m*****g
发帖数: 42 | 1 【 以下文字转载自 SanFrancisco 讨论区 】
发信人: melting (lemon tree), 信区: SanFrancisco
标 题: $1780 / 3br2ba - House near Santana Row with optional inlaw unit
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Thu May 20 03:27:38 2010, 美东)
3 bedroom 2 bathroom single family house for rent, available immediately. $
1780/month on a 6 or 12 month lease with $1000 security deposit.
A separate detached 1 bedroom 1 bathroom back unit for $850/month on a 6 or
12 month lease with $500 security deposit.
Back unit ideal for inlaws or large family. Rent b |
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H******d
发帖数: 176 | 2 single family house有inlaw suite，这个inlaw suite里面也有单独的厨房。可以租
给两户人家吗？
谢谢！ |
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a*****s
发帖数: 5562 | 3 rt，未雨绸缪先来问问，在国内，我的凯悦点数订的房间，能给inlaws住吗，我不住，
人也不在现场。谢谢！ |
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b*****e
发帖数: 41 | 4 LZ家头胎。其实小孩子没有那么娇贵，心里放开了，也才会肯定inlaw的辛劳。 |
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c****t
发帖数: 156 | 5 LG可永远不会觉得我对他要求很低，呵呵，
至于说是不是主动和外公外婆打招呼就行，主要是因为外公外婆很内向，也很少主动说
话，
LG昨天今天主动打招呼跟外公外婆找话题说，确实是有心营造好的气氛。是值得肯定的。
至于说对inlaws 成天拍着哄高兴，自动降级为4等公民。：））你老公的觉悟很多人都
没有的。55555. 我老公是从来不当面对外公外婆说不字，也算是他的努力了。
我倒觉得我有成天哄公婆高兴的觉悟，不过我拿着很怕哪位长辈不高兴，很多事情都瞒
着不说的做法，我老公本来就不同意。 |
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c*******e
发帖数: 9475 | 6 晕，你们全家人都是完美主义？其实inlaws有分歧很正常，
没什么大不了的，彼此不要记恨就好了，不必一定要沟通
到其乐融融的地步啊。所有人都做到尊重他人就好了。我
看你们家现在就做得很好，能保持下去就不错了。 |
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J**G
发帖数: 3310 | 7 【 以下文字转载自 Family 讨论区 】
发信人: JWGG (猪族@哼哈二将之哼哼), 信区: Family
标 题: 碰到这样的inlaw怎么办？
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Thu Jun 16 16:40:33 2011, 美东)
我是男的
岳母非常敏感，话多，爱抱怨。
经常抱怨，一开始抱怨，能说好几个小时，抱怨我怎么不好，话非常多。而且你不能跟
她说
跟她做法或者想法不一样的话，否则她就生气，觉得你指责她。
比如，我要去抱小孩去别的地方需要跟她打招呼，征求同意。否则她会认为我不尊重她。
另外，她要求你要跟她非常客气，要说谢谢什么的。
另外，岳母是上海人，经常说我是外地人。其实我家条件比她家好多了。可是谁愿意当
上海人啊。
我很受不了她经常嘴里叨叨的抱怨了。我知道孙悟空当初有多么难了 |
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m*****g
发帖数: 42 | 8 3 bedroom 2 bathroom single family house for rent, available immediately. $
1780/month on a 6 or 12 month lease with $1000 security deposit.
A separate detached 1 bedroom 1 bathroom back unit for $850/month on a 6 or
12 month lease with $500 security deposit.
Back unit ideal for inlaws or large family. Rent both for $2450/month with
same lease term and combined security deposit.
