V***a
发帖数: 11942 | 1 应该是stranger anxious,据说高发2-3岁，正常的。 |
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y****a
发帖数: 536 | 2 stranger anxious, 是不是自己慢慢就会好阿？ |
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B*****I
发帖数: 1378 | 3 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
tshch (大丈夫) 于 (Mon Nov 19 03:35:51 2012, 美东) 提到:
IN THE COURT OF APPEAL OF THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA
SECOND APPELATE DISTRICT
DIVISION TWO
Wan (aka Winnie) Tin ) Case #: B222712
)
Plaintiff and Respondent, ) (Sup. Ct. No. CK71139)
v. )
Los Angeles County Superior Court )
)
In re Joshua Tin )
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f********e
发帖数: 1365 | 4 I am in 41st week, too. Also waiting anxiously :)
Good luck to both of us |
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F***Q
发帖数: 6599 | 5
anxious and fast breathing |
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l******L
发帖数: 53 | 6 我们家的宝前3个月也这样，白天黑夜抱着睡。大人累得不行了。我们熬着，慢慢得，
宝宝大了一点就可以放下来睡，但是得有大人在边上陪着睡。到了8个月还是每2-3个小
时就要醒。妈妈奔溃了，白天无法上班， 恨下心尝试了cry it out , 宝宝哭得悲痛欲
绝，到了第四个晚上，妈妈放弃了，继续co-sleep. 宝宝现在10个月了，夜里还是要醒
，但是一觉能有四个小时stretch，中间醒过来可以自己睡回去。虽然和其他宝宝比起
来差多了，但宝宝已经有很大的提高。妈妈现在已经不强求宝宝能睡整觉。妈妈的感触
是每个宝宝的生长发育是不同的，宝宝哭是有原因的，等他们长大点，自己ready了，
就会睡好觉了；大人辛苦点，能抱就多抱。这段时间过得很快的，等以后你想抱他，他
都不让你抱。
我不后悔尝试了try it out, 但我不会再用这个方式 and believe it doesn't work
for every baby。After trying cry it out method, baby become very irritable
and anxious in the daytime. H... 阅读全帖 |
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a******8
发帖数: 123 | 7 想写这篇文章很久了，也是因为朋友们的请求，可是总是找不出空闲的时间，
今天整夜不睡觉也要把这短文补上，希望我的经验能给大家一些参考。
我和英语结仇二十多年了，为了学好它，我还专程去北京外国语学院取经，日
夜苦读至凌晨，为了节省时间把去食堂打饭的时间都省下来了，经常吃快餐面，这辈子
的快餐面都在那段时光吃完了，下半辈子我是不会再碰那玩意儿了。夜晚熄灯时间过后
，就跑去厕所，坐在洗手池的台阶上读书，有没有味道不重要，有灯光就行，后来被宿
管阿姨发现，赶出来，狠批一顿，贴通告，再也不能去了。办法想尽了，就差没悬梁刺
骨了，用功并不代表能学好英语，英语是一种工具，不只是单纯的一门课程，它是拿来
用的，不只是应付考试的。不养成用英文思维的习惯，英文的学习是不会提高的，这和
你记多少单词没关系。比如，一个5，6岁的美国儿童，词汇量也就二千，可是他能流利
的说，不加思索的任意表达，你记了两万词汇不一定口语比他流利，这就是我说的“英
语思维能力”。一个成年人要想将中文的思维能力转换成英文的，这个很难，需要付出
不知道多少倍的努力。可是，儿童则不同，一张白纸，你怎样描画他（她... 阅读全帖 |
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a******n
发帖数: 91 | 8 宝宝版的父母们见多识广，想请教一下我家这个内向的程度是不是还在正常范围。
我儿子从小就很内向，2岁前去别的地方playdate都是一个很大的challenge, 要不然不
能进去，进的去了也不太玩，非常anxious, stressful.
