a*****y
发帖数: 1488 | 1 楼太高了，就另起一个。
非常感谢所有网友的回复。其中不少网友对我们 negotiate spousal hire 十分不理解
，这里解释一下。下面是关于 spousal hire 的一个比较好的博客和 斯坦福关于这个
事情的报告。有兴趣的可以看一下。总的来说，现在 dual career couple 越来越多，
很多学校已经意识到这个问题，然后有些相对的政策。比如说，有些学校有非常确定的
对spousal hire 的规定，一般有三方分担工资，这个博客里有，有些学校的网站上也
有。不过这个政策都是 case by case，每个学校不一样。
之前出问题我们觉得主要是沟通不够，应该有我 LD 提出是否能安排一个 visit。 至
于提出这个要求，我们咨询过很多人，包括在那个学校成功拿到 spousal hiring 的
人，他们都觉得我们的要求非常合理。
以后有了结果会跟大家汇报。
http://theprofessorisin.com/2011/12/15/2036/
http://gender.stanford.edu/dual-career-research-report |
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c********i
发帖数: 1489 | 2 现在的坑真是越来越没水平连我老都看不下去了。
在美国绝大部分州，基本上所有的annuity plan, retirement plan, pension plan 默
认的财产继承人都是配偶占100%, 子女没份，父母更是靠边站。如果不是的话，配偶需
要签字认同其它任何形式的分配, 并且此配偶签名需要公证。 This is what we call
"Spousal consent".
Life insurance属于个人权利可以不需要spousal consent随便designate beneficiary.
典型的条文形式如下，
401k Plan BENEFICIARY DESIGNATION
SPOUSAL CONSENT SECTION
If you are married and your beneficiary is someone other than your spouse,
then your spouse must sign and date this form as indicated below, and the
signature must be not |
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l****z
发帖数: 29846 | 3 amacare: Companies Dumping Spousal Coverage, Forcing Employees to Pay for
Children »
According to a report on Tuesday from the Pittsburgh Tribune, companies are
now compensating for Obamacare costs by throwing coverage options away for
spouses who work. Those employees who wish their working spouses to join
their health insurance plan will be charged extra cash. Employees are also
being forced to pay full price for children’s health insurance.
Because Obamacare does not dictate that family ... 阅读全帖 |
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d******u
发帖数: 44 | 4 spousal hire不是不可以，相反是相当普遍的。但是你们的错误在于不应该那么pushy
，而且全程应该你ld出马和chair谈判，不应该牵涉到任何别的人（包括你，包括
search committee），甚至不应该和dean直接对话，应该让chair帮你们争取和dean谈。
正确的流程应该是：
- 你Ld告诉chair你们有spousal hire的要求/请求
- chair看你的resume（你ld发给他）
- chair和dean谈，同时看学校里那个系和你背景match
- 和dean商量过以后去和你match的系谈，看他们是否对你有兴趣
- 如果对你有兴趣，才会邀请你phone interview，进一步onsite，这才是你介入的开始
- onsite以后如果觉得你不错，和你match的系和你ld的系开始谈判，这里没你ld和你
什么事
- 如果顺利的话，一般来说你的工资会由三方出：你的系，你ld的系，学校
- 是否能有tenure track offer完全取决于你的实力，你ld的实力，还有运气
这个时候tricky的事情是你ld是否要在你尘埃落定之前接受她的offer。... 阅读全帖 |
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k****a
发帖数: 4944 | 5 汽车保险中若没买Supplemental Spousal Liability Coverage (SSL)的话：
是说开车人犯错出事故的情况下，开车人的spouse在事故中得不到赔偿吗？
另其他家庭成员可以得到赔偿吗？
谢谢！ |
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m******k
发帖数: 447 | 6 有两个助理教授的聘书，都没提配偶解决工作的问题。一个在乡村环境的大学镇，一个
是小城市的州立大学。据解释，配偶工作问题都是去了之后同事动用非正式的人际关系
帮解决的
这里有拿到spousal employment的吗？ |
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c*****m
发帖数: 2191 | 7 包括在那个学校成功拿到 spousal hiring 的
人，他们都觉得我们的要求非常合理。
是同一个dean吗？ |
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d***a
发帖数: 13752 | 8 Spousal hiring是case by case。别人能做到的，你不一定能做到，要看实力，也要看
机遇。 |
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d*******g
发帖数: 208 | 9 大家不是对你们negotiate spousal hire不理解。正相反，现在是最好negotiate的时
机。大家只是觉得你们太aggressive了。还有，你们是哪行的？你要对自己的水平有一
