l********e
发帖数: 4863 | 1 http://thegoodchinesemother.wordpress.com/
Dear Ms. Chua,
Like you, I am Chinese. I was born in Manila, with parents like yours,
raised like you…
But unlike you, I vowed to be a very different parent from my parents.
I never said, “I am right and you will obey me because I am your mother”.
I taught myself to say, “Mother does not know,” and “I am sorry. Mother
is wrong.”
I encouraged my daughter to enjoy all the things my parents would not allow,
sleepovers, school plays, and yes, dating.
She missed school to watch the Oscars. Nintendo was bonding time
I wanted her to be a drummer, but to my disappointment, she wanted to play
the piano. No, not classical music. “Close To You” by The Carpenters! Do
you know how difficult it is to find a piano teacher who will teach pop
music?
She can barely read music notes, but even now, she will play the piano to
relax herself.
And yes, she turned out all right. She scored 2340 on the SAT, 60 points off
perfect, and got accepted by Harvard, Princeton and Yale. Am I proud of her
? Absolutely! But what really matters to me is that she grew up to be warm
and kind, with an easygoing, unassuming demeanor.
I did not push. I encouraged. And I loved unconditionally.
Good Chinese Mother
P.S. You do not have to be Ms. Chua to leave a comment. : )
Note:
1) If you want to make your children practice piano, read “Reluctant Role
Models”. In fact, read it if you want them to do what you want.
2) If you want to stop arguing about bed time, bath time, read “Do I Have
To Take A Bath” and “Why Do I Have To Go To Bed Now”.
3) If you want to deal with a bully in school, read “The Prince From
Senegal” but do not do what I did. You can get in serious trouble.
4) If you need to explain Santa Claus, read “Letter From Santa Claus”.
Just make sure you can make up stories as you go.
5) If you like museums, and your children do not, read “Treasure Hunt”.
The museum shops will love you.
6) When being the best is not good enough, go to “The Six O’Clock News”.
Unlike Chua, I think watching television can be educational!
7) If you have an inquisitive child, check out “Why Is The Sky Blue?”
8) If your child asks you for the moon and the stars, do not read “
Unforseen Dividends”. You will be tempted to give them.
9) If you are a bilingual family, “Relax, Mom” is for you.
10) If you do not like what your daughter is wearing, “Making Of A Fashion
Icon” will make you feel better.
11) If you are battling bureaucracy, copy my tactics in “There Is Always A
First Time”.
12)If you want to know why I will never regret being a stay-at-home mom,
find out in “Just Like Mommy”. Be sure the tissue box is within reach.
13) Is your child the new kid on the block? See how we managed in “Tears On
The Agenda”.
14) Need help with making decisions, take your cue from “The Step Forward”.
15) Life not going as planned, “Pile Of Horse Droppings” is for you. | s*****r
发帖数: 1032 | 2 nice zz. took the "notes". thanks!
btw, are you and littleice twins? | l********e
发帖数: 4863 | 3 we are 亲家
【在 s*****r 的大作中提到】
: nice zz. took the "notes". thanks!
: btw, are you and littleice twins?
| i**e
发帖数: 19242 | 4 关于乐器
娃就是要跟咱对着干
好在，俺也挺想让娃打鼓地，她会不会非要学小提呢，哈哈
allow,
【在 l********e 的大作中提到】
: http://thegoodchinesemother.wordpress.com/
: Dear Ms. Chua,
: Like you, I am Chinese. I was born in Manila, with parents like yours,
: raised like you…
: But unlike you, I vowed to be a very different parent from my parents.
: I never said, “I am right and you will obey me because I am your mother”.
: I taught myself to say, “Mother does not know,” and “I am sorry. Mother
: is wrong.”
: I encouraged my daughter to enjoy all the things my parents would not allow,
: sleepovers, school plays, and yes, dating.
| s*****r
发帖数: 1032 | 5 反反得正了
【在 i**e 的大作中提到】
: 关于乐器
: 娃就是要跟咱对着干
: 好在，俺也挺想让娃打鼓地，她会不会非要学小提呢，哈哈
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