后来两岁上一个半天的drop off program, 一开始可以care giver陪的那种，我们陪了
好久才能真正drop off。
三岁正式上daycare，也适应了很久，在学校里不说话有一年的时间，为此我还怀疑他
是selective mutism, 带去看心里医生，医生说再观望，可能会outgrow. 大概是4岁多
的时候肯开口说话了。现在在学校里应该还可以，老师也说他open up很多了。
现在5岁了，在上kindergarten.
我们明年想给他换一个学校上1st grade. 申请的是private school, 需要小朋友去
playdate. 其他小朋友都可以跟老师进去，就他完全不行，在外面大哭，非得让爸妈陪
着。我真没想到会是这样，都5岁了还不能drop off. 平时也是不能上drop off class.
请问这种现象对... 阅读全帖 |
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a******n
发帖数: 91 | 9 宝宝版的父母们见多识广，想请教一下我家这个内向的程度是不是还在正常范围。
我儿子从小就很内向，2岁前去别的地方playdate都是一个很大的challenge, 要不然不
能进去，进的去了也不太玩，非常anxious, stressful.
后来两岁上一个半天的drop off program, 一开始可以care giver陪的那种，我们陪了
好久才能真正drop off。
三岁正式上daycare，也适应了很久，在学校里不说话有一年的时间，为此我还怀疑他
是selective mutism, 带去看心里医生，医生说再观望，可能会outgrow. 大概是4岁多
的时候肯开口说话了。现在在学校里应该还可以，老师也说他open up很多了。
现在5岁了，在上kindergarten.
我们明年想给他换一个学校上1st grade. 申请的是private school, 需要小朋友去
playdate. 其他小朋友都可以跟老师进去，就他完全不行，在外面大哭，非得让爸妈陪
着。我真没想到会是这样，都5岁了还不能drop off. 平时也是不能上drop off class.
请问这种现象对... 阅读全帖 |
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s****u
发帖数: 17 | 10 Package arrived at the CA center on 12/10.
Receipt was never received and online status was not available either.
Called the 800 number on 1/2 and got a repsonse from the CA center in 40 days.
Dropped all classes based on the recommendation of ISO.
No additional documents requested.
Surprisingly got the approval letter today and the case was actually approved
on 3/1.
Hope this is a good news for those who are still anxiously waiting. Good luck
to you! |
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d*y
发帖数: 32 | 11 With pressures from everywhere, I became anxious to catch the last days of
summer and started to try potty training this weekend. Prior to that, we
already got a potty several months ago, got potty videos and potty books.
My daughter is 21 month old and this is the result of three morning:
-The first day she pee in the potty once and elsewhere three times, in 2
hour.
-The 2nd day she pee in the potty once and elsewhere twice, in 2 hour.
-Today she pee elsewhere twice and pooed once elsewhere, |
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d*y
发帖数: 32 | 12 With pressures from everywhere, I became anxious to catch the last days of
summer and started to try potty training this weekend. Prior to that, we
already got a potty several months ago, got potty videos and potty books.
My daughter is 21 month old and this is the result of three morning:
-The first day she pee in the potty once and elsewhere three times, in 2
hour.
-The 2nd day she pee in the potty once and elsewhere twice, in 2 hour.
-Today she pee elsewhere twice and pooed once elsewhere, ... 阅读全帖 |
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w********9
发帖数: 8613 | 13 http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2851374/
Paediatr Child Health. 1998 Sep–Oct; 3(5): 354.
PMCID: PMC2851374
Copyright © 1998 Canadian Paediatric Society. All rights reserved
When children at day care bite: What are the risks?
Even with every precaution, injuries still happen in day care centres. By
nature, children are very active, and some may be aggressive or anxious.
They may push, shove or even bite another child in the playroom. If your
child is bitten by a playmate, you may... 阅读全帖 |
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w********9
发帖数: 8613 | 14 http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2532918/
Paediatr Child Health. 2008 July; 13(6): 520–521.
PMCID: PMC2532918
Copyright © 2008, Canadian Paediatric Society. All rights reserved
Biting in child care: What are the risks?