个客观的评估，要比你要去的系的最近的hire的水准相同，甚至更高，才能negotiate
TT position。（当然，要是你LD是superstar，几大Ivy都哭着哀求她去，那你的水平
低一些也无妨）。 |
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m*******e
发帖数: 296 | 10 there is nothing wrong with spousal hiring. it is a common practice today in
many universities. The key is how to handle this. |
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d******u
发帖数: 44 | 11 忘了说了，spousal hire能否成功，还取决于你要面试的系和你ld的系是什么关系，谁
更强。如果两个系半点关系没有，一般来说成功的机会不大，因为两个系没啥可以交换
的。如果有很大的关系，而且你ld的系排名更高更强，这个时候机会最大，因为你面试
的系总有求到你ld的系的时候，这个时候资源交换就说的过去了。如果反过来就比较那
么难办了
pushy
谈。
开始 |
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d*******g
发帖数: 208 | 12 还有一点是千万不能低估开一个TT position的难度，尤其如果你和你LD不在一个系。
除了你的水平（比系里的recent hire如何），还有方向。一般系里总有几大山头，比
如化学系有无机，有机，分析，理论，实验等，每个position，每个hiring plan 都是
各个山头谈判平衡的结果。你突然间出现，非你field的人会觉得，招了你会不会下次
系里从dean那里拿不到position了，那他的field怎么办。即使是在你的field的人，也
会考虑如果招了你，是不是不能再招其他人了，你比他们能在open search上能招到的
人的水平如何。归根结底，每个TT position都需要学校投入大量资源，而每个系能拿
到的position是有限的，招了你很可能就少了一个position，所以spousal hire 是非
常不容易的. 有一个情况是系里很愿意招的， 就是Dean保证招你不占用系里hiring
plan 的名额。 不过肯做这种保证的dean极其少。在Lz来说，dean已经叫他们考虑soft
money position，就是说他没有TT position，肯定不会... 阅读全帖 |
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b******h
发帖数: 2732 | 13 lz你好像并没认识到你跟你ld的错误，前面的帖里也很多人指出了，你们的问题不在于
你们试图negotiate spousal hire，而是你们negotiate的方式方法不对，太pushy太
aggressive。
你提供的两个link，如果是为版上的后来人造福，很好；但我看好像你想用这两个link
来justify你们的做法，那我要说你大错特错了。你提供的第二个link，audience是
universities，我就不多说了；你提供的第一个link那个blog，讲的也很清楚了：
“The spouse needs to be personable and agreeable, and should take every
opportunity to appear a potential asset to the institution. I speak from
personal experience here with my ex-husband, but a crabby, negative spouse
who resents being characterized a... 阅读全帖 |
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s*******3
发帖数: 27 | 14 由于短期内没法找到spousal hiring的职位，
学校同意给配偶提供6个月的资助，同时让自己找工作。
学校催着签offer，否则就找第二候选人。
是否应让学校继续帮助找工作，并写入合同。
这样要求合适不？请过来人指点。 |
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发帖数: 1 | 15 嗯，这是个很正常的要求。但是要注意，不能让人觉得double hire是必要条件。
如果你是一个很strong的candidate，可以强力要求。但这个可能会有负面效果。
有很多学校对double hire有压力。其原因是好多教授来了之后过2-3年因为spouse找不
到工作跳槽去别的地方。因为找新教授是一个头疼的事情，所以有些学校如果觉得这个
人有可能因为spousal hire问题跳槽的话，干脆去找下一个没有double hire问题的
candidate。 |
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p******n
发帖数: 176 | 16 骑驴找马 - 房顶和文章就不说了， 最重要的是match， 还有和系里现在的faculty之
间chemistry. 有人强推固然重要，但是没人特别讨厌你更关键。
spousal hire - 我是面试一开始就提出了，大家都没有惊喜或者惊吓，节约很多时间
。系里的senior faculty 支持很重要。
除非super star, 运气真的是决定一切的关键。成功了也别妄自尊大，失败了也不要妄
自菲薄。人生很长，坚持做自己喜欢的。 |
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s**s
发帖数: 260 | 17
spousal
For those born on or after January 2, 1954, when you file for benefits you
will be automatically filing for all benefits you are eligible for and will
be given the higher of your own or a spousal benefit. If your spouse has not
filed yet, you will not be eligible for a spousal, so you will be given
your own. When your spouse files, if you are owed an additional amount
because the spousal benefit is larger than your own, this additional amount
will automatically be given to you.