- Great location
* less than 5 minutes driving from Santana Row and Valley Fair (normal
traffic)
* walkable to San Jos |
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d*******m
发帖数: 96 | 9 The thing is when you talk to inlaws about how to take care a baby, it can
be a very sensitive issue. It is not like talking to your parents. Even you
argue with your parents about child care, both of us understand it is for
the baby, but when it comes to inlaws it can lead to big disturbances in the
family
My conclusion, if you really want to ask your inlaws for child care, be
prepared for two outcomes
1. You just have "one eye open, one eye closed" attitude, unless it is about
child safety iss... 阅读全帖 |
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g******i
发帖数: 1942 | 10 屋顶不是平的， 是三角行的， 我们这有的builder做成 bonus room， 有的没有。 没
有的就可以自己找人做了， 邻居是inlaw suite里面做的楼梯直接到上面。Basically,
in a house, but live seperately, inlaw suite has a door to outside, so
inlaws do not need use front door or back door at all.. |
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x*******g
发帖数: 1363 | 11 I understand LZ.
He is more concerned about the 3 years old goes back with the inlaw -- the
behavior he observes here about the inlaw just worsen the concern.
My husband has the same feeling when I tried to drop the kids in Beijin with
my mom this summer.
If you are so concerned, then don't take the chance. Either go back with the
kids yourself, or make some other arrangement. Don't ask your inlaw to
improve herself, she didn't own you that :-) |
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H****S
发帖数: 1359 | 12 老哈克比透露：莎拉桑德斯和她丈夫离开餐馆以后就直接回家了，但是当时随行的还有
@几个inlaws决定到街对面另外一家餐馆吃饭。没想到红母鸡餐馆的人尾随他们而去，
并且直接在那家餐馆外面搞起了抗议活动。搞笑的是这几个inlaw实际上是liberals，
最后被烦得不行，出来怒怼这些抗议者：你们搞事之前能不能先把状况搞清楚，我们可
不是现任总统的支持者。 |
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a******o
发帖数: 261 | 13 Great idea, but this...
-works in business sometimes
-probably works in some relationship, particularly if it's non-asian
-most likely won't work with your average Chinese inlaws
to me, either your inlaws are already open minded so that you don't even
need to bring these points up, or (the more likely case), they've been
stuck in their world view for so long that they will either ignore this
or treat this as an insult.
came up
parents and
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husband
no
they |
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P*****r
发帖数: 1308 | 15 地点在DC附近北维州。budget有限，看到一个50年代的老房，convinced在我们budget
范围内是个不错的deal，下了一个asking price的offer被接受了。我觉得floor plan
还不错，lot size也算够，在周围一片drive way parking的房子中他还有个2-car
garage，感觉没啥硬伤。
但是这房怪就怪在有个停用两年的pool（估计是不行了，填平8k）+ 一个地下室完全独
立的inlaw suite（有冰箱，sink，抽油烟机和stove，breakfast countertop, 外加从
garage旁边独立出入，甚至有单独的hvac）。
我妈一个人，所以以后估计要过来，LG也是独子。一开始觉得有这个做好的厨房挺好，
空间seperation也够。后来稍微search一下，发现第一，这个改建没有county permit
for sure，所有能legally 使用的assumption几乎都不成立（county好像最近有放宽
inlaw suite和第二厨房的规定，这个还得再问）。现在的做法是让seller把stove放车
库，... 阅读全帖 |
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a*****s
发帖数: 5562 | 16 rt，之前来版上问过，用点数订的房间，说是大陆凯悦只允许本人在场的情况下才可以
让guest入住。
给inlaw订的8月的房间，网上完成reservation，默认本人名字，发邮件goldpassport@
hyatt.com告诉客服说本人可能不在，客服在后台可以update guest name，然后重新发
了一个reservation confirmation过来，里面guest name已经换成了inlaw名字了。然
后说直接客人去checkin就可以了。
供大家参考， |
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I**********e
发帖数: 811 | 17 My tax advisor (who has been doing my taxes for the last 6 years) also said
no to my request to add my inlaws as our dependents. My inlaws are gc
holders, and we file 1040. So now I need to ask him again. Thanks for the
information! |
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p********2
发帖数: 9939 | 18 my inlaw did this to her very early, like around 2 months old? But she cried
loudly sometimes, because my inlaw wouldn't stop if she didn't see the pee
or poop.