No parent wants to hear that their child has been bitten (or has bitten
another child) while in child care, but it does happen. Young children are
very active, and bites can happen by accident when they are playing. Some
children may become aggressive or anxious, a... 阅读全帖 |
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m******l
发帖数: 2472 | 15 pat pat, 孩子太小了。
看书上说12-18月是seperation anxious最厉害的时候。
高兴的时候。2个星期结束以后，儿子开始发高烧，烧了9天，在家歇了1个半星期，上
周三开始又去daycare，仍然是哭。到这个星期，周一周二老师都说宝宝在学校一直哭
，几乎没停。今天早晨去送宝宝，老师说，宝宝getting worse and worse，今天如果
再哭这么厉害，就给我打电话，让我领回家。心情真的很糟，不知道为什么会这样。都
已经这么长时间了，为什么还适应不了呢？也不愿意玩，就要哭，就要回家。为什么会
这样呢！真的很难过。
像有了心理阴影一样，在家还好，一出门就一定要爸妈抱着，见到陌生人就更不愿意离
开爸妈，别人要摸摸他逗逗他，他就马上哭闹或者头转过去紧紧抱着爸爸妈妈的脖子。
好像变得很胆小了。
能进去，只有这个当时刚好有个空位，就挤进来了，价格也不高。现在要换的话可能也
换不到好的。daycare的老师上下午要轮班，上午的老师很好，下午3点以后好像是学校
志愿者来的，感觉态度不怎么样。我每天要学习，下个月有个非常重要的考试，这之前
也没有时间带宝宝，加上宝宝生病，... 阅读全帖 |
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w********r
发帖数: 331 | 16 娃很可怜，你们不要生他的气。 他晚上要抱，要哄，你们就满足他吗。。。。
我们娃就这样子，1岁姥姥换成奶奶，1岁半换回来， 出去旅游，到2岁姥姥回国了，他
晚上都要闹。 睡着睡者就哭。 而且他就是1岁半的时候哭得最凶。
一般过1周就好了。
对了，我们2岁上的daycare,没有当初1岁，1岁半换grandma的时候哭得凶，但是也会小
哭一下。可能是娃大了，没有那么anxious了。
所以，你们要理解娃，同情娃，你们半夜起来满足娃的要求，就不会觉得烦了。 |
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c******1
发帖数: 47 | 17 给老师发邮件，说孩子在学校feel unsafe，always anxious. 老师一定会回信并采取
措施的。如果老师一周后还不回，可以直接找老师谈，把情况说的糟糕点，然后再说我
们相信老师能解决，所以没有跟校长讲。。。个人感觉，美国就是一个崇尚bully的国
家。所以对他们不要客气！ |
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l***r
发帖数: 1257 | 18 take it easy, he is not ready yet. life is long, 3 year old and not potty
trained is not a big deal if you look back.
My son was trained 3 year and 3 month old.
Start with willing to sit on a potty, then able to tell before peepee or
poopoo.
let him play with slightly bigger kids and let him see bigger kids go potty.
He is a bigger kid if he can do that.