这个还是要保留一... 阅读全帖 |
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w*****m
发帖数: 21 | 18 Just want to clarify a few misconceptions.
A lot of people thought that husband needed split his asset and provide
spousal support indefinitely in US. It is not the case in most states.
In most states, spousal support is limited. If the marriage is short (i.e
less than 3 years), there is usually no support. Even for long marriage,
spousal support is limited to less than half of the number of years married.
In some states, for example, TX, spousal support is limited to 3 years. Of
course, MA is o |
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w*****m
发帖数: 21 | 19 Just want to clarify a few misconceptions.
A lot of people thought that husband needed split his asset and provide
spousal support indefinitely in US. It is not the case in most states.
In most states, spousal support is limited. If the marriage is short
(i.e
less than 3 years), there is usually no support. Even for long marriage,
spousal support is limited to less than half of the number of years
married.
In some states, for example, TX, spousal support is limited to 3 years.
Of
course, MA is o |
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w*****m
发帖数: 21 | 20 Just want to clarify a few misconceptions.
A lot of people thought that husband needed split his asset and provide
spousal support indefinitely in US. It is not the case in most states.
In most states, spousal support is limited. If the marriage is short (i.e
less than 3 years), there is usually no support. Even for long marriage,
spousal support is limited to less than half of the number of years married.
In some states, for example, TX, spousal support is limited to 3 years. Of
course, MA is o |
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d********e
发帖数: 2221 | 21 Spousal testimonial privilege (also called spousal incompetency and spousal
immunity) protects the individual holding the privilege from being called to
testify by the prosecution against his spouse/the defendant.
一般情况下B必须出庭，但是当庭可以 invoke spousal privilege.这些事听你自己的
律师。不要依赖这个版上的建议。 |
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o****y
发帖数: 790 | 22 For educational purpose only, don't try it at home:)
=================================
Spousal Support (Alimony) Basics
When a married couple gets a divorce, the court may award "alimony" or
spousal support to one of the former spouses, based either on an agreement
between the couple or a decision by the court itself. Following is a
discussion of the basics of alimony and spousal support.
Why Alimony?
The purpose of alimony is to limit any unfair economic effects of a divorce
by providing a cont |
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l***q
发帖数: 235 | 23 在网上搜了一大堆资料，大致的意思是所谓的"spousal Roth IRA"其实和"Roth IRA"的
政策是一样的。所以也有所谓的spousal Roth backdoor。
觉得现在应该还可以backdoor 2015年的spousal Roth. |
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d******w
发帖数: 2213 | 24 “Spousal Testimony Privilege
Historically, the spousal testimony privilege allowed a spouse in a criminal
trial to deny his spouse from testifying against him. But many states, and
the U.S. Supreme Court, now hold that the spouse who might act as a witness
is the one who holds the power to testify or not.”
即使是在美国，大多数情况下，如果谷愿意作证，那么她就可以作为证人的，薄不能拒
绝。
“Marital Communications Privilege
Unlike the spousal testimony privilege, this privilege lasts long after the
marriage is over -- but it only applies ... 阅读全帖 |
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P*g
发帖数: 274 | 25 Interesting read at
http://www.divorcesupport.com/divorce/Oregon-Spousal-Support-
Maintenance-Alimony-Factors-705.html
Totally 3 different kinds of spousal support.
Some looking at factors like "earning capacity", so doesn't really matter if
you take the $1K job or not.
Some else looking at factors like "financial needs and resources", so it
might be impacted by your future income, although $1K might be too little
to make much difference.