I took over the duty after they left. I only do it in the early morning, and
I don't force her at all. |
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J*********l
发帖数: 1185 | 19 不要往人伤口上撒盐了
我自己也是被妈妈的暴打和恶骂中长大的。我们这群人都有些人格缺失，也从来没有人
教导自己如何去爱爱自己的人。也会在自己的婚姻中有些很过激的行为，事后也是懊恼
不以。就像你想尽办法避免范某种错误，结果错误还是发生一样。我们这群人，很多都
极力避免成为家暴父母的样子，可是那个小时候的经历就像基因一样刻在身上了，是不
是会出来犯事。我也承认自己意志薄弱，不能很好的控制自己。
我承认我不能释怀那些经历，我不能理解我妈的行为。我也不轻易回国，也不常打电话
。每年只是象征性的给点钱，也够他们在那个小地方一年的生活。但是心里很羡慕人家
母慈子孝，其乐融融一家子在一起。更何况那个贴主天天看到inlaw一家一起，肯定心
里羡慕的紧。虽然他inlaw好，但是毕竟不是自己一家子（原谅我们的狭隘）。
本来我最近俩年忙死，想让他们过来帮我看看孩子。尤其是孩子这半年动不动在
daycare就wheezing。可是听到我妈说不愿意来，我其实有种如释重负的感觉。我怕人
家说我从来不请父母来这边住住，耍耍。
但是心里还是有道坎迈不过去，觉得他们年纪大了，作为子女要多孝顺。自己的生活比
他们好很多，应... 阅读全帖 |
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l*******g
发帖数: 5 | 20 Thank you for all the blessings! And here are some details:
Me: H1 since Dec. 2001;
LP: H4 March 2002-June 2002, -->H1
BB B-day: Sept 22nd, 2003.
Inlaws:
>=50;
retired;
10K saving;
1 son at home, 1 6-year grandson at home;
1 old mother at home;
1)
The first time: July 16, rejected because my inlaws' retired salaries are too
low: 1000 for dad and 800 for mum, in Huangshi City, Hubei. Non-sense;
2)
The second time, Aug. 8th, almost not looking at our application materials.
Rejected with "Ask your |
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h**********8
发帖数: 76 | 21 No. You will not get new I-94 by going to Mexico or Canada, and we took inlaw to
Vancouver on July 4 weekend this year, they didn't get new I-94, and They
left here on 7/28/10. My inlaw got 2 months to stay from SFO last Friday on
their 2nd entry. |
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d****z
发帖数: 9503 | 22 “政府有补贴”，这个谁不知道呀？问题是这个补贴谁买单？奥大统领说是
top 1%的富人买单。你信不？
其实说到底就是中产买单。象mdrealtor这样的人，除了要给自己的inlaw买保险，
还要通过纳税，通过更高的保险费，去给别人的inlaw买保险。不仅要替别人买单，
还要为这个政策叫好，原因是谁让你“赚的钱较多”？ |
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a******o
发帖数: 261 | 24 my natural temperament is not great either.... but now that i have kids, i
strive to be patient - if nothing else, for their sake. for me at least,
thinking about the consequences and the long term effects are the ways i
keep myself in check. also, realistically speaking, what does the burst of
anger get you? 99 out of 100 it sets you back even further.
one thing you could do is replay the events over again in your head, and
with the hindsight, analyze what different paths you could've taken, ... 阅读全帖 |
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b******b
发帖数: 2070 | 25 恩，那确实。
我有时候觉得我屋里崽伢子们好可怜，要接受几种方言的轰炸。因为我和我父母讲郴州
临武方言，我和LD及inlaws讲长沙话，跟崽伢子们讲普通话，还时还夹英语。有一年，
我妈和我inlaws同时
来我们家住了几个月， 那叫一个鸡飞狗跳的热闹。 |
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x**n
发帖数: 12542 | 26 不过最近涨的很凶。昨天中午中介打电话给偶inlaw,说有一个deal非常好，当时正准备
吃午饭，思想
斗争了半天还是吃饭先，结果20分钟后deal就飞了。 ：（ |
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T*R
发帖数: 36302 | 27 放暑假了，现在很多外地人都带孩子去了。
前天打电话给INLAW，他们一家都要去了。从保定。 |
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p******9
发帖数: 7130 | 28 整天饥饿感饥饿感，我倒是听说很多工人在太祖时期，两个人工作，一个人的工资养全
家，另一个人的工资分两半，一半给爹妈，另外一半给inlaw。一堆孩子就这样都养起
来了。 |
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f******g
发帖数: 1003 | 29 your father-inlaw is sick!!!!!!!!!
