L*S 的大作中提到】
: 哥们不回国混真是浪费人才啊
:
: or
|
p********r
发帖数: 1980 | 13 I also think your post is very good.
【在 c********a 的大作中提到】
: Thank you. I'll take that as a compliment.
|
a****0
发帖数: 509 | 14 当然应该去。想想看如果你一再邀请别人却被拒绝什么滋味 |
y*******o
发帖数: 133 | 15 曾经陪同校长一家及其他的学生去中国，当然在中国的时候我是尽力照顾他们，不过，
我觉得我是应该的，毕竟我是带队的。 回美国之后，校长夫人就曾经说要请我们吃饭
，我都打哈哈过去了。
现在学校帮我申请的140 刚被批准，他们说请我们去他们家，就当是庆祝。其实我觉得
我们应该请他们，可是我家太小太寒酸。
你们觉得我们应该去吗？如果去，应该带什么礼物去。如果不去，什么理由拒绝呢？
谢谢！ |
u*******r
发帖数: 2855 | 16 of course
perfect opportunity to social...
bring some nice gift
【在 y*******o 的大作中提到】
: 曾经陪同校长一家及其他的学生去中国，当然在中国的时候我是尽力照顾他们，不过，
: 我觉得我是应该的，毕竟我是带队的。 回美国之后，校长夫人就曾经说要请我们吃饭
: ，我都打哈哈过去了。
: 现在学校帮我申请的140 刚被批准，他们说请我们去他们家，就当是庆祝。其实我觉得
: 我们应该请他们，可是我家太小太寒酸。
: 你们觉得我们应该去吗？如果去，应该带什么礼物去。如果不去，什么理由拒绝呢？
: 谢谢！
|
y*******o
发帖数: 133 | 17 I feel it is too much for them since they only invite my family, not other
colleagues. |
g*****g
发帖数: 34805 | 18 A wine is enough, take it easy.
【在 y*******o 的大作中提到】
: I feel it is too much for them since they only invite my family, not other
: colleagues.
|
j******n
发帖数: 2206 | 19 不明白为什么不去？！！人家都邀请几次了，当然是很真心的。 |
y*******o
发帖数: 133 | 20 谢谢回复， 看来还是去吧。 只是觉得很麻烦校长一家。 |
|
|
c********a
发帖数: 2829 | 21 Forgive me for being rude. But don't be stupid.
You are thinking more about cost(even it's the headmaster's money) than
relationship.
I used to make similar mistakes years ago. I helped people, like moving, or
teaching them driving. When they invited me for meals in restaurant, I
rejected by saying "that's nothing". Actually, I used to think it a waste
going to restaurant, even it was not my money.
Actually, this behavior hurt relationship.
First, imagine your invitation got rejected. What do you think? Appreciate
that your money/trouble is saved? NO.
Second, it's a good chance to build long-term relationship. You don't have
many chances to do that.
Third, you want to keep people owning you something but you never want to
own anything from others. That's a big NO-NO.
Four, the headmaster wouldn't ask for any favor in the future because he
doesn't want to own you more.
Five, even if you think you were just doing your job. The headmaster might
only want to thank you for your good job.
【在 y*******o 的大作中提到】
: 曾经陪同校长一家及其他的学生去中国，当然在中国的时候我是尽力照顾他们，不过，
: 我觉得我是应该的，毕竟我是带队的。 回美国之后，校长夫人就曾经说要请我们吃饭
: ，我都打哈哈过去了。
: 现在学校帮我申请的140 刚被批准，他们说请我们去他们家，就当是庆祝。其实我觉得
: 我们应该请他们，可是我家太小太寒酸。
: 你们觉得我们应该去吗？如果去，应该带什么礼物去。如果不去，什么理由拒绝呢？
: 谢谢！
|
y*******o
发帖数: 133 | 22 Thanks for your advice. My original reasoning is we should treat his family
since the headmaster helped us for the green card application, and it is too
troublesome to have someone to come to their house for dinner.
But what you said is absolutely correct. It is better for me to own them
something. |
g******7
发帖数: 1532 | 23 Owe, not Own.
or
【在 c********a 的大作中提到】
: Forgive me for being rude. But don't be stupid.
: You are thinking more about cost(even it's the headmaster's money) than
: relationship.
: I used to make similar mistakes years ago. I helped people, like moving, or
: teaching them driving. When they invited me for meals in restaurant, I
: rejected by saying "that's nothing". Actually, I used to think it a waste
: going to restaurant, even it was not my money.
: Actually, this behavior hurt relationship.
: First, imagine your invitation got rejected. What do you think? Appreciate
: that your money/trouble is saved? NO.
|
s**********0
发帖数: 2798 | 24 坚决去。人家都请你了，有什么不好意思的。
大不了下次再请人家去餐馆吃。社交拉关系的好机会 |
L*S
发帖数: 1773 | 25 哥们不回国混真是浪费人才啊
or
【在 c********a 的大作中提到】
: Forgive me for being rude. But don't be stupid.
: You are thinking more about cost(even it's the headmaster's money) than
: relationship.
: I used to make similar mistakes years ago. I helped people, like moving, or
: teaching them driving. When they invited me for meals in restaurant, I
: rejected by saying "that's nothing". Actually, I used to think it a waste
: going to restaurant, even it was not my money.
: Actually, this behavior hurt relationship.
: First, imagine your invitation got rejected. What do you think? Appreciate
: that your money/trouble is saved? NO.
|
c********a
发帖数: 2829 | 26 Thank you. I'll take that as a compliment.
【在 L*S 的大作中提到】
: 哥们不回国混真是浪费人才啊
:
: or
|
p********r
发帖数: 1980 | 27 I also think your post is very good.
【在 c********a 的大作中提到】
: Thank you. I'll take that as a compliment.
|
a****0
发帖数: 509 | 28 当然应该去。想想看如果你一再邀请别人却被拒绝什么滋味 |
k**n
发帖数: 3989 | 29 lz不去的话就得罪人了，，被老美当jerk，被老中当WSN啊 |
x******t
发帖数: 3911 | 30 of course go. ask them what you can bring, or just bring a bottle of wine. |