In summary, you still need legal counsel for what kind/ho... 阅读全帖 |
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T*******k
发帖数: 2046 | 26 其实我还没把整集看完，不过DOMA部分应该差不多看完了
大概就是一家在线报税公司因为报税欺诈被起诉，公司的CEO和CFO被列为共同起诉对象
。控方无法用CEO和他老婆的电话录音作为证据，因为所谓的spousal privilege，不幸
的是CFO是个gay，在vermont注册结婚的，然后他和他老公的电话录音能不能受spousal
privilege保护就是一个有争议的问题——DOMA
这时候，一个牛B大律师乱入了，要求主导CFO的辩护，原因是牛B大律师的gay哥哥临死
前的遗愿就是打倒DOMA!(顺便说一句，他哥死于AIDS)
牛B大律师希望把这个案子办成一个将来在反DOMA诉讼过程中可以援引的案例（我的理
解）
不幸的是，一轮关于同性恋婚姻和异性恋婚姻谁更混乱的交锋之后，法官还是判CFO
gay couple不受spousal privilege的保护，援引DOMA
然后，主角发现牛B大律师开始把CFO往沟里带——他希望CFO输掉这场官司，然后上诉
到最高法院……
下面请cuisine补充 |
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u********w
发帖数: 599 | 27 你满脑子就是猪粪，还说别人是猪脑子。按照你引用的两千年前的法律，你妈婚前跟你
爸睡觉，要坐猪笼沉江的。你大义灭亲自己动手吧。
号称在美国受的教育，不知道spousal immunity？不知道marital confidences
privilege and the spousal testimonial privilege这码事？
the |
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g*********r
发帖数: 9366 | 28 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
swordsman (御前带屌护卫) 于 (Mon Jan 2 23:59:44 2012, 美东) 提到:
当年克林顿与莱温斯基的拉链门事件，其实大家都知道他们两个是怎么回事，而问题的
关键也不在克林顿是否与莱温斯基有染，而是在于克林顿作为美国总统是否对公众撒谎
了，因为他说他没有同莱温斯基发生性关系，而最后他的律师也找到法律条文说BJ不算
是发生性关系，最后克林顿得以过关。
方舟子的老婆刘菊花涉嫌硕士论文抄袭这个事其实跟拉链门是一个道理的，刘菊花的论
文抄没抄袭，大家都知道是怎么回事，但是其实没人关心刘菊花是否抄袭，包括攻击刘
菊花的人也不关心抄袭这个事。同拉链门一样，问题的关键在于，方舟子是否使用了双
重标准？
坑挖到这里，俺当然要说说方舟子是否使用了双重标准。
俺的看法是：方舟子在判断是否抄袭上使用了双重标准，但是在打假上没使用双重标准。
说他在判断抄袭上使用了双重标准，因为很明显，他判断自己老婆是否抄袭时，用的标
准同他判断朱学勤、周峰森时是不同的。
说他打假时没有使用双重标准，那是因... 阅读全帖 |
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z****g
发帖数: 3509 | 29 中国法律不确定，但你关于美国法律的陈述是不准确的。
刑事被告可以选择plead the fifth（第五修正案，不得被迫自证其罪），完全不上证
人席。但如果刑事被告选择上证人席为自己辩护，则放弃了第五修正案下的权利，而必
须回答控方所有问题。
如果证人处于法庭的subpoena power之内，被法庭subpoena而不作证可以导致被判藐视
法庭。特例是如果回答某些特定问题会导致证人自己被牵涉进刑事犯罪，则证人可以选
择在这些问题上plead the fifth拒绝回答。
美国警察逮捕、拘留嫌疑人需要probable cause，另外拘留有期限限制。区别是美国嫌
疑人有宪法第五、第六修正案下保持沉默，和要求律师在场的权利。警察必须通过
miranda warning告知嫌疑人这些权利。违法嫌疑人的宪制权利所获得的口供不能作为
证据。
不管与罪犯是什么关系，窝藏罪犯(协助嫌疑犯逃避警方追捕)在美国同样是犯罪，详
见accessory after the fact.
回答原帖的问题。
1)大多数情况下任何人（当然包括夫妻或父母子女）都没有检举的法定义务。不提供帮
助就没有罪。
2)是否存在... 阅读全帖 |
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b*****d
发帖数: 61690 | 30 美帝还是挺复杂的.