do not give it to him,!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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f******g
发帖数: 1003 | 30 your father-inlaw is sick!!!!!!!!!
do not give it to him,!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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C*******f
发帖数: 13152 | 33 温哥华不到70万的single house 1910年1884尺6个卧室，不是鸽子笼是什么
$628,800
Listing ID: V1027021
Bathrooms 2 Bedrooms 6
Property TypeSingle Family Building TypeHouse TitleFreehold
Land Size33.0 x 99 Built in1910
Description
1910 three storey home - EXCELLENT OPPORTUNITY in COLLINGWOOD in need of
major reno's or build new on this 33x99 no lane lot. Fantastic tree-lined
street within a short walk to COLLINGWOOD SKYTRAIN STATION & ST MARY'S
ELEMENTARY SCHOOL, restaurants, & shopping. 6 bdrms, 2 baths, fully... 阅读全帖 |
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b********n
发帖数: 38600 | 34 The most important things Mark Zuckerberg just said in broken Chinese
http://qz.com/285851/the-most-important-things-mark-zuckerberg-
Whether part of a bid to get Facebook unblocked or, as he professes, because
he “wants to study Chinese culture,” founder Mark Zuckerberg awed the
internet on Wednesday (Oct 22) with a 30-minute interview at Beijing’s
Tsinghua University—in Mandarin. “Mark Zuckerberg nails a Q&A in Chinese
like it’s no big deal,” gushed the Silicon Valley Business Journal,
observi... 阅读全帖 |
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m***y
发帖数: 14763 | 35 老汉住的麻省，也是深蓝，但住过，或者跟踪过社会新闻的人就知道跟加州蓝的不一样。
简单举个例子，婚内财产，这个归州法管，就能看出两州不一样。麻省是Separate
Property，不光婚前财产缺省是各归各的，婚后收入还得看贡献。比如，老汉隔壁的
trustfund guy继承了他叔的遗产，他那个淘金女老婆想分，就一个子儿也没有。当然
，她的金发也可能是染的，就是说她实际上比装的聪明的多，那她还是有办法的。
加州是community property，有钱两口子分。你说大家都是蓝州，凭啥不一样？当然是
麻省历史久，富得早，在防备儿媳女婿这些外姓人方面早就入了法。没错，两口子好说
话，坏人只能inlaws来当。
有趣的时，老汉以前住的大红州，山东，却是community property，跟加州所见略同。 |
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r*********6
发帖数: 560 | 37 +1 on Pilot
We bought 2012 EX last year for 34K OTD with 0.9% for 5 years.
It's not a fancy car or anything close. But it is definitely a family car
with a lot of space. Everyone who have tried the 3rd row had nothing but
positive comments, including my inlaws who opposed on our decision of buying
such a big SUV.