be patient. your anxious will only make the kid more nervous. |
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G***a
发帖数: 247 | 19 刚刚三岁，一周去两天的已经去了差不多两个月了，最近准备转成每周五天的。
但是眼看两个月了，还是没有适应，每次都要哭，可能每次去都要断断续续地至少哭一
两个小时，有次哭的眼睛和脸上都红肿了，老师都以为她过敏了（因为那天我们刚提交
她对牛奶过敏的医生证明）。
她多数时候还是愿意去的，但是有时候早上就找理由想不去，那种要拖着去的情况还没
有出现。孩子还不怎么会说英文，老师和同学们的话都听不懂。她平时是个很活泼，很
爱说话的小孩，可能在学校没办法和人沟通觉得很憋屈。校长说可能她在学校缺乏安全
感，觉得anxious，也说要老师给孩子多点attention.我知道最好的办法就是让她在那
儿能有一两个好朋友。
她上周两天高兴去说是和一个白人男孩子玩得好，就是像哥们一样抱啊，摔啊什么的。
今天说那个孩子已经不理他了。可能她说话人家听不懂，然后那个小孩觉得被拖来按去
不舒服吧。
唯一还好的就是没有隔三岔五地生病，只有一次周日在家的时候开始感冒，持续了一两
周，也不知道是是不是因为上幼儿园，因为是周日从外面玩了突然开始的。
不知道怎样才能帮助她早日适应幼儿园，孩子哭做父母的心里很难受。要是过不了这个
坎... 阅读全帖 |
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d*******m
发帖数: 96 | 20 To DarkMatter
I think you must have good reasons to go to see specialist. It is completely
understandable. How can we be completely poised when we see our babies do
not have developmental timeline as most other babies do. My baby girl cannot
roll over until she was 8.5 months old. My mum was so anxious and was quite
worried ast she did not seem be able to stand up with support when she was
9 months old. Hence, my mum took her to see the paediatrics. Right now she
is 10 months old. Her motion dev... 阅读全帖 |
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s*******n
发帖数: 846 | 21 I went to 精华区, but couldn't find the answers.
Is there anyone can help. emergency!
My son already got his 2 months vaccine. But vaccine schedules are so
different betweent China and America. Can he follow the Chinese schedule
even if he finish some shot here?
Would there some miss shot or overlap to cause severe problem?
thanks so much!
I don't have chinese entry system in this computer. Sorry about that. |
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d****o
发帖数: 3197 | 22 你的信息太少了。
建议你列出
1，你孩子的年龄
2，已接受过的疫苗
3，中国要求打的疫苗
4，你们打算在中国呆多久
然后，差不多就可以用这个list去问你们在美国的儿科医生了。 |
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n****y
发帖数: 6260 | 23 没有大关系。很多疫苗早打俩星期晚打俩星期都没有事儿。我娃儿当年该打啥疫苗的时
候生病了，我们医生积极主动的就不给我们打了。
反正纪录搞好了，跟这边儿医生接上头儿就好了。 |
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t***z
发帖数: 5112 | 24 有些疫苗要注意时间间隔，我娃上次体检晚了半个月，这次按时去的，需要第二针，医
生就说这次不能打，需要过半个月才可以打第二针。 |
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n********h
发帖数: 13135 | 25 把你的疫苗记录带回去给医生看就可以了. 原则上按照中国的打应该没有问题,注意两
个疫苗之间的间隔,不要提前就好. 要是你不差钱,去中国的外资医院,比如北京的和睦
家. |
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s*******n
发帖数: 846 | 26 Vaccine Schedule in China
1 脊髓灰质炎疫苗
OPV 2/months, 3 months, 4 months, 4 years old
2 卡介苗 BCG vaccine Soon after born
3 百白破 DTPa 3/ 4/5/18 months
4 麻疹疫苗 Measles Vaccine 8 months
5 乙脑疫苗 Encephalitis B 8 months/ 24 months
6 A群流脑 ? 6 months/ 18 months
A+C群流脑 ? 3 years / 6 years old
7 腮腺炎疫苗 Mumps Vaccine 18 months
8 乙肝疫苗 Hepatitis B 0 month/ 1 month/ 6 months
9 甲肝疫苗 Hepatitis A 18 months
I hope it is readable. ... 阅读全帖 |
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l*******a
发帖数: 438 | 27 Please get a hint that people are getting sick and tired of your racial
remarks. Spend your time doing something helpful, such as helping a troubled
parent, answering a question from an anxious parent, etc. Just do something
actually useful! |
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B******1
发帖数: 9094 | 28 http://paw.princeton.edu/issues/2012/03/21/pages/3061/index.xml
Questions about race, admissions linger for Asian-American students
By Angela Wu ’12
When the Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights (OCR) confirmed
last month that an Asian-American applicant had filed a complaint alleging
discrimination in the admission processes at Princeton and Harvard, students
on campus largely shrugged.