Under U.S. federal common law, the spousal testimonial privilege is held by
the witness-spouse, not the party-spouse, and therefore does not prevent a
spouse who wishes to testify from doing so.[3] The rationale of this rule is
that if a witness-spouse desires to testify against the party-spouse, there
is no marital harmony left to protect through the obstruction of such
testimony. This common law principle is the view in a minority of U.S.
states. A majority of U.S. jurisdictions, how... 阅读全帖 |
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z****g
发帖数: 3509 | 31 No，privilege是属于被告的（如果你在承认神职人员和心理医生privilege的
jurisdiction，其实更普遍的privilege不是这两个，而是spousal privilege和
attorney-client privilege），不是属于神职人员或心理医生的。被告可以说我waive
这个privilege，同意我的牧师或心理医生来作证，那他们就可以来作证，法庭也可以
强迫他们来作证。法庭不能强迫被告waive这个privilege，在被告没有waive
privilege的情况下神职人员或心理医生自己愿意作证也不行，不会被法庭接纳。
另外spousal privilege和其它privilege又有些不同，因为其是被告自己和被告spouse
分别拥有的各一个privilege的统称，两个privilege拥有者不同，保护范围也不同，在
此不展开。 |
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l****z
发帖数: 29846 | 32 Wednesday, 18 Jul 2012 08:05 PM
By Patrick Hobin
Democrats shouting the loudest about Mitt Romney’s reluctance to release
his tax returns do not apply the same standards to themselves, according to
a McClatchy News Service report.
Rep. Nancy Pelosi of California and Sen. Harry Reid of Nevada, the two
Democratic leaders of the Senate and the House of Representatives, are among
hundreds of elected officials from both parties who refused to release
their tax records, McClatchy reported.
Pelosi said... 阅读全帖 |
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l****z
发帖数: 29846 | 33 On Thursday, May 15, Sudanese Christian Meriam Yahya Ibrahim, 27, was
sentenced to death by hanging for the crime of apostasy.
Ibrahim, a physician who graduated from the University of Khartoum Medical
School, refused to renounce her Christian faith. The Islamist Khartoum
regime claims that Ibrahim is a Muslim because her father, who abandoned the
family when she was six years old, was a Muslim. Ibrahim, however, embraced
for herself the faith of her Ethiopian Orthodox Christian mother.
Independ... 阅读全帖 |
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j*********r
发帖数: 24733 | 34 Democrat Archie Parnell wins in South Carolina despite spousal abuse
accusations in divorce records
A Democratic candidate for a U.S. House seat in South Carolina won the party
’s primary Tuesday despite accusations that he violently abused his wife
decades ago.
Archie Parnell received enough votes to secure his party’s nomination and
will face off in November's general election against incumbent U.S. Rep.
Ralph Norman – a Republican who defeated Parnell by 3 percentage points in
a special elect... 阅读全帖 |
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c******n
发帖数: 5697 | 35 不正确，再去看看我的贴吧
你不可以撒谎，但完全可以不合作，不提供驾驶人的身份，但是说出“spousal
privilege”就很白痴了，那就是指明是你老公
我早说过protection against spousal incrimination 不完全有用，如果prosecutor
发怒了，完全可以只让警察指认她丈夫以此作为有效证词，这看情节有多严重
所以直接抖出她丈夫就是个白痴的做法
，门都没有！
：“The spouse privilege gives
privilege) is a form of privileged
between a married couple. This
not compel one spouse to testify |
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r*********r
发帖数: 839 | 36 你的这个律师胡说，如果是你的律师，你可以告他malpractice。
spousal privilege 只是用于刑事案件。
spousal confidential 只限于夫妻间的对话。
所以，要上庭，如果法院问你知不知道为什么有人用你的驾照，是谁？你回答no，就是
撒谎了。撒谎本身就是contempt。
，门都没有！
：“The spouse privilege gives
privilege) is a form of privileged
between a married couple. This
not compel one spouse to testify |
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t******g
发帖数: 84 | 37 Thanks.