Very steady and quiet, compare to my Accord. |
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g********d
发帖数: 19244 | 38 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
THR (???) 于 (Tue Jun 4 10:59:58 2013, 美东) 提到:
本来想买MDX，但是老婆在一个小公司工作，同事领导除了一个老中小弟弟开C300，剩
下都是很一般的车，老婆就觉得开MDX有点不太好，劝了也听不进，反正是她开，就随
她。
不选MDX，剩下的我们这对WSN/V就只有PILOT/HIGHLANDER选了。两个车都试开了，
HIGHLANDER比PILOT小，低。但是LOCAL的TOYOTA DEALER很拽，价格给的比PILOT高，我
们就没有选择了。
买来开了几个月了，上个月刚从CHICAGO开到FLORIDA度了10天假，感觉还可以。
总结一下PILOT的吧：
1。都是标配，价格没有水分，讲价很简单，基本算同级别里最便宜的了。LX 4驱,连税
不要3万（现在应该更低了），这个对家里条件一般，有两三个孩子，把车主要当成一
个运输工具的父母应该还是有吸引力的。特别是后视CAMERA在低配置车型里也是标配，
这个2013HIGHLANDER低款就没有。这个对比较... 阅读全帖 |
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L******9
发帖数: 866 | 39 因为Inlaws 也是差不多每年跟我们住
半年的样子，两娃，所以觉得需要换个三排座的车方便一点，虽然全家六口一起出门的
几率很低，不超过一个月一次，甚至一年不超过三次。最先看了版上极力推荐的honda
的奥得赛，去的dealer家有17和18款的，不过我觉得还挺失望的，前脸很大，显得挺笨
重的，操纵性能也一般，感觉像一个臃肿的妇人的感觉。内饰还算精致，但dealer向我
演示的那些内嵌吸尘等功能都不吸引我，以我的性格估计都用不上。DVD功能有点吸引
我，但现在ipad 之类或者portable DVD的可以顶上了,因为估计我开车长途旅行的几率
不高，一年最多一两次，平时两个小时内的车程我是不允许他们看电子产品的，伤眼睛
。然后价钱还奇高，18款要四万多，17款的说可以打两三千的折扣，也得3万八以上吧
。总之，不够吸引我，而且发现我其实不太喜欢mini van, 大部分时间都是自己开车上
下班，有点一人开着一艘大船的感觉。当然，我对车也不挑剔，如果是3万一左右的价
钱我应该还可以接受。我的期望值离dealer的报价太远，于是未讲价就离开。
于是去看Ford Explorer，试驾了一下，... 阅读全帖 |
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n**********8
发帖数: 389 | 40 My inlaws would come to take care of my 18-month old son starting mid-
April. They would also like to babysit additional one or two
babies/toddles at home. They have done this before and have super good
reference. We have plenty of space and child activity toys. The house is
clean with no pets.
We live in northern virginia, close to ashburn, sterling and leesburg.
Please email g********[email protected] if you are interested.
Thanks! |
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y*****u
发帖数: 4807 | 41 inlaws arriving this evening
LD down le dead order must gaoding it |
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p********2
发帖数: 9939 | 42 My credit card has been held for more than one week.
I received the cancelation letter but the order is still alive when I check
on line status.
I don't want to get those pads anymore as my mother inlaw is leaving for
China very soon.
Any news from you whoes orders are canceled? |
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a*****s
发帖数: 5562 | 43 分人啊，我inlaws还有我爸爸一上车就呼噜大睡，所以没啥影响；坐飞机他们反倒忐忑
，担心出个什么事故。我妈妈坐车倒是晕车，
不过他们都认同最美的风景在路上 |
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m********n
发帖数: 4570 | 44 所以说和inlaw的矛盾都是因为一个没有担待的配偶 |
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s******d
发帖数: 901 | 45 这样狭隘的民族主义这真是无可救药，不过庆幸我还没碰到过这样的同事，多数的美国
人还是能接受新看法的，我一个美国同事娶了个ABC的台湾人，常常聊天的时候我就问
到他去没去过台湾，顺便就会提去没去过大陆，他就说他的inlaws 都说中国是个可怕
的地方，我和另外一个北京的mm就会告诉他不是这样的，现在的中国有多modern,发展
的有多好，说得他也挺向往的。多数美国人还是open minded的，他们无知是因为被错
误的信息误导，你心平气和的和他说，举例子说明，他们会改变看法的。那种说了很多
次也不能改变偏见的人都是狭隘的偏执狂，没必要和他们来往。 |
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s*******m
发帖数: 153 | 46 ws, your inlaws are kind of weird but you are ws for sure. |
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