After all, this had happened before. The rejected applicant’s complaint
against Princeton, which... 阅读全帖 |
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w*********e
发帖数: 383 | 29 (no Chinese input system here)
Maybe you and I encountered parents from different cultures and generations,
but the parents I met mostly blamed their children for their lack of
attention and hyperactivity. They also threatened to removed the kids'
favorite extracurricular activities if they don't "pull their acts together.
" (what I consider the worst possible parental decision for children having
ADHD like behaviors.) The results were distraught children who still could
not focus much more, rat... 阅读全帖 |
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t*******r
发帖数: 22634 | 30 我很怀疑大人 romantic relationship 的模型跟小孩一样，于是我
去 wiki 简单查了一下，发现确实不一样。大人的是：
Secure attachment
Insecure attachment：
Anxious–preoccupied attachment
Dismissive–avoidant attachment
Fearful–avoidant attachment
。。。唉。。。为毛。。。总要戴着科学的帽子夹带私货。。。 |
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i**e
发帖数: 19242 | 31 你小孩才4岁吧？ //好像你一直没说年龄
我觉着，她经历的这些感受成长，别的孩子也都经历过的
不过她的反应比别的孩子要强烈很多21
我觉着哈
你们自己的情绪不要跟着她的情绪走
任何时候都尽量保持冷静平和的心态
孩子发脾气的时候，家长发脾气的时候
自己多深呼吸，多express feelings
做给孩子看
孩子闹的时候，不要着急，最慢的反而是最快的
比如她要大闹穿短裤，你就心里想着
ok, 要闹了，做好迟到1个小时的心里准备，但是不管怎么闹，说了不能穿短裤就不能穿
不过，今天晚上睡觉前，会跟孩子再讲讲不能穿短裤的道理
跟她同理一下，早上时间紧，爸爸妈妈催得紧，娃容易心理紧张，容易稍稍不顺就爆发
//我的孩子也有过早上躺地上打滚的经历
//我现在想想，是我自己当时赶时间的压力很大，孩子就跟着tense/anxious
//我当时也没有处理好，压着去上学了，结果那一天娃在学校接着闹啊 |
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y***o
发帖数: 145 | 32 请看这法律问件， 美国的法官是怎样腐败， 把孩子从妈妈身边强走的。请舆论只持。
IN THE COURT OF APPEAL OF THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA
SECOND APPELATE DISTRICT
DIVISION TWO
Wan (aka Winnie) Tin ) Case #: B222712
)
Plaintiff and Respondent, ) (Sup. Ct. No. CK71139)
v. )
Los Angeles County Superior Court )
)
In re Joshua Tin )
)
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f**r
发帖数: 865 | 33 (5)
Other kinds of errors are more characteristic of poor science.
When I was at Cornell, I often talked to the people in the
psychology department. One of the students told me she
wanted to do an experiment that went something like this--
it had been found by others that under certain circumstances,
X, rats did something, A. She was curious as to whether, if she
changed the circumstances to Y, they would still do A. So
her proposal was to do the experiment under circumstances
Y and see if they ... 阅读全帖 |
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l*********m
发帖数: 16971 | 34 【 以下文字转载自 WaterWorld 讨论区 】
发信人: lovefreedom (happy), 信区: WaterWorld
标 题: an american single mother and her daughter
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Fri Mar 22 14:11:06 2013, 美东)
By Allison Linn, Staff Writer, NBC News
WEST HARTFORD, Conn. – Like many Americans who move to the suburbs, Tara
Simons came to West Hartford because she wanted her daughter to grow up in a
nice, safe place with good schools.
Her fall from a more financially secure suburban life to one among the
working poor also happened for the same ... 阅读全帖 |
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m*********7
发帖数: 5207 | 35 From webMD:
Sensory processing disorder (SPD) is a condition in which the brain has
trouble receiving and responding to information that comes in through the
senses.
The condition used to be called sensory integration dysfunction.
Some people with sensory processing disorder are oversensitive to things in
their environment. Common sounds may be painful or overwhelming. The light
touch of a shirt may chafe the skin.