系主任电话告诉我offer的时候，我最后说我需要一点时间跟家人商量一下，结果她直
接问我 "is there anything we should know about your family?"， 我犹豫了一下
，就说出LD也快毕业了，能不能顺带弄个spousal hire。
我也问了一下summer support，她说没有，我就算了。没有把summer support当作要求
提出来。主要觉得spousal hire这个要求太大，自己也没有其他leverage，就没敢提其
他要求。现在想想，当时应该一并提出来。拿到offer后，我会和我老板商量一下。
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c********y
发帖数: 83 | 38 快疯了，特别不想在现在的地方呆下去，可是我自己也没什么能耐，即使有，也不可能
离开老公自己带着孩子去别的地方从新开始tenure track的ap职业。可是，我又不敢给
老公出主意／或者说怕自己给他出的主意是错的。毕竟拖家带口一旦错了，孩子也受到
影响 （听说这里的高中，唯一的高中不错。）请大家看完我下面的详细解释，给我出
个主意。
我跟老公都是文科phd。我放弃tenure track的教职，跟随老公来到这个偏远乡村，原
因是他这个大学比我的好，而且有spousal hire。 当初放弃自己的职位也是为了孩子
，两个孩子还小（上小学）。跟着到了这个地方有个spousal hire的职位。我每天都压
力很大，也许是自己的问题。几乎每天都想离开这里。每天晚上我就没完没了地看job
posts，有适合自己的就看了又看，在网上调查了又调查那个地方的情况，做一晚上美
梦，但是最终又不敢申请，原因就是怕自己带着孩子搞不好，而且大家看来也很奇怪：
本来在一起了，怎么又分开？问题是老公还有两年才能评tenure。希望比较大差不多能
评上。可是我恨透了这个地方。有时候想辞职，可是文科教职一个人工作挣的... 阅读全帖 |
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S*******1
发帖数: 251 | 39 第二个说错了？ 应该说SPOUSAL HIRE，不是HELP？
不过找不到就是不愿意去。 别人的SPOUSAL HIRE 是不是都是OFFER 签前给搞定啊？ |
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h*****l
发帖数: 3857 | 40 这里面在实际操作的时候是很灵活的，
1）很多学校都不傻，有的时候上来就问你有没有spousal hiring的问题，有的学校会
认真对待，有的学校就没有下文了。
2）白纸黑字最好是dean或者provost级别的，dean有的时候都不行，因为dean可以退休
，走人，后面的dean来了可以不认账
3）坚持spousal hire是的对的，但是不能威胁，有的时候create一个TTAP position给
spouse不是那么容易和快速的，很多politics。当然如果你手上很多offer，方向好，
可以硬气一点，关键是一个度。我看到很多先给spouse一个visiting professor，2年
内转TT的，其实这种我见的比直接两个TTAP的多，一般来说同时TTAP的两人的profile
都很强，性价比高，如果都很贵，或者系院politics一复杂了也很难解决。
实际操作很复杂，看你运气了，只能case by case |
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i****l
发帖数: 287 | 41 他建议entry level的faculty完全不要negotiate offer。。。以后可以再申请涨工资
。。。下面是他的逐条回复。难道我真的不应该negotiate，然后乖乖的签了offer去上
班？
1. If I want to negotiate on the offer, I should NOT sign the contract.
Instead, I should call or email them to negotiate. Did I understand it right
?
Right. But, I strongly advise you not to negotiate on the terms. It is a
convention that entry-level faculty should not negotiate the terms. These
days, it is SOOO difficult to get a tenure-track faculty job. You are SOOO
lucky. Do not r... 阅读全帖 |
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i****l
发帖数: 287 | 42 他建议entry level的faculty完全不要negotiate offer。。。以后可以再申请涨工资
。。。下面是他的逐条回复。难道我真的不应该negotiate，然后乖乖的签了offer去上
班？
1. If I want to negotiate on the offer, I should NOT sign the contract.
Instead, I should call or email them to negotiate. Did I understand it right
?
Right. But, I strongly advise you not to negotiate on the terms. It is a
convention that entry-level faculty should not negotiate the terms. These
days, it is SOOO difficult to get a tenure-track faculty job. You are SOOO
lucky. Do not r... 阅读全帖 |
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s******s
发帖数: 48 | 43 转：
下面是网上搜来的关于california divorce law.
"I have committed adultery. Will my spouse get the lion's share of
everything, including property and higher-than-usual child support or
spousal support?"
In a nutshell, adultery is a non-issue in California divorce law and, as an
act, is totally irrelevant to the division of property, child support and
spousal support, and custody issues -- except in very, very narrow
circumstances. The only time adultery comes into play is if the act is
committed in front o |
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m****g
发帖数: 69 | 44 协议已签 如下：
Agreement
This agreement is reached between 男方 and 女方, husband and wife. Before
entering the marriage, the parties agreed to keep their financial fairs
totally separate from each other during the marriage, and all household
expenses during the marriage shall be equally shared.