Others with sensory processing disorder may:
Be uncoordinated
Bump into t... 阅读全帖 |
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m*********7
发帖数: 5207 | 36 From webMD:
Sensory processing disorder (SPD) is a condition in which the brain has
trouble receiving and responding to information that comes in through the
senses.
The condition used to be called sensory integration dysfunction.
Some people with sensory processing disorder are oversensitive to things in
their environment. Common sounds may be painful or overwhelming. The light
touch of a shirt may chafe the skin.
Others with sensory processing disorder may:
Be uncoordinated
Bump into t... 阅读全帖 |
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s****y
发帖数: 1574 | 37 Summary: Chinese American kids who have been sent back to live with kin/
relatives abroad came back with severe trauma and exhibit symptom similar to
those of Autism.Their mental and developmental issues were caused by
repeatedly disrupted attachments to family members.Many of the kids
recovered after bonding workshops or intensive therapy.
Link to full article: http://www.nytimes.com/2009/07/24/nyregion/24chinese.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0
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发帖数: 5511 | 38 好像越是语言能力很强,换新语言时会特别打击自信心。因为本来语言表达是他们的强
项,一下子很有挫败感。不过时间长了就好了。另外他从来没有和你们分开过,有点
separate anxious 也是正常的吧。
我家小朋友有个男同学就是这样,2岁半就会因为所以说话特别溜。但一去新的幼儿园就
不行了。那时搞的特别有心理障碍,一到晚上睡觉就心事很重睡不着。这样持续了一个
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发帖数: 6997 | 39 “the more I learn the less I know, the more anxious I am.”
同样的，内心太丰富有时也会很痛苦。很多渊博的人可能都有这种痛苦。不是说我自己
，我读书很少。内心简单的人可能更快乐。 |
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发帖数: 22634 | 40 William Deresiewicz 的这篇还是有信息量的。
http://www.newrepublic.com/article/118747/ivy-league-schools-ar
这个意思不是真的说不要去民办 ivy league，而是说，按 ivy league 那些 EC 啥变
态要求折磨娃 12 年的话，娃狠可能是:
Our system of elite education manufactures young people who are smart and
talented and driven, yes, but also anxious, timid, and lost, with little
intellectual curiosity and a stunted sense of purpose: trapped in a bubble
of privilege, heading meekly in the same direction, great at what they’re
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发帖数: 22634 | 41 这个其实 William Deresiewicz 在文章里隐含的说了：
... “intellectual curiosity” and ... “sense of purpose” ...
写文章的，总是要语出惊人。否则没有人读是最大的失败。。。
但是很多信息和观点，往往隐藏在字里行间。。。这两段全文如下
（重点在第二段，但第一段铺垫最好先看完）：
“Super People,” the writer James Atlas has called them—the
stereotypical ultra-high-achieving elite college students of
today. A double major, a sport, a musical instrument, a couple
of foreign languages, service work in distant corners of the
globe, a few hobbies thrown in for good measure: They have mastered
them all, a... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 6276 | 42 Traditionally, people who survive suicide attempts keep the topic secret.
But these days, Park isn’t alone. Drexel business student Drew Bergman
gives lectures about his own suicide attempts. Online, the website Live
Through This has gathered more than three dozen testimonials from suicide
survivors — teachers, health-care professionals, moms and dads. In April,
the New York Times chronicled this new openness among suicide prevention
experts in talking about suicide attempts.
In part, these init... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 6276 | 43 Three-year-old Sally was playing happily in the kitchen while her mother
cleaned up the dinner dishes. As Sally's mom turned to collect another plate
from the table, she noticed a puddle on the floor under Sally's feet. "
Sally, honey, did you wet your pants?" Sally shook her head and said, "My
shoes did it."