男方 and 女方 agree to sign this agreement because 1) 女方 just purchased a
property at 女方新购的房子, 2) 男方 has no intent to move in with 女方 to
this new location at 女方新购的房子 and is planning to move out of their
current res... 阅读全帖 |
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n*********s
发帖数: 552 | 45 re这个。有关spousal support怎么给法不是很清楚，但前面有位说的现在全美国都没
有spousal support这个东西我还真没听说过，要打个问号。不过这个不要紧，两个孩
子都跟妈的话，child support也够你们一大人俩小孩生活了，不过可能紧张些。有一
些替低收入者免费提供法律援助的地方，还有volunteer 律师，尽管放狗搜，多打电话
问。孩子不跟着妈得多可怜，谁说没能力抚养就归对方抚养？就为了孩子你也得撑住。
不过依我看，mm能忍着就忍忍吧，坐完月子再离不行吗？一个孕妇，你这么physially
and mentally折腾，肚子里的宝宝也得折腾啊。 |
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m******g
发帖数: 1103 | 46 this is what I find:
"Social Security provides a spousal benefit, so a stay-at-home mom who never
enters the workforce will receive fifty percent of the benefit generated by
her husband's earning history. Working wives, in contrast, get a much worse
deal. They get either the higher of the two--the spousal benefit or a
benefit based on their own earnings history--which means that many working
moms get no additional benefits for their years of work and taxes.
"
this is the advantage being a stay a... 阅读全帖 |
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m*********t
发帖数: 1250 | 47 直接上Fidelity的原文：
http://personal.fidelity.com/planning/tax/content/taxform_5498o
l
Nonworking spouses can contribute, too
Even if your spouse has little or no earned income, he or she may still be a
ble to contribute to a spousal IRA—either a Traditional or a Roth IRA. To c
ontribute, you must file a joint federal income tax return and have taxable
compensation equal to or greater than the total amount contributed by both s
pouses. As with other IRAs, spousal IRAs offer benefits, including the hi... 阅读全帖 |
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m*********t
发帖数: 1250 | 48 直接上Fidelity的原文：
http://personal.fidelity.com/planning/tax/content/taxform_5498o
l
Nonworking spouses can contribute, too
Even if your spouse has little or no earned income, he or she may still be a
ble to contribute to a spousal IRA—either a Traditional or a Roth IRA. To c
ontribute, you must file a joint federal income tax return and have taxable
compensation equal to or greater than the total amount contributed by both s
pouses. As with other IRAs, spousal IRAs offer benefits, including the hi... 阅读全帖 |
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w***s
发帖数: 15642 | 49 Section 29 USC 2612(f) specifically limits the total aggregate number of
workweeks of leave to which an “eligible” husband and wife are both
entitled to if they work for the same employer. This “spousal limitation”
provides that a combined total of 12 workweeks of FMLA leave may be taken
between the two for the birth or adoption or foster care placement of a
child or to care for a sick parent. The “spousal limitation” does not
apply to husbands and their wives, however, if the reason for leave i... 阅读全帖 |
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c********y
发帖数: 83 | 50 我知道这里有很多爸爸妈妈，我也是个妈妈，而且是两个孩子的妈妈，怎么觉得自己就
跟没长大一样，总是有这么多为自己的烦恼？把我在faculty写的帖子放这儿，大家
批评，建议都好。多谢！
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快疯了，特别不想在现在的地方呆下去，可是我自己也没什么能耐，即使有，也不可能
离开老公自己带着孩子去别的地方从新开始tenure track的ap职业。可是，我又不敢给
老公出主意／或者说怕自己给他出的主意是错的。毕竟拖家带口一旦错了，孩子也受到
影响 （听说这里的高中，唯一的高中不错。）请大家看完我下面的详细解释，给我出
个主意。
我跟老公都是文科phd。我放弃tenure track的教职，跟随老公来到这个偏远乡村，原
因是他这个大学比我的好，而且有spousal hire。 当初放弃自己的职位也是为了孩子
，两个孩子还小（上小学）。跟着到了这个地方有个spousal hire的职位。我每天都压
力很大，也许是自己的问题。几乎每天都想离开这里。每天晚上我就没完没了地看job
posts，有适合自己的就看了又看，在网上调查了又调查那个地方的情况，做一晚上美
梦，但是最... 阅读全帖 |
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