Clearly, Sally has told her mother a lie. Like most parents, you might feel
shocked — angry, hurt, or even betrayed — when you first discover your
child has lied. But if you can step back a... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 6276 | 44 雅虎评论：
The suit, however, is getting strong pushback from Asian American student
and civil rights organizations, who suspect that Students for Fair
Admissions—and its parent organization, Project for Fair Representation,
which is run by activist Edward Blum—are more interested in ending
affirmative action than making sure Asian American students get equal
treatment in college admissions. The lawsuit inspired a Twitter hashtag, #
IAmNotYourWedge, and a petition condemning the suit as a thinly veil... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 4371 | 45 tidewater, have you heard about executive function? I think you are too
anxious.
They are important skills. However, they could not be obtained by teaching.
It takes time for the kids to practice through games, rules and events. |
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发帖数: 1308 | 46 A good teacher is essential. My daughter has always loved her teacher and
assistant. She call them her best best friends. I would be more anxious than
you if the teacher is not very loving, especially for such a young age. |
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发帖数: 1095 | 47 + 63 people like this Posted by PAUSD mother
a resident of Midtown
on Mar 9, 2015 at 9:51 pm
PAUSD mother is a registered user.
"Community" --- many people keep on using this word... for Palo Alto ----
aka "shallow Alto"
I have lived here for 11 years. There is no community here. This is a place
without a soul --
I have never encountered another parent in a store who had time to talk---
always... their response is "sorry, I'm in a rush.' Well... I think Palo
Alto needs to slow down and smel... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 4651 | 48 【 以下文字转载自 WaterWorld 讨论区 】
发信人: Sande710 (SD主妇), 信区: WaterWorld
标 题: 【哈佛大学推荐】20个快乐的习惯
关键字: 快乐 智慧
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Thu Mar 19 13:57:53 2015, 美东)
1. Be grateful.
要学会感恩。
Slow down, look around you, and pay attention to the little details in your
life – the delicate purple flower on the sidewalk, the beautiful sunset,
the hot shower that washes away your long day, and the smile in your partner
’s eyes…
让自己变慢脚步，看看你的四周，关注生活中的细微之处：人行道上淡紫色的花，美丽
的日落，洗去你一天疲惫的淋浴，伴侣眼中的笑容。
When you have a grateful heart that... 阅读全帖 |
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发帖数: 25262 | 49 别让爱成为孩子的负担
戴维·布鲁克斯
如今的育儿有两大关键特征。第一，现在的孩子得到空前多的夸赞。桃乐丝·帕克(
Dorothy Parker)曾经开玩笑说，美国的孩子不是抚养大的，是激励大的。他们得到了
饮食、庇护与喝彩。这话在今天更是无比正确。人们不断对孩子说他们如何如何特别。
第二个关键特征是孩子受到了前所未有的锻造磨砺。在精英体制下，竞争空前激烈。父
母比以往更担心孩子能否进入优秀大学，踏上职场坦途。比起以前几代人，现在的父母
会花更多的时间对孩子的技能和履历进行投入，开车送他们去训练和排练。
这两大倾向——更多的夸赞和更多的磨砺——是紧密结合的。孩子沉溺在爱中，但那爱
是有指向的。父母向孩子倾注无限的感情，但那是精英至上的感情。其中掺杂着帮助孩
子取得世俗成功的欲望。
而这时常会表现为操纵欲。父母无意中用他们的微笑和皱眉作了向导，让孩子往他们认
为可以通往成功的行为发展。孩子努力学习、训练、得第一名、进入名牌大学，会让父
母心中充满欣喜。
这样的爱是基于价值判断的。它不是单纯的“我爱你”。它是“我爱那个在我的平衡木
上不掉下来的你。只要你在上面，我会给你无尽的赞扬和体贴”。
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发帖数: 35 | 50 孩子对于巴黎事件的反应是正常的。很多专业组织（比如美国学校心理学会）都发表了
相关文章给家长和老师提供具体的建议。下面是从他们网页上复制来的
Helping Children Cope With Terrorism - Tips for Families and Educators
Intentional acts of violence that hurt innocent people are frightening and
upsetting. Children and youth will look to adults for information and
guidance on how to react. Families and school personnel can help children
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